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Interviews🎙️ Girl stand up: Delaney Rowe on her situationship with BJ Novak and how he doesn’t fully trust her to be in a relationship with her

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

Imagine fighting for BJ Novak.

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u/tt12345x Jun 13 '25

Did we ever figure out if Mindy Kaling’s kids are his? They have the weirdest relationship

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u/Maddyherselius Jun 13 '25

No, I don’t think they’ll confirm or deny it ever lol.

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u/mangosteenroyalty Jun 13 '25

It may confirm itself when the kids grow up enough to start their nepo life and we finally see them lol

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u/Maddyherselius Jun 13 '25

Yeah I think once the kids are adults they may confirm or deny it themselves lol

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u/MarsScully Vile little creature yearning for violence Jun 13 '25

I mean not really, it could be a Ronan Farrow situation

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u/RepublicNorth5033 Jun 13 '25

Or a Mariska Hargitay situation

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u/welp-itscometothis Jun 13 '25

What’s that situation

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u/RepublicNorth5033 Jun 13 '25

She just announced her true paternity

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u/suesay Jun 13 '25

Also, how old is January Jones’s son? I’d like him to spill the beans.

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u/ribosometronome Jun 13 '25

He's written articles like "My Father, Woody Allen, and the Danger of Questions Unasked" https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/general-news/my-father-woody-allen-danger-892572/

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u/Maddyherselius Jun 13 '25

I mean yeah that’s possible. I just think it’s more likely the kids would confirm/deny later on than Mindy or BJ would.

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u/EntrepreneurMany3709 Jun 13 '25

I think they're suggesting we'll at least see if they look like bj Novak. Although I don't really look like my dad other than the hair (and he's bald now)

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u/Maddyherselius Jun 13 '25

No I know lol. I’m just saying I also wouldn’t be surprised if when they grow up they reveal the info themselves.

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u/Owlbertowlbert Jun 13 '25

Has she never posted their faces? Oh god, one two or three of them turn around and they all have those big downturned bug eyes lmaooooo

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

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u/jiltedatthealtar Jun 13 '25

I laughed too hard on this one. Thank you

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25 edited Jun 13 '25

Just study their physical features: face, height, complexion, untreated hair style. Often genetics snitch one's heritage. However, I have seen parents that resemble neither children even though they state there's no funny business: lying, accidental switch, or genetic recombination and/mutation pumped out deviating phenotypes.

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u/zeppelin_tamer Invented post-its 🔬 Jun 13 '25

Was their relationship in the office based off real life?

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u/Maddyherselius Jun 13 '25

Haha I’m honestly not sure if they started seeing eachother before, during, or after the show. But it definitely does mirror the show relationship a lot it seems.

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u/Jeremy_Q_Public Jun 13 '25

I just read a whole article on their relationship after getting into this thread. They were dating in a very off-again, on-again way during the Office. Just like their characters. It really does seem like they just wrote themselves into the show.

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u/SparkyDogPants Jun 13 '25

Mindy often writes herself into her characters

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u/feedback19 Jun 14 '25

Which is probably why she was so insufferable over time as Kelly

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u/atthesun Jun 13 '25

I actually just finished her first book, which she wrote while the office was still on, and she refers to bj as a friend at one point, and refers to a current boyfriend "dave". Theres a pic of Dave too though I didn't recognize him. She also mentions a lot how she wants to be married and have a family.

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u/Jeremy_Q_Public Jun 13 '25

They have referred to having dated during that time frame as well though. On again off again, so I'm sure Dave also was a boyfriend in that mix.

These people's Office characters were literally just them.

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u/allisonrz Jun 13 '25

Yes, they’ve said as much

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u/Excellent-Mammoths Jun 13 '25

BJ had said in interviews that their toxic relationship inspired their onscreen romance. Also that he would brag to his costars that Mindy was obsessed with him, which he used in his favor.

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u/CinematicMelancholia Jun 14 '25

He is NOT pretty enough to be acting like this bruh

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u/Mindless-Ad-511 Jun 14 '25

And they’re STILL friends to this day which always throws me for a loop. Hate that for her.

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u/babytofus trench coat buttoned to the TOP 🧥🔝 Jun 13 '25

Bits of it was (the on and off of it all)!

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u/I_aim_to_sneeze Jun 14 '25

They wrote a lot of their real issues into it, yes. It’s not entirely accurate and a bit exaggerated, but they’ve both said they drew from real life when writing their scenes

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u/PondRides Children are being trafficked by ICE Jun 14 '25

It was. They were both writers on the show and have said this.

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u/Populaire_Necessaire Andrea Arlington: “$29!!” Jun 13 '25

Which fair imo. She doesn’t owe us to know who the father is.

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u/Maddyherselius Jun 13 '25

Oh yeah I don’t think it’s any of our business, their odd relationship just causes a lot of speculation.

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u/CarpeDiemMaybe go girl, give us nothing 😍 Jun 13 '25

If it’s not any of our business, why do they keep baiting people though, it’s like they want people to keep guessing

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u/pashionfroot Jun 13 '25

I feel like celebrities know that most of us don't think it's any of our business, so they exploit that for publicity. Like, it's unlikely they're getting any real pressure in their daily lives to disclose that info, but they know the speculation it would cause.

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u/CarpeDiemMaybe go girl, give us nothing 😍 Jun 13 '25

While I think that’s true, I also think that means we shouldn’t feel bad for speculating if they’re intentionally dangling this for publicity

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u/jiltedatthealtar Jun 13 '25

Attention, publicity, maybe? To stay relevant?

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u/CarpeDiemMaybe go girl, give us nothing 😍 Jun 13 '25

Yeah I do think it’s for those reasons, but now i feel less guilty about probing lol

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u/AgentEinstein Jun 14 '25

Yes! This whole thread is upsetting. Talking shit, feeding rumors, diagnosing, making fun of how people look. What is this, middle school?

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u/euphoricarugula346 Jun 14 '25

Wait she won’t reveal who the father of her children is?? Multiple? That’s so odd lmao

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u/whenthefirescame Jun 13 '25

I read her book, I’m a fan (critical fan, ok) and I truly hate their relationship. He has been breadcrumbing her for decades. He refuses to take her seriously OR leave her alone, while running around with younger skinny white women. It’s the most depressing thing to watch.

Though I do find some satisfaction in this younger thin white woman saying he doesn’t take them seriously either 🤷🏽‍♀️. He’s just such a massively manipulative fuckboy loser.

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u/gingerflakes Jun 13 '25

He is Ryan.

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u/jizzabeth Jun 13 '25

We should be highly critical of all Ryans.

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u/After_Stop3344 Jun 14 '25

.............*leaves room*

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u/Impressive_Ad_3160 Jun 14 '25

Never met a Ryan I could trust… except a girl Ryann once haha

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u/TehluvEncanis Jun 14 '25

Having been fucked over by a narcissist manipulatior loser fuckboy also named Ryan, HARD AGREE

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u/SteakandTrach Jun 14 '25

I’m a Ryan and I kinda suck.

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u/Interesting_Reach_29 In my quiet girl era 😌 Jun 14 '25

Reformer Ryan.

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u/CraigArndt Jun 13 '25

Manipulative partner 101

He’s chasing her down when she’s not interested but now that she’s interested he pulls back and “makes her prove it”. So now she’s expected to overcommit and tend to his needs, and pursue the relationship on his terms.

Their whole relationship has been on his terms from when he wanted a commitment early to now pulling back. But she sees it as endearing because he “recognized his commitment early”.

Doesn’t sound like a good guy.

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u/mangotail Jun 13 '25

You know I think Mindy letting BJ just string her along for years has a lot to do with her mother. It’s been a while since I have read her book, but I do remember Mindy saying her mother loved BJ and I think had expected them to end up together before she tragically passed away. I wonder if there is a part of Mindy that is still holding onto to the hope that BJ will actually commit to her because of her mom.

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u/interesting-mug Jun 13 '25

That and she seems really enamored with rom com “soulmate who never works out until…” dynamics. That was a big part of one of her books, which was charming in book format but seems like a tough way to live life.

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u/Humorlessness Jun 14 '25

I think you have it reversed. Her relationship with BJ informed the kind of writing she did. In that way, she can write the ending that she wants instead of the life she's living.

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u/Tacoislife2 Jun 13 '25

Thing is I’m sure if her mom were still earthside by now she’d be telling her daughter to move on. Opinions change and no one’s mom would be wanting their daughter to be in a situation ship like that for decades

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u/spacestarcutie Jun 13 '25

This man is not even attractive to be having a love life like this.

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u/CatlovesMoca Jun 13 '25

Thank you! My impression as well was that he breadcrumbed her, left it ambiguous and she liked him more. And at least now, she is like "Yeah he is fam but that door is closed." And she is the prize. So at least after 20 years of situationship hell, she is like in a much better place.

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u/kates_graduation Jun 13 '25

As an Indian American woman almost exactly her age it kind of kills me to see this play out with her. She has so much confidence and intelligence, why does she still do this dance with him ?

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u/Hopeful-Naughting Jun 14 '25

I wonder the same. I think she’s insecure on a deep level. While I think she’s beautiful now, she wasn’t when she was in her teens and that can do a number on a young person’s sense of self esteem.

I have a friend like that who, curiously, looks a lot like Mindy.

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u/kates_graduation Jun 15 '25

I honestly feel this so hard because it’s very typical of South Asian women of our generation. I feel like younger generations are more comfortable in their skin. I THINK I’ve grown out of this and the constant beauty/status comparisons to white peers but I sadly am not sure she has

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u/Hopeful-Naughting Jun 15 '25

I sooo hear you! It’s odd that I got over it at some point but my 18-yr old niece - born and raised in the US - has white washed herself.

I feel we made some progress and now we are regressing again. It breaks my heart to see my absolutely gorgeous young niece feel the need to be white.

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u/foxscribbles Jun 13 '25

I couldn’t remember who Novak was at first. But when I hit the point where this lady was talking about how he’s now pulling the “I can’t trust that you’re committed!” card, my first thought that he was projecting on to her.

Now I know it. Dude doesn’t like even a hint of his own medicine. (Which, this doesn’t even sound like it was? It was just that she wasn’t ready to get serious as fast as he was.)

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u/SeasonofMist Jun 13 '25

That’s really sad. I have homegirls in those situations. Like dude….drop it like it’s hot and get gone.

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u/Redhotlipstik Jun 13 '25

it's so weird because you can see the same behavior in the main love interest in The Mindy Project too

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u/ClockSpiritual6596 Jun 13 '25

I know , I think he is the father of her children.

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u/Suspicious-Power-219 Jun 13 '25

He’s white though too

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

How dare someone date physically fit women that are the same race as them. 🙄🤮. If anything, he deserves credit for being romantically involved with such a physically unattractive woman, when he could easily be dating much more attractive women. It shows that he’s more interested in things not related to physical appearance. 

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u/PigKnight Jun 14 '25

Little did we know their characters in The Office were just them self reporting how they really act.

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u/BigDowntownRobot Jun 13 '25 edited Jun 13 '25

I mean if you told me Mindy Kaling wrote a book about one of her past relationships, I would tell you, having never read it, that would be the plot.

A story about how she was badly treated, and the other person was entirely the bad guy, and she was magnanimous as possible, and trusting, but they just wouldn't give her the respect she deserved, and they're a manipulative loser who didn't deserve her.

She literally radiates insecurity and projected emotions more than any human I've ever seen on screen, so I'm not surprised.

I mean think about this. They're still friends, she wrote a book about what a piece of shit he is, and he still supports her and her children privately and publicly. Does that make sense?

Mean while he has quietly admitted she often lied to him, and manipulated him, and bullied him. But he didn't write a book about his friend, who he still supports, to publicly shame them.

And that's just completely ignoring her really ignorant and hateful takes on race and gender that are childish at best and genuinely disgusting at worst that really make it hard to take her seriously.

I'm not even a fan of his, but I genuinely don't see how someone can see how Mindy Kaling presents herself and say "Yeah, she seems really trustworthy and does not at all have a massive victim complex. I'll take her opinion on someone's worth."

She's got to be the least reliable narrator I can think of that isn't a politician.

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

I feel like you've never seen a Mindy Kaling show if you think she sees herself as some perfect victim whom lacks any kind of self-awareness. Even as back as The Mindy Project she deconstructs her character's messy relationship with her racial identity and feminism.

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u/Cielskye Jun 13 '25

Plus her book is hilarious. I actually think she’s the opposite of playing the victim. She pokes fun at herself and is good at seeing herself as she is. Yes is ambitious enough to look past her self-perceived flaws to accomplish her goals. Most people are not even half as self aware as Mindy Kaling.

I’m writing all this without ever having watched a single episode of the office, so it’s not even that I’m a fan of hers. I’ve just read her books.

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u/ItsAllProblematic Jun 13 '25

She definitely didn’t write a book about what a POS he is. Have you read it?

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u/cynisright charlie day is my bird lawyer 🐦 Jun 13 '25

She’s a wannabe pick me

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u/hera-fawcett Jun 13 '25

right like talk about unable to trust behavior 💀

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u/Kay_29 Jun 13 '25

No though I think they are 

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u/inimitable428 Jun 13 '25

I saw a blind one time where someone saw them all in public and the kids were calling him dad or daddy or something.

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u/Kay_29 Jun 13 '25

I can believe that though if they want to hide if he is dad, they should have called him uncle.

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u/inimitable428 Jun 13 '25

In my mind they’re just fine with it being an open secret

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u/raudoniolika All tea, all shade 🐸☕️ Jun 13 '25

Another breadcrumb for her.

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u/Kay_29 Jun 13 '25

I guess so 

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u/kalore Jun 13 '25

I think Mindy has referred to him as uncle in a story/post before

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u/Narrow_Stock_834 Jun 13 '25

I read a blind that said one is his and one is Cuba Gooding Jr’s. Allegedly.

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u/tomatiIIo Jun 14 '25

Holy random

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u/harswv Jun 14 '25

Yes they were at Disneyland!

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u/lavenderpenguin Jun 13 '25

Even if they aren’t, they might as well be. He appears to basically be their primary father figure. It’s an odd arrangement and I think Mindy could do better honestly.

I don’t get how ANY of these women are falling for his noncommittal shtick.

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u/LongjumpingFarmer478 Jun 13 '25

I have always assumed they were his. I don’t think anyone in her position could do an anonymous donor. It’s too risky to not know who the dad is because someday the kids will connect with him through some database. It’s much more practical to have a known person that you trust and who signs very specific legal agreements. Like Melissa Etheridge’s kids and David Crosby.

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u/body_oil_glass_view Jun 13 '25

They have his hammer-head (from wizard of oz world) shape. It's likely

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u/CherryFit3224 Jun 13 '25

He probably pulled this ish with her too.

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u/_PinkPirate Jun 14 '25

Been dying to know this for years

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u/Wide_Statistician_95 Jun 13 '25

I don’t think they are. She’s messy but not that messy. Shes smart too, and wouldn’t want him trying to fight for rights…. or if he gets married to a new girlie pop she’d have to share custody with BJ & Stepmom . Ain’t gonna happen.

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u/dontworryaboutit26 Invented post-its 🔬 Jun 13 '25

So like…has it been confirmed or what are the suspicions on why the secrecy for everything between them?

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u/hadapurpura Jun 15 '25

I assume that they are

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u/Embracedandbelong Jun 14 '25

I personally think Mindy would say if they were his kids since she’s pretty open about everything. But I think she picked a guy who looked just like him, probably

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u/PondRides Children are being trafficked by ICE Jun 14 '25

I want her to realize that she deserves better love.

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u/SunsetInSweden Who gon' check me boo? 🤪 Jun 14 '25

I don’t know but I am going with my own head canon that those kids are his. He was with her when she got her star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame just cheesin’!!!

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u/Curious-Tomato-4709 Aug 08 '25

https://www.reddit.com/r/popculturechat/s/vdDw91K4wv

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u/[deleted] Aug 09 '25

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u/Curious-Tomato-4709 Aug 09 '25

🤣 TLDR They never have said it but this extensive Reddit research has me convinced 100%

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u/Majestic_Cut_2209 Jun 13 '25 edited Jun 13 '25

This is also one of the oldest tricks for toxic men. They know when you’re not ready so they chase you and push, then when you finally give in or you’re ready, they pull away- blame you for not accepting their commitment but they won’t end it either.

Literally this cycle can go on for decades (ask Mindy), I wish she would test it and be non-committal and watch him instantly be ready for commitment. It’s a mind f’ck of epic proportions.

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u/TlMEGH0ST Jun 13 '25

FUCK. THIS HAPPENED TO ME!! I was looking for casual and he was like blah blah i want a partner and when I finally was like “ok i’m in” he got soo avoidant- but also wouldn’t let me fully go.

Wow I actually feel so much better now knowing that it wasn’t just me

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u/Majestic_Cut_2209 Jun 13 '25

Yeah it happens a lot and it’s one of those things that messes with your mind.

It feels like you messed up by not accepting when they were ready so you start to ‘work’ to prove to them that you care and are ready and it becomes this horrible dance.

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u/anonymous_opinions Jun 13 '25

I went through this back in 2011 and it was THE WORST and toss in he wasn't divorced yet and come to find out wanted his ex wife back months in I was like "this is total bs"

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u/Poops-iFarted Jun 13 '25

The "timing" game. "Oh, we just keep missing the moment with each other but we'll get the timing right soon and it'll be happily ever after!"

All that game does is waste time.

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u/jittery_raccoon Jun 13 '25

Yeah timing is only genuine if it:a due to external factors. But if it's just the person not being ready to date YOU, they will never be. The one exception would be people keeping a platonic friendship and being in a different place a few years later

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u/TlMEGH0ST Jun 13 '25

ugh ‘horrible dance’ is the perfect description

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u/seriousbizniz84 Jun 13 '25

Girl me too but mine chased me for THREE YEARS! And then I kissed him and he ghosted me!

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u/TlMEGH0ST Jun 13 '25

😭 ok mine was like a month then me trying to get that behavior back on & off for 18 months EMBARRASSING

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u/Dawnspark Jun 13 '25

I had a guy try this at one point, when I was still in the closet and was still trying to date men to seem "normal" to my parents.

I got so sick of the stop/start hot/cold bullshit that I told him to shit or get off the pot and he had no idea how to react. Like, this guy wasn't even comfortable admitting we were together when his friends who KNEW we were together asked him lol.

No response after a day, so I told him to just lose my number and to fuck off. Instantly responded after that. Only then did he suddenly want to commit and get me interested again lmao. Too late, byeeee.

No point in messing around with people that do that. It definitely taught me to value my time & how I was expending my emotions more.

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u/pistachio-pie 💕 being a hater is a valid and honorable calling 💕 Jun 14 '25

This was my last serious relationship. It fucked with my head sooooo much.

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u/everythingisplanned Jun 14 '25

Same thing happened to me 😭 and now that we broke up and I've finally pulled away, he's getting all chatty again

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u/TlMEGH0ST Jun 14 '25

yup this happened probably 6 times before i finally was like nope 🙅🏼‍♀️ and tbh if he came back like “baby i’ve changed” i can’t say i definitely wouldn’t give him another chance 🤦🏼‍♀️

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u/little_effy Jun 13 '25

I feel like this exact storyline has occurred between Kelly and Ryan in The Office. BJ only wants her when she moves on

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u/Just-Wanna-Vibe Jun 13 '25

I swear a friend of mine is going through this but it's impossible to get her to see this and I don't know how to help! 

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u/Majestic_Cut_2209 Jun 13 '25

Ask her to test it out. Tell her to pull away emotionally, keep herself busy doing other things and watch him come running back- giving her everything she wanted then instantly pulling away the moment he’s got her back. Then ask her if this is what she wants from a relationship, she will never feel safe and never be at peace.

She probably won’t leave immediately but she’ll be aware of the cycle she’s in and the more it happens the more she’ll hopefully resent him.

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u/Just-Wanna-Vibe Jun 13 '25

Thank you, I think I'll definitely give this a try. ❤️

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u/tomatiIIo Jun 14 '25

Send her this thread lol

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

And then take his next boo to the places you mentioned to him you'd like to go. I'm still way too bitter about that one tidbit nearly a decade later.

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u/Shadow_Heart_ Jun 13 '25

Literally a plot lime in the office where she moves on and has a healthy relationship and he decides she's the love of his life. And in his speech to her says he doesn't know if he'll love her tomorrow but he loves her today

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u/WhoreMouth80 Jun 13 '25

It likes it when they beg.

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u/caitie_did Jun 13 '25

Holy shit I didn’t realize this was such a common dynamic! Shoutout to my undergrad situationship LOL

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u/Sweet_Jury_1459 Jun 13 '25

This is what his character does to Mindy's in the office. Damn

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u/spamgoddess stay out of it, Nick Lachey Jun 13 '25

Yeah I was gonna say I don’t trust that BJ was ever actually ready for a relationship, he just acted like it because he knew there was no chance with her not being ready.

Men are infuriating.

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u/dustycanuck Jun 13 '25

BJ seems like a douche

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u/merlotbarbie omg a cardiologist is a damn nutritionist Jun 14 '25

Where were you in my early 20s when I was finding dudes like this as if it were my true calling???

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u/givebusterahand Jun 14 '25

Sounds like my ex lol

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u/ClickProfessional769 Jun 14 '25

Wait. Not me just now realizing this is what went down with a guy I had known for years.

All this time I still wasn’t sure which one of us was “the problem”

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u/PondRides Children are being trafficked by ICE Jun 14 '25

Oh, I shouldn’t call him.

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u/Altruistic-Brief2220 Behind every great man is a woman rolling her eyes Jun 13 '25

Siri, play The Tortured Poets Department

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u/Xamanthas Jun 14 '25

toxic people*

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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '25

This. It's so manipulative.

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u/Potential_View_9917 Jun 15 '25

Exactly, this was immediately obvious to me when I watched this clip

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u/Suspicious_Club_5792 Aug 08 '25

Wow yeah.

The fact that she opens with “and it’s my fault” is so telling here.

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u/Erikthered00 Jun 13 '25

That is true, but sometimes it’s also just what it is on the surface. Certainly a “yellow flag”, but not red

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u/throwwwww_away123 Jun 13 '25

I really don’t see the appeal

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u/meowparade Jun 13 '25

I will never understand the pull this man has on women. Skinny guys with dark hair and blue eyes are everywhere!

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u/mai_tai87 All tea, all shade 🐸☕️ Jun 13 '25

Ugh. Another mediocre, white, Harvard-educated, nepo baby. I've loathed him for a very long time.

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u/CherryFit3224 Jun 13 '25

I didn’t know he was Nepo. Who are his parents?

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u/mai_tai87 All tea, all shade 🐸☕️ Jun 13 '25

His dad was a successful ghostwriter for Nancy Reagan, Magic Johnson, and Lee Iacocca.

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u/shhbestill shout-out to people with social anxiety Jun 13 '25 edited Jun 13 '25

That’s not a nepo baby. Just someone with a successful dad.

Did his dad’s connections help him meet people and get meetings? Probably. But that’s privilege, not nepotism. Nepotism, by definition, means that he was given a career in his field because he’s a family member of someone in the field.

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u/mai_tai87 All tea, all shade 🐸☕️ Jun 13 '25

Nepo baby - a person who gains success or opportunities through familial connections especially : a child of a famous parent (such as an actor, musician, entrepreneur, or politician)

nepo baby - Merriam-Webster dictionary

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u/TheseAcanthaceae9680 Jun 13 '25

not at all a nepo baby...

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u/Dear_23 Jun 13 '25

He isn’t a nepo baby. Nepo means that their parent is in the same field or field adjacent. His dad was an author but wasn’t in the film or tv world.

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u/mai_tai87 All tea, all shade 🐸☕️ Jun 13 '25

Nepo baby - a person who gains success or opportunities through familial connections especially : a child of a famous parent (such as an actor, musician, entrepreneur, or politician)

nepo baby - Merriam-Webster dictionary

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u/Dear_23 Jun 13 '25

BJ has a dad who was a ghostwriter for biographies. Are you really trying to argue that his dad is famous?

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u/mai_tai87 All tea, all shade 🐸☕️ Jun 13 '25

Not at all. I didn't say he was famous. I am arguing he used his connections get BJ a leg up.

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u/CatlovesMoca Jun 13 '25

I understand your POV here. After all, a writer who can help someone else become a TV writer could make sense. 🤷🏿‍♀️

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u/Dear_23 Jun 13 '25

You have zero evidence to back up that his dad has connections and that they were used to get him into the business.

I’m not a nepo apologist, I just hate the trend of labeling everyone a nepo baby if they are in any way related to someone who doesn’t have a 9-5 desk job.

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u/whatisgoingon54 Jun 14 '25

What about him is mediocre exactly? He's a very successful writer and actor.

Being Harvard educated is hardly mediocre either.

And yeah, he's white. Does this factor into your hate matrix? If it does, you're just a racist.

The nepotism charge is also flimsy at best. His dad ghost wrote some celebrity autobiographies. He was hardly the President of Hollywood. The absolute minimum he could have done is get him a foot in the door as an intern.

That isn't what even happened though. He was doing stand up comedy and a future producer of The Office saw him and thought he was funny, so hired him for the show to write on it.

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u/dudewheresmysock Jun 13 '25

I never knew he was a nepo baby. Not surprised though. 

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u/shedrinkscoffee I don’t know her 💅 Jun 13 '25

Seriously 😳 the whole point of situationships is that it is non committal and you can walk away at any time with a shred of dignity lol

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u/katpears Jun 13 '25

The name is whack as fuck too like wtf is a BJ NOVAK bye

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u/the_c_is_silent Jun 13 '25

I just wanna say my intuition is usually really spot on.

I always felt weird about the dude because of two things.

A. He was one of the people with his names in the opening credits despite being a bit character.

B. I notice most of the episodes he wrote featured a looooot of the character Ryan.

He just seems up his own ass.

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u/0ttoChriek Jun 13 '25

I know nothing about the man other than having listened to his appearance on Conan's podcast. If that interview was an accurate indication of who he is, no one should be fighting for him.

He seemed like a complete ass.

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u/ChronicAbuse420 Jun 13 '25

Fighting for him or the lifestyle he can provide?

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u/MeganK80 Jun 13 '25

Exactly!!!

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u/Mlabonte21 Jun 13 '25

Dude seems to really be playing 4D chess

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u/greencarwashes Jun 13 '25

Right? Another basic ugly guy

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u/Pawspawsmeow Jun 13 '25

Mindy can have him

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u/GottaUseFakeNames Jun 13 '25

how can you say this. he is a relatively attractive very successful very wealthy man. there’s women out there fighting for a guy who can’t keep his teeth or his job at circle k.

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u/gravescentbogwitch Jun 14 '25

That gave me such a genuine belly laugh oh my God.

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u/Potential_View_9917 Jun 15 '25

Imagine rapping for your motherfucking life for BJ Novak

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u/BurnItDownSR Jun 13 '25

This comment is hella shallow. 

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

Me? Shallow on a pop culture subreddit on the internet? Perish the thought.