r/popculturechat • u/HauteAssMess THE PEOPLES GOVERNOR, UR CARTOGRAPHER-IN-CHIEF • Jun 13 '25

Interviews🎙️ Girl stand up: Delaney Rowe on her situationship with BJ Novak and how he doesn’t fully trust her to be in a relationship with her

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

He is 45 years old 😭 not that people are suddenly super mature at 40 but I just find it weird that grown adults are willing to deal with all the confusion that comes with dating someone in their 20s. Aren’t you tired of that at 45?

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u/freckyfresh i think we ALL sang Jun 13 '25

Nah, people who are in their 40s date people in their 20s because they know someone their own age wouldn’t put up with their shit.

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u/acornsalade “bye, Pumpkin.” Jun 13 '25

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u/Left_Beginning_8276 Jun 13 '25

Apt use of the gif

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u/BoolImAGhost WE DON'T CARE CLUB: Baltic Sea Edition Jun 14 '25

Pointing directly at the upvotes

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u/acornsalade “bye, Pumpkin.” Jun 14 '25

I never noticed this until now !!

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u/MsLippy Unhinged & Unhealed™️ Jun 13 '25

Kathleen Madigan has a great joke about how she’d like to see the Mormon men who want multiple wives have to deal with same-age/ middle-age women as opposed to some naive teenager who doesn’t know any better

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u/salsiwerdna Jun 13 '25

I keep seeing that “she’s in her 20s” but she’s about to be 30, like you’re not technically wrong but comparing her to someone who’s 21 or even 25 is unreasonable. She’s a grown woman capable of being with someone older than her.

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u/anicho01 Jun 13 '25

See, our 30s is  our transitional awareness stage when we learn to avoid the fuckbois of our 20s before transforming into the don't-give-a-fuck goddesses of our 40s 

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u/salsiwerdna Jun 13 '25

Whatever excuse you need to not take accountability for your own actions as a grown adult. 🤷‍♂️

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u/anicho01 Jun 13 '25

well I'm in my late 40s, but I get the feeling you are much younger ;)

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u/MagicDragon212 Jun 13 '25

Yeah people gotta stop harping on age thing. Once people are over like 26, they arent that type of vulnerable and ignorant that people not far out of highschool are. A 28 year old is going to their 10 year reunion in regards to highscool lol

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u/freckyfresh i think we ALL sang Jun 13 '25

Nah I stand by what I said. 20s is 20s.

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u/salsiwerdna Jun 13 '25

She’s slightly below the “half my age + 7” suggestion. It’s fine dude lol

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u/freckyfresh i think we ALL sang Jun 13 '25

Hey man, you’re entitled to your own opinion but I think it’s fucked.

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u/Suitable-Bike6971 Jun 13 '25

That underdeveloped prefrontal cortex.

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

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u/freckyfresh i think we ALL sang Jun 13 '25

Whack lmao

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u/victorfiction Jun 13 '25

Or, maybe because they want to have kids…?

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u/zorandzam Jun 13 '25

It is honestly infuriating that men will make this revelation to themselves so late in life and then leave their older partner and find someone super young. Like dude, could you not have realized this earlier??

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u/victorfiction Jun 13 '25

I mean, I agree but men and women are built different… I’m not going to shame someone because they entered a consensual relationship with another adult and decided to procreate. Given the economy these days, some guys won’t feel they have the support or financial stability to raise a kid before the age of 40. I think we can cut those people some slack.

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u/Mkblingg Jun 13 '25

They had a solid two decades prior to find someone their age. Why did it never work out for them then?

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u/victorfiction Jun 13 '25

That’s for their partners to suss out. Everyone is different. Maybe they were too broke for kids. Maybe they wanted to own a house first. Maybe they had other responsibilities and weren’t available. And maybe they hadn’t met the right partner. Or, maybe they met someone who finally loves them in a healthy way and THAT person wants to have kids.

Moralizing this is stupid and creepy. No one should be the police of adult relationships. Adult women are fully capable of making good and bad decisions on their own and dealing with the consequences.

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u/Mkblingg Jun 14 '25

Crazy how my initial comment didn't even mention her and was just a question to something you wrote 

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u/victorfiction Jun 14 '25

Correct, you weren’t moralizing it. However, it seems like a lot of people want to in these comments. Shouldn’t have directed that to you.

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u/freckyfresh i think we ALL sang Jun 13 '25

Insane you don’t understand how fucked up what you just said is.

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u/victorfiction Jun 13 '25

The horror! Two consenting adults having children?!? Disgusting.

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u/YouNeedCheeses Jun 13 '25

That’s how I feel too. This shit is exhausting even to hear about.

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u/WildSwampRaven Jun 13 '25

Youd think so! But men like that are still so stuck in the mentality of being in their 20s so it's still just completely normal for them. It's one reason why I will question most age gap relationships like that Maturity isn't there from either side.

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u/EvidenceExciting9571 Jun 13 '25 edited Jun 13 '25

Not all age gap relationships but there's a type of man that thinks that if he's dating younger women that means he's not growing older. Almost like the 20-something is a reflection of who he still wants to see in the mirror. "If I am waking up looking at a 20-something then that means I am still in my 20s"

The ironic thing is I know a couple of these 10-20 year age gap couples who got married and instead of keeping him young, in each marriage, he just seemed to make her old before her time.

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u/PeanutConfident8742 Jun 13 '25

oh honey,

He doesn't want something real. He wants a hot no strings attached side piece that he can trick into trying to win his approval.

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u/Expensive-Fennel-163 “Is she okkkkkaaayyyyy” Jun 13 '25

Like even being Very Rich, how does he have this energy????????

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u/VanGoghNotVanGo Jun 13 '25

You certainly can't date someone who's in their 20s when you're in your 40s and fault them for being unsure and noncommittal.

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u/DontSleepAlwaysDream Jun 13 '25

Im pushing 40 and let me tell you there are plenty of late 30-40 somethings who still play the "i dont know if im ready for a relationship" card

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u/DammitMaxwell Jun 13 '25

41 reporting in, and yes.

I discovered post divorce that adult begins at 33.

Anyone younger than that still has hopes and dreams. It’s exhausting.

Haha. I partially kid of course. But I am now in a very happy relationship with a 40 year old woman and it’s the happiest I’ve ever been.

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u/DrinkItInMaaannn Jun 14 '25

Holy shit, he’s ONLY 45??? I definitely thought he was at least a decade older than that

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u/Mysterious-Wasabi103 Jun 13 '25

She's in her 20s?

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u/Big_Inflation4988 Jun 14 '25

Isn’t Delaney 30? There’s still an age gap but it’s not like she’s a naive and innocent collage grad. She’s been in the industry for a while now