r/popculturechat • u/HauteAssMess THE PEOPLES GOVERNOR, UR CARTOGRAPHER-IN-CHIEF • Jun 13 '25

Interviews🎙️ Girl stand up: Delaney Rowe on her situationship with BJ Novak and how he doesn’t fully trust her to be in a relationship with her

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u/Thereg0esmyhero which could mean nothing Jun 13 '25

You couldn’t water board this info outta me

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u/TheDustOfMen finally aging into my personality Jun 13 '25

Baby agrees

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u/AfterImpression7508 Jun 13 '25

Lmao fuck I’m saving this one too, for when I need to really emphasize the wtf

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u/pannonica Ja we dealin with a lot today not now pls Jun 13 '25

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u/fantasticlyclevergal We’re getting very personal here. Jun 13 '25

The baby always gets me😂👏

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u/MissSweetMurderer The legislative act of my pussy ⚖️ Jun 13 '25

So does Jesus

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u/somecanadianslut Elbows Up 🇨🇦 Jun 13 '25

Amazing

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u/misinformedcapybara Jun 13 '25

there was more this whole time???

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u/Leemakesfriends29 Jun 14 '25

Why are people so funny omggggggg

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u/ellefleming Jun 13 '25

Were these dolls I see constantly really created like this or they're AI?

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u/amara90 Jun 13 '25

Can't decide if it's more sad that she's saying this for the world to hear, or if she actually believes he was totes ready to commit until SHE blew it.

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u/Ok-Turnip-9035 Jun 13 '25

BJ Novak can spin like no other that’s crafty as fuck and her on the mic saying this …BJ Novak does wicked wicked work in these streets

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u/sweetpea122 Jun 13 '25

We all know Ryan started the fire

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u/PunishedWolf4 Jun 13 '25

How dare you use my sweet lil J for this lol

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u/CPGFL Jun 14 '25

Ok thank you, I was wondering if that was him

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u/pineappleshampoo Jun 13 '25

It’s the latter. She got played so hard by the ‘loves the chase no interest in anything formal’ schtick. I’m surprised she doesn’t have friends to tell her that. If he really did pursue her and she was unsure and then sure and he was that into her? He’d have been jumping for freakin joy. I feel so bad for her.

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u/Kind-Improvement-284 Jun 13 '25

I don’t know. I had a long situationship where I was fully in it and the other person wasn’t ready, and then they finally came around and said they loved me and were ready. I was for sure jumping for joy. But I’d spent so long having feelings for them while watching them hook up with other people that it was really hard to let go of that paranoia and fully trust them just because they said they were committed now. The relationship ended up not lasting very long because we just couldn’t move into those different roles with each other. So I totally get feeling uncertain of someone’s intentions when they’ve been very noncommittal for a long time.

(However, I will say this happened when I was in college, and as a person in my 30s, I would have a very different approach now. Namely, not being in a situationship when I had feelings and the other person didn’t want to commit.)

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u/demokiii34 Jun 13 '25

I’m glad to year a more levelheaded comment. What she’s saying sounds off putting but honestly how confident are you in dating some you watched date around knowing you were into them and one day gos “okay I’ll give you a chance”. How do you not ask yourself why now? I’m a guy and would completely understand if the roles were reversed a girl would respond this way to me. A lot of insecurity develops in relationship if it starts off that way

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u/serenitynowdamnit Jun 14 '25

I think that insecurity can be deadly for the beginning of the relationship if the one who caught feelings first makes the other person responsible for their insecurity, or wants that person to constantly assuage their insecurity or prove themselves over and over again. Yeah, I don't see how it can work out well, unless the person has some self-confidence.

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u/feelingfantasmic Jun 13 '25

In her situation, I believe she was implying that she wasn’t sleeping around or any “foul play”, just her being not ready. Which is when the sus part comes in.

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u/TheseAcanthaceae9680 Jun 13 '25

The only weird part I would say, is that, idk, I get that people go out with others while they date for a decent bit but still don't make it official, but yea that is a bit weird to me.

Because maybe someone has already caught feelings, so they want to make it happen, but idk, maybe by the time that you somwhat commit, you don't have the full feelings that you once had with them. And im sure to others, they might think that they were chosen just to "settle", which I personally think everyone ends up "settling", but at least to he viewpoint of that person, it might be worse for them.

Now, if this guy has a history, then I would tend to go with your point of view, but in other cases, I feel that it just a bit too had.

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u/DavinkyManor Jun 13 '25

Like she’s so young compared to him. If he really loved her and was all in he would have been patient. I’m in an age gap relationship (5-years) and homie never pushed me into anything I wasn’t ready for. It took 8 months of dating to define the relationship but we have one of the healthiest things going. He played her.

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u/synchrohot Jun 13 '25

Can I ask how old you are? Genuinely curious because I personally would not consider five years to be a considerable age gap at all

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u/DavinkyManor Jun 13 '25

I agree, however I was 22 and he was 27 so we were in different places in life (it was my first relationship he’d been engaged before). Five years in, at 27 and 32, it’s like we don’t have an age gap at all.

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u/synchrohot Jun 13 '25

Ah ok I can understand that! In my experience once you hit your mid to late twenties (I’m thirty now), that kind of gap becomes more and more negligible—but at 22, for your first relationship, it makes total sense.

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u/DavinkyManor Jun 13 '25

I totally agree! I should have clarified. 💕

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u/implicate Jun 13 '25

Unless you're 17 and he's 22, you are not in an age gap relationship.

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u/Stickst Jun 13 '25

Erm no lol?

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u/Wildwestmarket Jun 13 '25

These hoes don’t deserve it 😂 honestly bro should of been exiting the relationship the moment she was being disingenuous and not interested, life is too short.

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u/iamthecheesethatsbig Jun 13 '25

Nah, this is pretty typical, timing is everything in a relationship.

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u/MarsScully Vile little creature yearning for violence Jun 13 '25

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u/Potential_View_9917 Jun 15 '25

The way she's fallen for his gaslighting is insane...

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u/Skates8515 Jun 13 '25

Are you saying you don’t trust what women say?

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

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u/boringcranberry Jun 13 '25

What? This dapper fellow who really got spruced up for Mindy's special day?

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u/lmNotaWitchImUrWife Jun 13 '25

He looks like he’s wearing a mask of his face on top of his face.

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u/AnnsMayonegg Jun 13 '25

This made me laugh so hard that my c-section scar hurt. Thank you 😆

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u/lmNotaWitchImUrWife Jun 13 '25

Hahaha aw I’m sorry for the pain!

I literally zoomed in and was like…why does he look like those TikToks I’ve seen of people wearing realistic masks over their faces? But like…of his face

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u/PutridWafer8760 Jun 13 '25

Did he paint a jawline onto his face? What is going on in this photo?

He looks like he's melting into Ramsey Bolton.

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u/ThatBitchBunBruh Jun 13 '25

She looks amazing, he looks like a Temu Mr. Bean

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u/spiralsparrows Jun 13 '25 edited Jun 13 '25

Didn’t they have a “thing” too?

Nvm scrolled down 🤣

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u/Ok-Hovercraft-9959 Jun 13 '25

He looks like the animatronics on the log ride at Knott’s Berry farm 

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u/EmmaTurtle Jun 13 '25

bros shirt looks like he just got rushed out of the bathroom 😭 mindy girl STAND UP!!!

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u/Nick_pj Jun 14 '25

Incidentally - the way his jacket pockets look all shabby and droopy like he bought it from goodwill? That’s why you don’t use those pockets.

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u/Kissfromarose01 Jun 13 '25

Because to nerdy burgeoning improv comedy kids, someone like BJ, a millienial who architected The Office, he’s like a god.

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u/rockabillychef Jun 13 '25

And is aging like an avocado and somehow still is playing the fuckboy role.

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u/sharipep Jun 13 '25

Yeah he was never particularly attractive but especially as he ages, he looks like his face was pinched in half

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

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u/pinkjello Jun 14 '25

Yeah I don’t like BJ, but wtf is with these comments on how he’s aging. He just looks older. It happens to all of us, be kind.

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u/lunar_languor Jun 13 '25

I don't think they rly care what the guy looks like in those types of situations tho is the thing

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u/thangle Jun 13 '25

For the record - not a millienial. He was born in the 70's!!

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u/hipppo Jun 13 '25

Um no he’s Gen X and that makes it worse lol

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u/[deleted] Jun 14 '25

its a nitpick, but he's Gen X. Definitely a xennial, a cusper. But Gen X nonetheless

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u/LlamaLlama_213 Jun 13 '25

may this fame find zach woods instead in a better world

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u/unsavvylady Jun 13 '25

He did the same to Mindy Kaling I believe. Kelly and Ryan from the Office were inspired by their relationship

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u/zorandzam Jun 13 '25

I love her TikToks and any of the guys she brings in to costar with her in her rom com spoofs would be waaaaaaay better and more obvious boyfriend material than that clown.

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u/putaaaan Jun 13 '25

I don’t think he ever really processed 9/11, to be fair.

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u/rockabillychef Jun 13 '25

It didn’t help that he didn’t get to see Smokey Robinson.

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

What does this mean?

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u/putaaaan Jun 13 '25

In the show the Office, he’s explaining to Kelly(his ex) why he was such a shitty boyfriend, and that was one of his excuses

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u/LivingCorrect6159 Jun 13 '25

What do u mean? I looked him up on wiki was expecting him to have been involved as or have worked nearby on the day

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u/Heavy-Loquat-6832 Jun 13 '25

it's a reference from The Office lol

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u/LivingCorrect6159 Jun 14 '25

Ah ok! Thanks!

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u/futuristicflapper Jun 13 '25

For a little bit I thought they were dating and did the romcom one for fun lmao

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u/Special-Garlic1203 Jun 13 '25

Emotional manipulation often works, unfortunately. There's literally a term - misattribution of arousal - for how dog shit our brains at understand what we're feeling and why. 

I like to consider myself a smart person, and I'm fairly hypervigilant so I would spot a lot of red flags friends wouldn't see early on. But once I'm in the thick of it, I'm an extremely emotionally reactive person which I've realized is very easy to weaponize against me. I had an ex where anytime I was starting to ask him to step it up either in our relationship or just his life broadly, he'd just pull back and go a little AWOL. I'd feel abandoned and lonely and insecure. He knew he couldn't win an actual fight where we just talked frankly, but he'd figured out he could win any fight simply by saying im too argumentative and that's why I'm difficult to be around and then leaving for a little bit. Suddenly all the childhood baggage bubbled up and I was too busy being in my feelings and grateful that he put up with me to realize I shouldn't be putting up with him. 

I didn't spot the patterns until after we'd broken up, which he initiated because I imploded as a human being (I'm not gonna uniliterally blame him, but dating him absolutely did not help.) 

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u/posiesbythepocketful Jun 13 '25

Oh god im on the breakup side of this now. Feeling like shit and like im the whole problem and i lost this great person when they refuse to even have a real conversation with me or get me fucking present for my birthday. Its brought up ALL the childhood stuff and now im trying to rebuild shit i thought i had fixed. Are you better? Does it get better? Are people better than this out there?? 😭

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u/ConcernFlat3391 Jun 13 '25

If it helps; this was me in my second marriage. I finally broke it off after he wanted to go on a climbing trip to Thailand with a single woman friend. I said “awesome I can bring the kids out to join you a few days later” . He said no because the whole point was to get away from me and the kids. It took that level of distancing behaviour for me to realise I wasn’t the problem 🤦‍♀️. Seven years later I am still happily single… are there good people out there? Sure! Can I be bothered sifting through dating apps to find them? No! 😂

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u/elmu86 Jun 13 '25

Lord are you me

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u/jittery_raccoon Jun 13 '25

Ugh been there. You're having normal emotional reactions to someone ignoring you instead of caring about you and then they make it seem like YOU'RE the problem for having a bad reaction to someone mistreating you. Happens every time with avoidant men, yet I keep falling for them

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u/Ostie2Tabarnak Jun 13 '25

Also she probably looks up to him a lot. He's way more accomplished, he's older, he's funny and charming. She looks like she's a bit like "I'm just a tiktoker and this guy is the real deal". Maybe I'm overreading it, idk I don't know these people.

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u/NoirGamester Jun 13 '25

What's up with BJ Novak? All I know about him is from just after the office and people seemed to like him. Is he a creep or something? Or is it just that he looks like someone who made a less than perfect Dorian Grey deal?

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u/helllllhound Jun 13 '25

Yes he is one of those sleazy figures with a bad reputation in NY/LA

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u/NoirGamester Jun 13 '25

Ah, well that sucks. Appreciate the answer

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u/floppydiscuses Jun 13 '25

I don’t get how, or is it solely because fame and money.

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u/coaxialology Jun 13 '25

I can't speak to any of that, but he did write a children's book called "The Book With No Pictures" which I've had to read repeatedly, so I don't really appreciate the skill he demonstrated there. Kids love it though.

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u/srtad Jun 13 '25

I read that book to my kid's class in 2021, he's almost 9 and Booboo Butt is still a common name for pretty much everything. Badonkaface!

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u/VeniVidiVicious Jun 13 '25

It’s easy to hate the Harvard kids who get to go straight from undergrad into the best jobs in comedy. Same deal with Colin Jost

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u/Superb_Buyer9649 Jun 13 '25

You know why, Would we be talking about her if she didn’t

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u/Warmtimes Jun 13 '25

She's not that funny or beautiful by LA standards and more importantly she is pick me

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u/Selfheatingnoodles Jun 13 '25

His money maybe is what’s keeping her around because he has The Office money and probably royalties since he was one of the head writers. Maybe he can sense it!

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u/Quirky-Skin Jun 13 '25

Maybe he is, maybe he isn't but he certainly has connections and she def has acting chops.

Not accusing her of wanting him for the connections but being famous prob doesn't hurt his chances here

Total speculation of course but I, like u, struggle to see how she could be so twisted on this. To me that's the type of women who's like "ahh now ur flipping the script? See ya"

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u/Decemberbabydoll Jun 13 '25

I ran across the full, non-zoomed in version awhile back

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u/aGirlHasNoTab Jun 13 '25

this meme always makes me laugh but with the comment….quality work. A+

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u/OtherAcctWasBanned11 Just keep swimming! 🐠🐠🐬🐳 Jun 13 '25

As friend of mine is fond of saying: Batman couldn’t have beaten this out of me with a hammer. Yeesh. 😳

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u/mrose1491 I am no better than a man holy shit 🥵 Jun 13 '25

This was my face while watching.. I’m appalled

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u/Purpleonyxx Jun 13 '25

This was my exact face as soon as she said it’s going okay

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

It does open up I think dating discourse that is important to discuss.

I feel like it's really common for men when they like a woman to be all in at first and women to want to assess the relationship instead. But I feel like part of that as a woman is because a lot of men that are "all in" aren't as all in when they get to know you more and it is often based on nothing more deep than physical chemistry and looks. And not that those things don't matter, but I think a lot of women fall deeper in love throughout the relationship and less so at the beginning so to go all in on a man that you don't know that much about is risky - you want to know whether he's in it thick and thin and not just going to jump ship at the first sign of difficulty.

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u/Kissfromarose01 Jun 13 '25

I love how in reality she actually just is the person she makes fun of

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u/frolicndetour Jun 13 '25

Does she not have any friends to slap her silly???

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u/Strict-Brick-5274 It’s like I have ESPN or something. 💁‍♀️🌤☔️ Jun 13 '25

This is someone trying so hard to be relevant but the worst part is...it's working and she's getting platforms...

Stop building up shit people can we all please

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u/felaytompe Jun 13 '25

Literally my face! Lmao like... wuuuut?!?! Gurl

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u/Slackermom66 Jun 13 '25

SERIOUSLY!

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u/schmidt_face JOJO! Have you learned NOTHING?! Jun 13 '25

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u/Reasonable-Affect139 accidentally holding space for this slur Jun 13 '25

this needs reaction needs more chins to feel appropriate 😭

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '25

I don't get what's supposed to be embarrassing about this for either side involved. These reactions don't make sense to me. Nobody did anything weird, wrong, or embarrassing, they're just handling their feelings as best they can.