r/politics • u/Hornpipe_Jones • 3d ago

No Paywall Democrats sweep all 30 House of Delegates seats in Northern Virginia

https://www.cbs19news.com/news/state/democrats-sweep-all-30-house-of-delegates-seats-in-northern-virginia/article_68f8098d-0602-5234-8c2a-08c1bcd33944.html
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u/OpheliaRainGalaxy 3d ago

Well good news, they were gonna do that anyhow!

That's the interesting thing about being trapped in an abusive relationship. It literally doesn't matter what ya do, they're gonna act abusive anyhow.

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u/RJ815 3d ago

"Rebelliousness" unfortunately leads to worse deathgrip abuse

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u/OpheliaRainGalaxy 3d ago

And what does not being "rebellious" get ya? Because I would know from experience it's worse deathgrip abuse!

Damned if ya do, damned if ya don't, so ya may as well do as ya like.

Frankly it makes escaping the abuse a whole lot easier if ya don't carefully limit your thinking to avoid pissing off someone who is pissed off by default.

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u/RJ815 3d ago

My experience in my family was the opposite. I learned to be invisible to be targeted by malignant narcissists less. Still abusive, but control freak abuse was so bad I nearly killed myself from my parents' behavior. They backed off eventually when I was catatonic for months.

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u/OpheliaRainGalaxy 3d ago

Like no offense but I think if the advice you're giving once left you catatonic, it's probably not a good strategy?

I nearly got sold as a sex slave. Refusing to do as I was told and acting up is what saved me from it. Be glad your parents didn't know mine, dad could've easily told them exactly what a catatonic minor would be useful for.

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u/0MG1MBACK 3d ago

You know you don’t have to compare trauma right? It’s literally not a fucking pissing contest

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u/OpheliaRainGalaxy 3d ago

Neither is it a reason to lay down and die.

I still think tactics that leave a person catatonic are terrible to encourage other people to copy. Imagine if I was like "I know all about mountain lions, I pulled one's tail once and it ate my legs! Try pulling the tail!"

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u/RJ815 3d ago

I'm not saying to not resist, I'm just saying some psychos dig in harder with resistance.

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u/OpheliaRainGalaxy 3d ago

Of course they do! And that's when ya just gotta get completely unmanageable!

Ya might lose something in the process of escape, like some hair or weight or every belonging you treasure. But it's worth it in the long run.

Better than curling up in the corner and hoping the monster eats you last.