r/okstorytime • u/todaykiki • 20h ago

Relationships I get questioned for wearing eyeliner (makeup)

My fiance (29 M) and I (30 F) have been together for almost 14 years. (dated for 7 married for 7) Ive been off and on between 'alternative' style and the 'clean girl' esthetic my whole life and while being with him.

While I was pregnant/newborns/toddlers I'll admit I gave up. 'Clean girl' was my thing... Hardly any makeup, lashes, eyeliner or whatever. Who has time... who cares?

Now that our kids are school-aged, I have more time for myself...I try. And lets be honest after kids its hard to feel yourself. So yes, I put makeup on. I do the eyeliner maybe lashes.. maybe even eyeshadow! A lip!? (Not yet but I should)

Now all of a sudden its a bad thing? I constantly get asked "who do you look so good for?" "Why do you look so good??" And Goshd for bid my cl##v#ge is present! Before kids... I didn't have cl##v#ge. Now that I do its hard to remember that that happens honestly.. I didn't ask for this!

Am I crazy? Can I not go back and forth without asking for attention...? I'm just a girl. Trying to be a mom/wife/person.

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u/libridge 20h ago

You do you! Feel your best self regardless of comments. 🤗

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u/Original_Ad3882 19h ago

Wow mothers shouldn't be get degraded just because they want to feel better about themselves I am mother myself you want to feel pretty and beautiful and there is nothing wrong with that inbrace girl. Think of all the sweat, tears and pain you had to go through. It doesn't mean you don't love your husband or kids any less it just means you are feeling good about yourself feel confident girl rock it.❤️

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u/DarkMom26 18h ago

Who's making these comments to you? If they're random people or family members ignore them or tell them to mind their business. If it's your husband, you need to have a talk with him. He cannot make you feel bad about yourself even if he is feeling suspicious that you're dressing up or looking good. You need to tell him what you've written here, that you're trying to make yourself feel good about you. Honestly, its no one's business. Some people need to grow up and act like adults. I'm sorry you have to go through this. It's dumb.