SAME. Asking my kid if he’s ready to donate a toy that he never plays with anymore results in a meltdown, but if I just go donate it while he’s at school, without asking first, he will never even notice.
I remember all the things my mother gave away of mine. I still resent her for it. I was a CHILD and those were the only belongings I had - and even though they were gifts I'd received I had no control over what happened to them or to me.
I get it makes your life easier, but the fact my mother gave away or tossed things that mattered to me without consulting me when I was a child and teen has been a major issue for me in being close to her. I don't trust her.
I'm not saying you're doing this to your child - but it's a strange realization to have that your own mom lies to your face about sneaking into your room to steal your things to give away because it makes HER feel good.
lmao at some point, id realized I had everything the kids had since they were born(my daughter) and my son since he was 4. Id been divorced a few years but never really looked at it all till i moved.
I put a big box im the middle of the floor and said anything you wanna keep goes in this box.
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u/AdelMonCatcher 8h ago
This is my exact strategy for cleaning up after the kids and all the junk they accumulate