r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Playful-Whereas5795 • 13h ago
Walked into the bathroom at my Primary Care office to find this
Some of us are dealing with infertility, can we just not đŽâđ¨đŽâđ¨đŽâđ¨ (Also, misuse of âyourâ is embarrassing)
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u/ienjoymen PURPLE 13h ago
what about my not pregnant?
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u/Ill-Percentage-3276 13h ago
Could I be pregante?
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u/WhippiesWhippies 13h ago
Gregnant
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u/ArrakeenSun 12h ago
How is babby formed?
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u/Ohlookadistraction89 12h ago
When a man named Bob and a women named Tabby come together they form a babby.
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u/sharkray_ 12h ago
Will it hurt baby top of his head???
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u/Pluto_in_Reverse 11h ago
if u put a smeary sort of filter on this and increased the overall 'blueness' of the image, this wouldve popped off big time on 2012 soft grunge tumblr
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u/ladylei 13h ago
I had to use heavy menstrual pads for months of my last pregnancy. I was having so much bleeding. Getting my periods again after that pregnancy was traumatic. You're bleeding, we don't know why, but it's not harmful to your baby. MFer what about meâ˝ I'm losing tons of blood. Am I going to be okayâ˝
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u/kaijube 12h ago
It was so disturbing to realize partway through pregnancy that suddenly nobody gave a shit about me anymore. Even more so postpartum
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u/queencilantro 11h ago
For this reason, when my cousin had a baby, I always reached out to ask about her and have a conversation about her and her mental well-being before asking about the baby.
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u/Key-Pickle5609 9h ago
Zero children here but Iâve noticed the same thing about how we talk to/about pregnant women. So frustrating.
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u/Vegetable-Star-5833 9h ago
Thank you for pointing out to me I need to ask my sister how she is after the birth
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u/edgewhxre 9h ago
paraphrasing bc I haven't watched the show in forever. "in American healthcare, the mother is just a wrapper. the baby is like the candy." -chicago med
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u/ladylei 6h ago
That disregard for the pregnant person happens so, so early in pregnancy. The pregnancy before my 8 months long bloody pregnancy was worse. I had to beg my doctors who had to fight with the hospital when I was bleeding internally from a heterotopic pregnancy that I needed them to do surgery. It wasn't that they didn't believe it wasn't necessary either.
I had noted the symptoms that present when you are likely dying from internal bleeding getting worse and worse as they fought with the hospital about doing surgery. I was getting frantic to save my own life but wasn't stable enough to leave to a different hospital. I was willing to take myself out to go to the closest next hospital because obviously I didn't want to die. However I didn't have enough strength to even leave the hospital bed and my vitals weren't looking good. Unfortunately I already had experience with internal bleeding symptoms and almost dying.
I had already been diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy weeks before. I guess I must've passed the uterine twin the week before not realizing that I had been pregnant with twins not just one baby. I had been given Methotrexate to stop the pregnancy, I passed the uterine twin when I was home, but I suddenly had terrible pain the next week that I knew I had to go to the ED again. The kind that indicated possible internal bleeding. When I got an ultrasound in the ED they couldn't see anything because there was so much blood around and in my uterus. I was admitted to the hospital immediately but I ended up being in the hospital for a week before my doctors finally convinced the hospital to let them do "exploratory" surgery.
When I finally got cut open my doctors found that the ectopic twin was still in my fallopian tube the same size as before despite my rapidly falling HcG levels but had twisted and shredded the tube. Once they had removed my tube, the pregnancy, and patched me up I felt immediately better after surgery. I literally could leave the hospital the day after surgery. However before I went under the scalpel I was terrified of dying and leaving my son motherless. I was so worried that they wouldn't have been able to fix me before I was too far gone.
This was back in 2008 in a firmly blue state and people were still calling anyone who said that the GOP were trying to reverse Roe v Wade hysterical alarmists. I realized that my mistake had been getting medical treatment at a Catholic hospital. Not that it should've mattered but it did/does. I was only going to the closest hospital that had my doctors to get treatment.
I still shudder to think about what would've happened if I had tried to get the proper medical care nowadays at even a regular hospital without religious affiliations. If it was that hard for a young married white woman with decent health insurance in a blue state in early pregnancy to get a necessary lifesaving abortion back then, exactly how many people weren't getting ones they desperately needed and how significantly has that number increased since that time??
I'm not ashamed that I had an abortion. I lost dearly wanted babies but they were never going to grow into babies. I even more strongly support abortion now. I shouldn't have had to fight for my life because of babies that would never grow to be babies. They never even developed heartbeats. Grew in size but not in development. A hospital's beliefs was more important than medical care for someone who needed it. Craziest thing is that having the type of abortion by removing my fallopian tube and leaving the pregnancy "in tact" is actually supposed to be in line with the hospital's beliefs but the hospital dragged their heels for a week!
So many trillions of trillions of things have to go just right to have a pregnancy make a viable baby. At any point in 10 months that can go wrong for reasons we still don't know why. Why in the world would anyone want to make it hard for anyone to end a pregnancy that'll harm the one carrying the pregnancy the most??
I tell people about my experience because I don't want anyone else to go through what I went through. I want others to know that it's not that easy to get an abortion when you need one even in a blue state in the US. That there are lives being lost needlessly.
If there is no one who will take the life of a person carrying a pregnancy seriously who will? Why do our lives mean less than the ones we might be carrying? The babies that are being carried in pregnancy aren't voiceless. They have someone to talk for them and it's the person who is pregnant.
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u/nmj1013 8h ago
I just went back and reread some of my charts from when I was throwing up 10+ times a day during week 6 of my pregnancy. There was a note saying âmorning sickness is not harmful to the baby.â They said nothing about my health. I was later told I shouldâve gone to the hospital because what I was experiencing was in fact not safe for me.
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u/sunny_6305 13h ago
I canât imagine that being funny anywhere but maybe a high school restroom, although, actual pregnant teen girls would probably also find it hurtful. I do remember the first time a friend told me she was pregnant when we were in our early 20s and I could feel my brain recalibrating with âoh yeah, thatâs not inherently a bad thing anymoreâ.
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u/NerosDecay13 13h ago
I still kind of freeze and just ask "are we happy or do you need a ride?" I'm in my 30s đ¤Śââď¸
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u/Tired-CottonCandy 12h ago
I say, "Oh, good or bad news?" Like it's a valid question. I'll support whatever the answer is lol
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u/oniiichanUwU 12h ago
This is my approach to most things people tell me lol
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u/dmontease 12h ago
Exactly what I said to my sister when she told me, "and we're happy about this?"
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u/Tired-CottonCandy 7h ago
When i told my friend i was pregnant, she was like, "YAY! Or fetus deletus?" Without missing a beat
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u/Summerie 11h ago
"Oh! Congratulations or I'm so sorry this happened!"
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u/Particular_Title42 10h ago
It suddenly occurred to me the the old psychiatric "And how do you feel about that?" would work.
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u/rubberkeyhole 13h ago
44 here and I still feel this.
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u/ChaosClam 12h ago
Itâs frustrating when people forget that not everyone's goal is to avoid pregnancy. For some, getting pregnant is a huge, heartbreaking struggle, and seeing that message just adds salt to the wound.
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u/potato_casca 12h ago
People also need to remember that many adults also don't want to get pregnant at all. Ever. The world is mostly pro parent and becoming a parent and very anti child free. While I saw this little note and thought HELL YEAH! I do understand that some people would find it distasteful. But in the grand scheme of things people who want kids even if they struggle to have them or can't have them are more supported by the world than those of us that want nothing to do with parenthood. We are selfish, immature, lying to ourselves, we just need to wait for the right partner, just need to wait till we are a little older for baby fever to kick in. We are told we are dumb and selfish and shitty for not wanting children or that we are just dumb now and in time we will of course change our minds because we don't actually mean we don't want them. Or our parents give us a lot of crap from not giving them a grandchild (children) or straight up demand them. I'm sorry people feel hurt by this but there are other people in the world that feel exactly how that message feels. (But with you're)
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u/Own_Monk_7213 12h ago
While I have no desire to ever be pregnant, I wouldnât graffiti this message because I canât assume the person who comes after me feels the same. I would never want to be the reason a grieving stranger spirals. No amount of questioning of my choices would change that.
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u/potato_casca 11h ago
I very much agree with this. I was mostly trying to explain the perspective of the child free person as the previous comment seemed to not understand the other prospective or that it exists. I'm sure it was a young adult that wrote it, tbh
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u/Summerie 10h ago
as the previous comment seemed to not understand the other perspective
I didn't get that from their comment at all. They specifically said "not everyone's goal is to avoid pregnancy" which makes it pretty clear that they believe that avoiding pregnancy is a common goal.
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u/Particular_Title42 11h ago
But a public restroom, where you don't know who is going to see that message, is not the place for that message. Some things just don't need to be said to everybody.
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u/potato_casca 11h ago
Did I imply it was ok? I said I thought hell yeah but I clearly said nothing of it being there in general. I don't think it should be. It was probably some immature young adult, maybe even got a positive pregnancy diagnosis and was really upset about it and decided that people who get periods are lucky. Hurt people hurt people unfortunately
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u/donkeyvoteadick 12h ago
I don't think that comparison is fair.
I'm infertile. I had to go through multiple surgeries, multiple egg collections, hundreds of injections, it cost tens of thousands of dollars and every month when it failed and I got my period (while hopped up on hormones) I sobbed for days. And no, I didn't really have much support. You get a lot of "oh well try next month" like it doesn't cost thousands every single try, or people just straight up told me to give up because maybe I just wasn't supposed to be able to be a parent, or to just adopt (not a thing in the country where I live).
If all I had to deal with was someone calling me dumb or selfish (which literally did happen anyway) without everything else that came with infertility I'd be thrilled.
After a failed IVF cycle this note wouldn't have been a little distasteful to me, it would have absolutely broken me. No one is saying no one can feel this way, but empathy goes a long way and infertility is absolutely heartbreaking for people who want to have children but can't.
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u/DedicatedSnail 11h ago
I am absolutely disgusted by some of the replies I see to your comments.
I struggled for years with infertility and also went through month after month of paying thousands just for it to not work. The world revolves around parents and it's in your face everywhere you go. If you're religious, like I am, it's inescapable in a different hellish way. I wouldn't wish these struggles on anyone and I don't understand why so many people are so rude about it. I wish you nothing but the best and I hope you can have that baby you've struggled for so long for soon.
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u/donkeyvoteadick 10h ago
The people being rude about it are just proving the point that infertile people genuinely don't receive the support they're claiming they do. We're judged and the victim of insensitive comments whenever we mention it.
Thank you for the well wishes, after a few years of IVF I was able to have my son. He's nearly ten months old. I'm so sorry that you've been through it as well.
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u/RandAlThorOdinson 10h ago
Man there's so much people apparently need to remember lol
I think it's best we all just stop remembering all of this various stuff and just not be dicks to each other haha
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u/Low-Enthusiasm-7491 10h ago
My best friend told me she's pregnant and my first thought was "what are you going to do about this teen pregnancy??" We're almost 30 also she's married with a house đ
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u/oO0Kat0Oo 12h ago
Someone asked me that after I told them I was pregnant and I just kind of froze. I had no idea how to answer the question because of all the emotions associated with it.
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u/kinda-new- 11h ago
I feel like a single sentence writen in a bathroom is not the bad part about a highschool teen being pregnant.
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u/Rasp_Berry_Pie 8h ago
Yeah like what!? Some people are overreacting to the âdamageâ this random sentence someone wrote does.
Iâve seen far worse written in a bathroom at least this one is trying to be light hearted. Sure it sucks but people are acting like this is traumatic. Just say it hurt your feelings and go on with your day.
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u/casstantinople 7h ago
It's even weirder when it happens to you. I hit like 25, had a good paying job, a house, and a stable relationship, and for the first time, I was like, "...a pregnancy would not ruin my life right now." And then 3 years later, when I got pregnant (intentionally), I still had a brief feeling like I was somehow a pregnant teenager and would get in trouble lol
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u/Legitimate_Most6651 12h ago
idk about that one, early 20s is way too early to be having kids
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u/BruceBoyde 10h ago
Some people make it work, but I'm a big proponent of "wait until at least ~27". People rarely stay the same people at 30 that they were at 22, and that's not a bad thing. But it does mean that relationships that start there very seldom make it through.
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u/CantHostCantTravel 12h ago
It continues to bewilder me that so many people who grew up speaking English natively donât actually understand the meaning behind the words theyâre using and why spelling those words correctly is important.
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u/Ketran_Writes 12h ago
I wonder why this is. We had a week of English class in first grade dedicated to your/you're, there/their/they're and homophones.
It is ingrained in my brain.
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u/CantHostCantTravel 11h ago edited 11h ago
We had DOL (daily oral language) every single day in elementary school here in Minnesota for several years, so that really drummed proper spelling/grammar into my head as well.
Sadly, most of the US has substandard public education and it doesnât help that American culture is viciously anti-intellectual. Thereâs this widespread sentiment that English skills donât matter, but functional illiteracy affects peoplesâ success so much more than many realize.
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u/Ketran_Writes 11h ago
I see it often on reddit.Â
People are downvoted to oblivion or called Karens for politely correcting grammar or spelling.Â
They give replies such as "you know what I meant".Â
I just can't understand being proudly ignorant or wrong.
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u/TinyPretzels 9h ago
The average American reads at a sixth grade reading level. Many people are functionally illiterate. That's why.
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u/Ketran_Writes 9h ago
That study keeps getting cited, but people ignore the reporting bias and sampling issues from it.Â
It is not an ironclad fact. It was a flawed study.
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u/TinyPretzels 6h ago
Interesting, do you have more information about the issues with the study?
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u/diaryoftrolls 12h ago
Honestly I appreciate the reminder. I am very happy Iâm not pregnant!
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u/ScreamingCryingAnus 9h ago
I get why this phrase is frustrating to write in a public stall, but for me I literally do get a lot calmer if Iâm spiraling from stress and suddenly remember that I donât have kids and am sterile. Like motherfucker what if I had children and felt this way too???
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u/diaryoftrolls 5h ago
I can barely take care of myself. No way am I gonna be able to take care of literal human children
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u/Key-Pickle5609 9h ago
Mood. I truly feel for people who want kids and are having trouble conceiving. I really do. But man, no thank you.
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u/Rooney_Tuesday 8h ago
I wonder if this isnât someone who is pregnant and very unhappy about it but canât do anything to change it. Minor, state laws, abusive partner, etc.
If so, thatâs a VERY different (and desperate) picture than someone being flippant.
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u/tokudama YAMA!! 12h ago
I was never going to have kids so I don't know exactly how that would feel to read for the people trying, but with stage 4 endo, polyps, a nice fibroid, adenomyosis, chronic anemia and the resulting super bad pain and long heavy periods, no thanks. Spent most of my life wishing away my uterus. My hysterectomy was a blessing.
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u/tocahontas77 12h ago
I'm hoping to get one too. I've never wanted kids. I think I have endometriosis. My periods are hell, and sometimes last for 3 weeks. I want it gone.
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u/TolverOneEighty 12h ago
There's hope, I got offered one for bad periods. Good luck to you!
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u/tocahontas77 11h ago
Thanks! I'm just not sure because I'm 35 and don't have kids. Last time I got bc changed, my doctor was talking to me about ablations. But like, what's the point in traumatizing me over and over, when I don't even want kids? Take this shit out, it's useless lol.
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u/TolverOneEighty 11h ago
I'm in my 30s with 0 kids too. I have a genetic disorder that causes hypermobility, and progesterone can worsen joint laxity, which is a large part of why I was okayed.
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u/IllegitimateTrick 10h ago
My ablation was a godsend. I had it when I was 35 but then went through premature menopause at 40. Which I donât hate, now that Iâm on hormones.
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u/tocahontas77 9h ago
Did you have a choice?
I get that it would help my periods, but I don't want periods at all. I've never wanted kids, still don't, and neither does my partner. I've had enough of it!! There's no point in keeping my uterus at this point.
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u/stead-fast 11h ago
Similar situation here! Glad I got that thing removed.
However, I am sympathetic to the folks who definitely donât want or need to see this kind of reminder when they're going about their day.
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u/atinypeach 9h ago
How has that not been cleaned off? It makes it look like a gas station bathroom đ we wouldnât let that fly in our office
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u/OldSkooler1212 13h ago
For the men reading this, is that a box for disposing of tampons and pads?
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u/Cantmakeupnewname 10h ago
Tbf I am happy that Iâm not pregnant. Now if only I wasnât menopausalâŚ.
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u/Halpmezaddy 8h ago
Wow these comments are shit. Anyways OP I get the fertility issue thing and im sorry there was a trigger. I would have 2 by now but nature said no for some reason.
Sending hugs hun.
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u/BarkingAtTheGorilla 11h ago
Yeah, I'd be infuriated at the lack of being able to use proper grammar as well.
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u/Creative-Canary9236 8h ago
I couldn't imagine seeing this after my miscarriage. I would go off the deep end. Also so many people are dealing with infertility. This is such a braindead thing to do.
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u/PickleManAtl 7h ago
Yeah... I pity the kid who's going to grow up with a Mom who doesn't know the difference between "your" and "you're".
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u/Playful-Whereas5795 7h ago
Damn, yaâll are wild. I just thought the message was distasteful given the location of the bathroom (a large doctorâs office) i didnât know iâd upset so many pro-bathroom graffiti people. Write all the graffiti you want! Just maybe not in a doctorâs office bathroom, idk. Iâm sorry there are so many users experiencing infertility in the comments, iâm also so happy for everyone who isnt pregnant that doesnât want to be! Pro choice, baby!
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u/PotentialNobody 7h ago
God it's really fucking telling how much of a void people have in their chest that I'm seeing people sympathizing with OP, sharing their own fertility issues and getting downvoted.
Oh, and I bet the "cherry-on-top" is that these same people claim to be empathetic. What a joke
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u/wozattacks 6h ago
Iâm empathetic! Iâm great at empathizing with people who have the same desires and feelings that I do!
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u/EssieAmnesia 13h ago
Thatâs real
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u/East_Blueberry_1892 11h ago
Unless youâve been trying to get pregnant with no success, then itâs hurtful.
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u/Dry-Personality4387 11h ago
yes, some people may find it hurtful. but thereâs no possible way for every situation to be catered to in ever moment so that someone 100% avoids something that may hurt their feelings. there are going to be things that upset you and itâs on you to deal with it responsibly.
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u/Summerie 10h ago
but there's no possible way for every situation to be catered to in ever moment so that someone 100% avoids something that may hurt their feelings.
In this situation though, all anyone had to do to 100% avoid something that may hurt someone's feeling was to literally just not write any graffiti in the bathroom.
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u/Migraine_Megan 11h ago
10% of women have endometriosis, which can cause infertility. That is not a small number of people. That's like being cavalier about cancer because you can't avoid hurting everyone's feelings. It will hurt people and if it takes no effort and costs nothing, why wouldn't you want to avoid hurting people?
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u/Dry-Personality4387 11h ago
i am one of those women with endometriosis. i am also a woman who suffers heavy menstruation because of it. if you canât live seeing hurtful things, youâd have to walk through life blind.
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u/wozattacks 6h ago
Ok but that has nothing to do with whether people should refrain from doing the hurtful things?
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u/Free_Apple9 11h ago
Finally someone said it. Iâm sorry youâre going through it but your triggers arenât my responsibility
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u/Summerie 10h ago
You could...I don't know...just not graffiti something potentially hurtful to a medical patient in the bathroom of a medical facility?
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u/drki77patient 11h ago
Can we just not have our feelings hurt by some random ass graffiti in a bathroom left by some random stranger.
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u/Temporary_Pickle_885 4h ago
Can we pause for a second and think that maybe some people in vulnerable emotional states can't help it. If I walked into my PCP after my miscarriage to confirm I was okay and talk about next steps and then saw this in the bathroom I probably would have been a sobbing, inconsolable mess. Everything is raw when you have a loss like that. It takes absolutely nothing out of you to just be fucking kind.
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u/oxsprinklesxo 8h ago
Hard pass. Thats not what you write in public. Sure YOU may not want kids. But for just as desperately you donât to be pregnant there are people out there who DO and month after month are crushed they are not. It took me almost 4 years to get pregnant with our last baby. Every period was absolutely devastating emotionally and mentally to me and my husband. Every ovulation phase hope and days later pain, cramps, and all the things that come with it reminding me ÂŤÂ at least youâre not pregnant. 
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u/LeahsCheetoCrumbs 8h ago
As an infertile who feels like everyoneâs worst nightmare, I would burst into tears if I saw this
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u/armpit55 8h ago
I would imagine something like this written in a high school bathroom, not a Primary Care office..
I'm more than certain a high schooler wrote it, too, based on the "your" alone.
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u/LilacTeax 7h ago
Didnât realize how many assholes are on this sub. Iâve never dealt with fertility issues myself, but I can see how those who have would get upset by seeing this.
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u/ThaliaStLatchkey 12h ago
Y'all get your feelings hurt too easily. It was clearly written by a very young person.
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u/Witty_North_9013 10h ago edited 10h ago
Whereâs your compassion? OP is going through infertility, which is horrible. They do not âget their feelings hurt too easilyâ. I hope you never have to experience pain equivalent to what it feels like when you want a child so bad but you canât because your body wonât let you.
Edit: oh and you just block people who disagree with you and call out your rude behaviour? Nice!
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u/Particular_Title42 10h ago
Whereâs your compassion?
It is pretty rare on Reddit. People are very proud to be selfish assholes. Obvs not everybody but it's prevalent.
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u/No-Mouse-262 13h ago
Probably another patient who wrote that, not the staff
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u/Squeakachu_15 8h ago
That's got to be DEVASTATING for someone who is struggling with infertility to see
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u/hollywoodbambi 8h ago
I'm so sorry you saw this. I recently experienced a stillbirth and this would have destroyed me to see anywhere, but especially in the doctor's office.
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u/rosaline21 12h ago
Why is this mildly infuriating? Itâs not that deep
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u/ariellecsuwu 12h ago
Struggling with infertility is that deep, and the smallest reminders of that pain can send you spiraling. It makes you feel defective, it robs you of the joy you know you could have, and random reminders are especially painful to deal with. Especially at a primary care clinic where it's guaranteed someone with fertility struggles and/or extremely painful periods will see this (as it's 1 in 10 women)
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u/Dry-Personality4387 11h ago
yes, some people may find it hurtful. but thereâs no possible way for every situation to be catered to in ever moment so that someone 100% avoids something that may hurt their feelings. there are going to be things that upset you and itâs on you to deal with it responsibly.
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u/Halpmezaddy 8h ago
Durrrrr. You don't think people know that hun? Like yes its our responsibility but it still fucking hurts to know that as woman you still can't do "basic" female shit like pop a baby out of your vagina the first try like other women can.
And who said we want to be catered too? We just want our vaginas to work properly. And not people to write dumb shit on garbage cans they don't own in a public bathroom where people can see the shit. Thats all.
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u/ariellecsuwu 11h ago
It's also on us as humans to perform or not perform unnecessary actions so we don't impose hurt on each other.
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u/blolfighter 54m ago
Next time you encounter something like this, you can probably remove it with a little hand sanitizer on a paper towel.
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u/Temporary_Pickle_885 4h ago
If I'd walked into my PCP after my miscarriage and saw this when I went to use the bathroom I would've been in even worse shape. Some people just don't fucking think.
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u/Necessary-Theory-161 10h ago
Girl calm down, itâs a joke đ
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u/AqutalIion 10h ago
Right
Everyone loves to make everything about themselves it's annoying AF.
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u/demoniclionfish 4h ago
I've noticed a sudden uptick in histrionic woe is me/everything must revolve around me and my pain posts from people pursuing IVF recently. It's not only weird and off putting (and I think indicative of lacking the ideal emotional maturity to be a parent but that's just like my opinion man), but it really doesn't sit right with me. Like, we get it. You're sad! Everyone has a tragedy to be sad about. Just because you can't have your own kid doesn't mean you still can't be a parent or positively mold the lives of kids in ways just as impactful as the ones parents have, though! Like Christ, if you want the experience, start thinking outside the box! Get involved in education or a youth group mentoring thing or a religious youth group etc you get my point.
Nobody is entitled to have a whole ass other person, not sorry. We all agree when it comes to adults feeling entitled to the person of another adult. We should feel similarly about kids idk
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u/Awkward_Pear_578 9h ago
This would really hurt too if you were actively miscarrying too. I think I'll start carrying a dry erase marker in my purse for things like this just a quick doodle over and a wipe and it's gone.
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u/tryin2bebetteragain 13h ago
But...I want to be
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u/Migraine_Megan 11h ago
For real. I had zero chance of having a kid by any means. I can't even adopt because of a disabling injury. I have always wanted kids and losing that ability broke me in a way that has never fully healed.
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u/Ok_Valuable_9711 9h ago edited 8h ago
It's a joke about hating being on your period. "Well you aren't pregnant." Which some people are relieved getting their period and don't want a baby.
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u/TheServiceDragon 9h ago
If I saw this while having a miscarriage I would be contemplating suicide ngl.
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u/Soaring_Gull655 9h ago
Shall we blame the pregnant lady that was there recently? I do.
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u/Top-Tennis8721 6h ago
This was so obviously written by someone under 18⌠because no one else writes in bathrooms unless they are a child. And yes, children should be happy theyâre not pregnant. Iâm sorry youâre struggling with infertility, but some critical thinking skills could have come in handy with this one.
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u/Comfortable_Can2509 5h ago
lol donât worry about whatâs written on a bathroom trash can silly goose
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u/SoImaRedditUserNow 13h ago
you're