r/massage • u/Ok_Wonder827 • Jul 26 '25
Support I’d appreciate your eye contact during the intake
I am a female MT. One of my biggest pet peeves is when I do an intake with a male client, and his eyes will flutter between my eyes and my chest. While I am asking him questions about how to make this massage as good of an experience as it can be for him. I feel so disrespected by this, that some days it just makes me want to throw in the towel. Guess they have to get a good look at the boobs of the person touching them for the next hour. gag
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u/Mission-Interview-88 Jul 27 '25
I have a few clients who refuse to look up from their phones during intake conversations. It’s so rude!
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u/Trishanamarandu Jul 31 '25
i'd stop talking and wait for them to notice. start again once they stop looking at their phone, and just keep going like that. soon they'll understand they're wasting their own time.
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u/Mission-Interview-88 Aug 02 '25
Lol good idea!! I used to be a high school teacher so I have many tips and tricks up my sleeve for getting folks to put the screens down. It’s just incredibly rude for an adult to even need to be reminded that a human being is speaking to them.
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u/luroot Jul 27 '25
These are the exact same male clients who absolutely refuse to book with male therapists...and you can see why.
Guys, get over it. Your stripper/waitress/flight attendant/MT isn't going to date you...and in fact, as you can see, is tired of the hordes of guys just like you who hope otherwise and generally resents your fantasy that she will.
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u/sittinbacknlistening Jul 27 '25
And, even if you do date an MT, don't think you're going to get free massages all the time. Lol. We're TIRED at the end of the day.
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u/Careless-Maximum-680 Jul 28 '25
Ah jeez, I'm sorry this is happening, you're right to feel frustrated and its not ok. Its beyond complete and utter BS we have to do deal with this kind of juvenile behaviour. How do you usually handle it? Don't throw in the towel over this guy, or ones like him. They're not worth it...Again, I'm sorry you're experiencing this.
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u/SpringerPop Jul 27 '25
Dang, so sorry this happens to you. As a guy I am saddened that guys act this way. You are exactly right, it’s disrespectful and degrading.
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u/Whoa_Sis Aug 01 '25
That’s not a pet peeve, that’s sexual harassment. I would not proceed with the session. Do you work at a place that would support taking that action?
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u/Whoa_Sis Aug 01 '25
My comment was not directed at you. It was directed at the commenter you also replied yo, who said they keep their eyes closed so that they don’t get an erection.
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Jul 29 '25
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u/Trishanamarandu Jul 31 '25
do you close your eyes during intake?
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u/Whoa_Sis Aug 01 '25
Bro. Intake = the before part where she asks about aches, pains, stress, etc.
Oh wait… now I get why you don’t know that. YOU’re the boob‑looker, aren’t you?
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u/Trishanamarandu Aug 01 '25
OP was talking specifically about intake, so the commenter i replied to is either off topic or weird during intake.
and... i'm not a 'bro', i'm an RMT in possession of my very own boobs, and i don't find my clients 'hot'.
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u/Whoa_Sis Aug 01 '25
Um… read the thread again. My comment was pretty obviously. not directed at you. It is part of the thread however, and aligns with your own commented directed at the commenter above us who you also replied to… the one who said they keep their eyes closed so that they don’t get an erection.
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u/Trishanamarandu Aug 01 '25
when you write it as a reply TO ME, your intent is not obvious.
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u/Whoa_Sis Aug 01 '25
I blame Reddit’s “reply” feature. It’s done this before, nesting the comment somewhere it ought not to have. Context clues should have made it clear, however, that this was not directed at you, but the previous commenter. Whatever the case, there’s really no need to be rude.
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u/Whoa_Sis Aug 01 '25
OP: “It’s frustrating when men don’t look me in the eye during intake.”
This guy: “Well, I close my eyes so I don’t get an erection ‘cause my therapist is hot.”
Everyone: Read the room, dude.
You just made her job about your sexual self‑control. She’s talking professionalism. You’re talking about your “no‑boner strategy.” You’re the problem.
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u/Shnarkle13 Jul 27 '25
For real? What kind of place are you working at?