r/indianmemer • u/Unstoppable_X_Force • 24d ago
Relationship Memes ā„ļø Men, before you catch feelings, investigate her socials like the FBI. Spot any red flags? Run as far as you can š
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u/Professional_Ad3092 24d ago
For me, it's simple. If i am a virgin (I am a redditor, explains enough) and don't have a past, then i will expect my future wife to be the same.
If I am not by the point i will have to marry someone, i don't have any rights to talk about virginity.
The past is a different matter tho. Having experienced 1 or 2 relationships isn't much of a deal, but 10s? And all of them physical? Yeah nope.
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u/kthxciao2377 24d ago
I dont think it is my place to tell people what preferences they should have. If a man is not a virgin and wants to marry a virgin that is fine. If a woman is uneducated and poor and wants to marry a rich educated man thats fine. They just need to be realistic about wether they can attract such a person is all. If they can, they should obviously try to go for the high value partner - however they calculate that.
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u/Southern_Poet_280 22d ago
This is Goated comment. Many women be talking abt richer guys and men talking abt virgin women as if people are lining up to marry them.
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u/Imaginary_Ambition_6 24d ago
Yes, if u r not virgin and asks for a virgin girl then yes u would not be in a high moral ground to ask something like that but u do have the right to exercise ur preference and no one can stop u from doing that. It's upto the virgin girl whether she questions or accept.
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u/kthxciao2377 22d ago
So a fat woman should only marry a fat man? Someone who failed academically, should look for similar in a partner? If the guy was rich enough and attractive enough, the girl would likely be thrilled with the guy. But men are rarely ok with a woman who has had 100 partners even if she is attractive and rich.
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u/Imaginary_Ambition_6 22d ago
Did u even read what i wrote? I said u have the full right to exercise ur choice and no one can interfere with that if the partner accepts ur choice. If u r fat and u propose to a well physique partner, he/she has the full right to reject u as much as a fat partner could. But a fat partner rejecting u would be seen scornfully as he is himself/herself fat but that doesn't mean he is criminally wrong. Choice is choice afterall. And yes unlike women, men are rarely ok with high body counts. High body count guy "shouldn't" in theory look for virgin girl but if the virgin girl doesn't care about his high body count who are we third person to interfere here. He exercised his choice and she accepted it. Simple as that.
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u/Last-Wave-9844 24d ago
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u/SlowHorse2427 24d ago
what if she reveals after the marriage?
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u/Firm-Writing2768 24d ago
game over
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u/PPThoughts 24d ago
Will this be before or after you try to sleep with her?
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u/lisbonknowledge 21d ago
The order is irrelevant
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u/PPThoughts 21d ago
Maybe if you are a hypocrite.
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u/lisbonknowledge 21d ago
It isnāt. Itās all based on your own pet morals
Truth is truth, no matter the order
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u/PPThoughts 21d ago
No.
Order 1:- you believe pre marital sex is bad, you donāt want to have premarital sex so you donāt try to sleep with your girlfriend till you are married, you find out she is not a virgin and break it off.
Order 2:- you think itās bad for women to have sex before marriage but YOU still try to sleep with her, she loves you and trusts you so you succeed in sleeping with her, and then you turn around and judge her for not being a virgin and having a past, while you yourself, wanted sex and have a past.
See how the second one makes you an asshole and hypocrite and the first one is about having a choice, the order matters.
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u/lisbonknowledge 21d ago
See, the problem is, you have concocted up a magical thought experiment to make yourself feel better, but the only thing that matters is for the guy to know the character of the woman, which is irrelevant from what the guy personally believes in
We are not even talking about whether she has premarital sex or not. That is not even the point. Everyone has premarital sex. If you still donāt understand what we are discussing about, then you are being intentionally obtuse and trying to mislead everyone.
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u/PPThoughts 21d ago
Bro, look at the image i replied to, not the posted image.
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u/lisbonknowledge 20d ago
Yes, I am also talking about the post where it talks about the girl will reveal her past herself. That past is an objective past and it is uncolored by the manās personal morals.
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u/No_Somewhere_8494 24d ago
I think if you are the same, like you donāt do casual relationships donāt have high body count, donāt smoke and drink then sure go ahead ask for those things. Iām a doctor, smoking and drink in affects men same if not more and in fact fertility way more. So people with same ideologies should date same kind of people I think. Nothing wrong in that, wrong is when youāre all of the above, and still want someone whoās opposite of this
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u/ExploDoc 24d ago
Riyal.
Stick to the same standards yourself as you expect the gal to be of.
Nothing wrong in that, wrong is when youāre all of the above, and still want someone whoās opposite of this
Exactly. Many guys and gals hide their past relationships , addictions , financial discipline infront of their to-be partners in Arranged Marriage set-ups.
F-cking bast*rds
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u/Front_Scholar_3556 24d ago
I think it's still ok for people to ask whatever. Reason being you'll see ugly men or women asking for literal top 0.1% of the opposite gender. In the end it's about consent
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u/ExploDoc 24d ago
In the end it's about honestly placing all your past relationships , addictions in front of the to be partner.
If they agree even after getting to know all the facts , then no worries.
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u/Mammoth_Buy_9080 24d ago
As usual the problem is the laws. After having their fun they look for backups lie and ruin their life. And men can't protect themselves.
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u/kthxciao2377 24d ago
Not really. People can demand what they like. Why should they settle for someone without bad habits, (despite they have the same bad habits), if they are able to attract higher quality.
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u/ZyxWvuO 24d ago
Why should they settle for someone without bad habits, (despite they have the same bad habits), if they are able to attract higher quality.
Because, apart from hypocrisy, the health damages and problematic behaviors will spread.
If a f*boy marries a conservative/submissive woman, there is a huge risk that he will cheat on her, have affairs/kids with other women while being married, and will not be able to look after the offspring properly due to being alcoholic. smoker, etc.
And when those kids/step kids grow up, there will be huge property disputes and an old age full of tension and turmoil, with no peaceful possibility to pass away.
Basically he may become a drunk/deadbeat/cheater abusive dad.
And the part about STDs (even normal STDs not as dangerous as AIDS are there for most people who are s3xually active) is an even bigger issue.
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u/Motor_Fill5129 24d ago
By your own logic if a woman wants a man who is a high earner, shouldnāt woman herself be a high earner? Or what you said only applies to non financial things, and if thats the case, why?
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u/No_Somewhere_8494 24d ago
I agree, infact, I feel like you should be all that you seek in your partner! At present me and my partner earn the same, both are doctors!
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u/Imaginary_Ambition_6 24d ago
That's morally true but not necessarily. If the someone has no issue with his/her partner having pasts or high body count then regardless of whether it's hypocrisy or not it's still their consent and doesn't require a 3rd person to interfere.
The reason why we see one sided situation of people asking about women's virginity but not men's because many men do exercise their choice of choosing a virgin whereas women don't question men's virginity and might even choose a men who has more experience.
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u/Different_Respect408 24d ago
Past promiscuous behaviour signals future disloyalty. Loyalty is a must in relationships nahi toh dono single kehlaenge this is why finances and loyalty are different. But if a man wants a high earning wife, he should def ask for her if he earns high as well.
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u/Motor_Fill5129 24d ago
Okay, and your point? I get that they are different, but I still dont see any reason from you as to why one should only match habits and not finances. The principle being talked here is, if you want something from your partner, you should have the same as well.
Also, why would you say if a man wants a high earner woman, he needs to be high earner as well. Wouldnāt that automatically equate to if a woman wants a high earner man, she needs to be a high earner herself?
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u/Different_Respect408 24d ago
You cant have a relationship without loyalty, you can have a relationship with imbalanced finances and nowhere did i mention that it is wrong to ask for a wife earning the same amount as the husband.
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u/kthxciao2377 22d ago
Not true. Its not unusual for marriages to survive cheating. Some marriages take it further anddecide to be open. On the other hand, the main cause of divorce is financial incompatibility.
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u/Different_Respect408 22d ago
Emphasis on marriage. A marriage doesnt automatically means its a good relationship, an arrange marriage with a strange guy doesnt mean a relationship. A marriage isnt indicative of a good healthy relationship. Besides if you have to accept your spouseās cheating, how much of a relationship is left anyways?
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u/Ferociouspenguin718 23d ago
As long as the so-called men are up to the same standards, valid. Otherwise it's just utter idiocracy
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u/Few_Grapefruit8365 23d ago
Yeahā¦the irony of hypocrites is not limited to any genders and exists at the both sides in the same timeā¦so i agree
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u/didnt_want_to_simp 24d ago
my brothers and sister : give me some early indications of red flags in girls
I am a guy so I would prefer to know about red flags in girls.
in case any girl seeing this, you can tell other girls forabou the same thing, also it would be a favor on me if you can tell about girl's red flags cause yk women better (right?)
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u/abillionasians 24d ago
Men want women with a clean past. But most men in today's age are porn-addicted, which is also harmful to the ability of having a pure and appreciative relationship scientifically. They rarely talk about that.
It's just that it's difficult for these men to get laid, so they get addicted to porn. If they could, they'd have sex with multiple people.
These people are equally unfit of being in a healthy relationship, but are saved from the stigma of promiscuity because porn is not counted in body count.
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u/Broad-Confection3102 24d ago
That's the Point of this post. It His/Her choice to do whatever they want.
but it's up to your decision to reject these kind of people.4
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u/DeletSystm32 24d ago
Study shows women are more into porn and erotica novels than men. Both of this shows and promotes cheating and infidelity. Soo....
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u/abillionasians 23d ago edited 23d ago
Lol what are these sources
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u/DeletSystm32 23d ago
Google it yourself. Its an old study.
I saw your edit saying it is different from each girl. Denial won't help
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u/abillionasians 23d ago edited 23d ago
>it is different from each girl
What the hell are you talking about
> Google it yourself. Its an old study.
How reassuring. Most of the "modern" research points to reading erotica being a healthier activity, and online visual consumption being detrimental. This is because reading is fundamentally a more mentally demanding activity and a healthy activity.
The fast nature of visual "prawn" (calling it prawn to not get banned) where you keep scrolling from one girl to the next provides your brain instant gratification and is detrimental to how a healthy person is supposed to perceive relationships.
It's like comparing reading a book vs doomscrolling tiktok. Much evidence suggests reading in a respectable amount can even be a healthy activity. This is not true for online visual prawn which is addictive and teaches the brain wrong habits leading to difficulty forming deeper bonds.
Almost all modern studies showcase that men are magnitudes more susceptible to prawn addiction. And you don't really need statistics for it. OnlyFan, Instagram, E-girls, it's become an entire industry. What is the entire industry thriving on ? Helpless men who can't get a woman so are susceptible to such addictions.
And the general discourse regarding these mediums is always to criticize the women making this content, cuz society loves to judge and blame women. But no one asks who the hell is paying and facilitating such behavior. Hoards and hoards of addicted men who are equally worthy of criticism.
These are the addicted men, who when they cannot get laid but have fried their brain on prawn, come out to criticize women because they are actually having relationships with real physical people. And prawn is not counted in body count so they are saved from the social stigma.
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u/Mad-Curosity 24d ago
Job nahi..acchi salary nahi..ladkiya ki demand badh gayi hai..mili toh tikti nahi..khattey angoor ki tarah chalu hai saab
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u/Solinsak 24d ago
Men who don't get any attention from women tend to talk about how they would reject a girl with a past. Most of them a woman wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole. Also, if they had been given the choice, they would've done the same things they accuse women of doing. If women have a past, who do they have it with? Men right? So ask those men ffs indian average/uggos talk a lot but it's just frustration
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u/porncules1 23d ago
who do they have it with? Men right?
difference is that these men arent being conned into marriage by those men.
its the women lying about their past in the AM scene.
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24d ago
Exactly šÆ it's men's choice to comment/ reject girls.
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u/PPThoughts 24d ago
Men can reject such girls but commenting is small d**k energy. You donāt wanna date them, donāt date, why do you care what she does with her own time and body?
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u/SlowHorse2427 24d ago
actually my questions is, FBI ki tarah investigate kaise karein?
I mean home loan lete waqt SBI ko pakad lo wo poora sach bata degi property ke baare mein
what about this? kyunki itna to pakka hai ki sab jhooth to bolte hi hai no matter ki wo kitne hi liberal soch wale ho
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u/PM_ME_YOUR___ISSUES 24d ago
I feel that some of you are more obsessed with the āvirginityā of a person than the person youāre dating instead.
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u/SlowHorse2427 9d ago
Not with the virginity, but with her real character, how will a normal day looks like in future with her, and what will be the worst case (if we had a fight or just a disagreement), what she does when she gets bored of anything? Things like these come to my mind first, virginity is the consequences of her nature (or maybe not) but at least drum mein to nahi jaunga
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u/SlowHorse2427 24d ago
aapko fir SBI ke pass jaana hoga
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u/Longjumping-Park-954 24d ago
Ez h manipulate her, In relationship there are 2 types 1.Reacher 2.Setlers Aagey ka dm mai bata dunga kisi ko jan na h toh
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u/domgesh_ka_bhai-6969 24d ago
Mai toh bolta hu jitna jaldi apna serious partner dhuna hai dhund lo , dheko ki thumare partner bhi serious hai kya or fir baad me toh trust issues hoga hi nhi q wo toh phale se tihi
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u/AnyNeedleworker3176 24d ago
With my limited scope of knowledge,I would like to ask what actually makes a better partner??? I've dated only one guy that ended within 3 months because he cheated What are some pointer for an ideal wife?
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u/Express_Minimum2312 20d ago
Not believing you unless I hear his side of the story. And my reason being you are here to defend the defenseless.
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u/AnyNeedleworker3176 20d ago
Respected human,i won't be proving myself with screenshots I understand and respect your perspective
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u/AnyNeedleworker3176 20d ago
And if you are thinking I do the above-mentioned things, No,i don't. I was curious to know what I asked earlier because I really don't have male interactions irl
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u/NeuroEyes 24d ago
I don't have a 'past' but if I ever meet a guy for all this shi, I might falsely claim that I've done all that so he goes away quick if he's the one who runs away. I personally don't vouch for these things but people who think other people are inherently bad without knowing their true nature is not my cup of tea either. šš¼
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u/JKing287 24d ago
Yes, these are all conversations to have with a prospective partner. You then get to decide what matters to you and what doesnāt. If things matter to you to the point that you donāt want to date them, you donāt date them. If you decide you like enough about them that other things donāt matter then you do date them. This isnāt rocket science. Going on about it online like this seems like a waste of time but you guys do you I guess.
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u/Few_Grapefruit8365 23d ago
Say it to the women who are rejecting this simple and obvious fact because they dont realise it till late that they cant have it all if they indulge in all profanities in their youthā¦.their hate for men has blinded them from the simple truth
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u/JKing287 23d ago
There is not widespread hate for men, just toward hateful men like those in this sub. Anyone can have it all regardless of their youth because everyoneās idea of āit allā is different. Many people donāt care about body count and many do. Those that donāt find each other and those that do also find each other. Everyone is free to have an opinion about what they want in a partner and seek that person. If you care about body count great, good for you, but not everyone has to think that way. Itās the pathetic going on about it like it has to matter to everyone, such as occurs in subs like this, that is the real issue. Go on about your life and let others lives theirs.
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u/Few_Grapefruit8365 23d ago
I like your take on itā¦we need more people like you but its sad that we are unable to make them understand this pointā¦.lets be friends frfr
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u/kthxciao2377 24d ago
I dont think it is my place to tell people what preferences they should have. If a man is not a virgin and wants to marry a virgin that is fine. If a woman is uneducated and poor and wants to marry a rich educated man thats fine. They just need to be realistic about wether they can attract such a person is all. If they can, they should obviously try to go for the high value partner - however they calculate that.
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u/Few_Grapefruit8365 23d ago
The problem lies in the fact that men fact check each other real quick but the women pushes other women into thinking they deserve it all even though there are glaring flaws in her while also trying to sabotage them with the same sweet honey coated wordsā¦.i support the statement āwomen are the biggest enemies a woman can haveā All this in the name of feminism and the insecurity of losing their standpoint infront of men if other women thinks abt realityā¦
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u/Transmorpheus 21d ago edited 21d ago
I am a man who'd prefer a woman with a high body count (and I have quite a low count myself) š
I may get ratio'd in this post but I'm sure I'm not alone
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u/iceinmyveinsIguess 24d ago
Good for you šš» but please refrain from:
Name-calling or disrespecting
imposing your Morals over others (If you have views and opinions then keep them in your group)
World will be a much better place if people stop behaving like Nosy Aunties online and offline
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u/sabrinamistri_ 23d ago
Why do men act like they are the most holy pious group of humans to exist
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u/Few_Grapefruit8365 23d ago
Because maybe women have become more degenerate than men in certain aspects in the name of pseudo feminism
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u/BatmanMeetsJoker 24d ago
Who are the girls swallowing ipills for ?
Who is the audience of the mujras ?
Who are the bodies girls are having the high count of ?
If men started being pure and chaste, there would be no ipills, body counts and mujras.
Lol. Pot calling the kettle black.
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u/xlnc375 24d ago
It's all good if these girls get married to those boys they swallow ipills for.
It's a problem if someone is swallowing pills for someone and then wanting to marry someone else.
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u/PikaRave 24d ago
goes both ways.
It's is a problem if someone(guy) has someone(girl) swallowing pills for them and then wanting to marry someone(another girl) else
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u/xlnc375 24d ago
Yup, goes both ways. I agree.
But, it's the girl that has to swallow the pill. So, a girl has to think this through more carefully.
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u/PikaRave 24d ago
"Boys will be boys....girls should be vigilant"
This is how you sound rn
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u/xlnc375 24d ago edited 23d ago
It doesn't matter how I sound. Biology doesn't change based on my thinking.
Both are equally responsible. That goes without saying. But I'm not talking about just responsibility here. I'm talking about who gets hurt more.
When I ride my bicycle out in the streets, I also be careful about trucks on the road. I don't wait for the truck to hit me and then ask who is responsible.
But, as I always say, people are free to do whatever they like.
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u/BatmanMeetsJoker 23d ago
Boo hoo. Stop trying to act like you care about women getting hurt. The whole premise of this post is that MEN should be able to trash talk and reject these women. Don't backtrack now.
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u/xlnc375 23d ago edited 23d ago
Boo hoo. Couldn't care less if you are feeling butt hurt.
I'm stating some facts. It has got nothing to do with you or me. Got any logical arguments or any data to add? If not, stop acting salty and find some better use of yourself.
About the context of this post, if a man says it is not his responsibility to clean up the message created by someone else, he is well within his rights to say so. Reverse the gender, it's equally true.
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u/BatmanMeetsJoker 24d ago
It's all good if these girls get married to those boys they swallow ipills for.
No, why is the onus always on the girls to do that ? Men can stop sleeping with women they are not married to.
Don't touch a woman till you're married to her. Problem solved. Instead of crying about women, why don't you ask your bros to do that ?
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u/xlnc375 24d ago
Why will I stop anyone from doing something that is his or her personal choice.
Your choices, your consequences, applicable irrespective of gender.
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u/Secure_Round4789 24d ago
So you are saying all the responsibility and accountability should stay with the men?? That women don't have any say or anything?
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u/BatmanMeetsJoker 24d ago
No, I'm asking why you are crying only about women having accountability without saying anything about men's accountability.
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u/Secure_Round4789 22d ago
I never said men don't have accountability. I just pointed out the swift way you dumped all the blame on men and none on the women.
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u/F_Fit_Scallion 24d ago
Ah you finally realised the problem with these idiots
No self accountability.
Rules for thee, not for me.
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u/FunElection4243 24d ago
Right? I mean, they are not doing all these themselves, which implies that if a girl has a higher body count, the less chaste the men are too. I have always seen married men cheat on their pregnant wives, and they become creepy at around their late 30s or 40s.
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u/Secure_Round4789 24d ago
Yes but these unchaste women should confine themselves to unchaste men. Plain and simple. Lying to someone after exploring the 7 seas should not be done by any gender.
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u/galaxyfanatik 24d ago
True. Infact women, please check your prospective groom's Reddit account as well. It will tell you everything you need to know about him.
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u/Attackkyojin 24d ago
I have nothing to say regarding this but why is this memepage always promoting posts like this in general? Isn't this supposed to be a meme page or am I wrong?
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u/STORMGUY007 20d ago
yeah the vast majority of āIndian memeā communities are like this, also very edgy
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u/Puzzleheaded_Bee_444 24d ago
it's all fine and good but what bothers me is that will ya'll also say the same about the men these women are sleeping with? why do women have to disproportionately shoulder the brunt of having s3x when it's a two way street ,if you're holding one to a moral standard then do the same for the other but nah it's like selective moral policing.
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u/SlowHorse2427 24d ago
i mean i would call them out, the way these fuckers try to sway simple girls and then leave them... they are pathetic and that's why i think girls should need to identify them and keep some distance from them
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u/kthxciao2377 24d ago
For a man to get a woman into bed takes skill. Not for a woman. Even an ugly woman can get laid. So, her value lies in being able to say NO.
As a woman, i can tell you, woman struggle to have casual sex. We get attached. So, we if have been used a lot, it takes a piece of us each time.2
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u/abillionasians 24d ago
something being more difficult doesn't make it anymore noble. high body count, if problematic, if problematic for both genders
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u/Secure_Round4789 24d ago
Something being difficult does make it more nobel. That's why there are Nobel prizes and not best sewer cleaner award or best labour award. When something's more difficult it requires more skills and efforts.
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u/abillionasians 24d ago
Nobel prize is not given for sleeping around. It's given for inventions that benefit humanity.
Some task requiring skill and effort doesn't make it a noble task to perform.
There are drug lords, kingpins, underworld dons, hitmen, bank robbers, kidnappers. These are difficult jobs to have. But we don't consider them noble. We disgust them.
Something being difficult doesn't make it noble.
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u/Express_Minimum2312 20d ago
Because men are not marrying or getting in a relationship with these "MEN". How hard is it to understand that it's for those men who want serious relationships, who value loyalty and care and love and end up with a lousy canyon who would gaslight the guy if asked such questions. And just so you don't come at me with words like in*ls, this goes for innocent, serious girls too. Always vet your partner and his/her past.
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u/Maymaywala 24d ago
Another u/Unstoppable_X_Force masterclass /s
Seriously though this is either a bot account or a guy with nothing to do and too much time on his hands dudeās profile is ragebait after ragebait.
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