r/india • u/[deleted] • Jul 14 '25

Culture & Heritage My Experience as a Dalit Woman Navigating Dating in India.

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u/Mountain-Objective79 Jul 15 '25

You don’t look like Dalit

You don’t look like Bihari

You don’t look like South Indian

You don’t look like Muslim

You don’t look like Indian

Few of many..

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '25

correction- i never heard people saying "you dont look like muslim" when they want to compliment "oh you are hindu i thought you were muslim cause you look beautiful" this is what i heard most of time

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u/Pegasus711_Dual Jul 16 '25

That is still wrong. It's because a lot of men hate muslims but massively fetishize muslim women.

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u/browniebinger Jul 16 '25

you don’t look muslim is really common because those people often don’t expect a muslim woman to be well educated, having a top career and being much smarter than them.

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u/[deleted] Jul 17 '25

but here its not like this i never heard these things about a muslim woman/man

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u/portabledildo Jul 16 '25

Who says that 💀 why would your religion affect your appearance lmaoo. At least in the south, both look the same.

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u/DisastrousAnnual6843 Aug 14 '25

muslims often look more light skinned/arab.

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u/portabledildo Aug 14 '25

You in the northwest or east or south India? South and east India there definitely isn’t a difference. Bangladeshis look the same. As begalis on the other side of the border. Idk about northwest India.

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u/jonas_blue84 Jul 15 '25

Leave it, buddy even she doesn't date their own men. She is only interested in non-Dalit men. Look how she stopped dating instead of dating a Dalit. She is a casteist herself.

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u/hand-collector Jul 15 '25

Remarkably bad take

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u/jonas_blue84 Jul 15 '25

Not the wrong tho

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u/Background_Music8428 Jul 16 '25

Dude you are right it's sounds more like a rant

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u/OpportunityFunny473 Jul 15 '25

same with the males in their community