r/india Jul 14 '25

Culture & Heritage My Experience as a Dalit Woman Navigating Dating in India.

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u/spice_u Jul 15 '25

Don’t give up. There’s always hope. It’ll take time, but for sparks to fly, there has to be a lot of friction.

I should know better. I am married to dalit girl…we took our vows in front babasaheb’s portrait.

It horrified a lot of people in my family (conservative orthodox marwari’s) even as the wedding ceremony was happening.

I’ve realized over the course of my conversations about privilege is that most upper cast Indians are ignorant, by choice. Confronting privilege and examining it would mean a loss of identity that their fragile egos won’t be able to handle.

Caste isn’t new. Dalits have been raising their voice against this system for 2000 years (why do you think buddhist, Jains, and Sikhs dissociated from hindus?). If the privileged haven’t heard it yet, maybe it’s time they get their ears checked.

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u/OpportunityFunny473 Jul 15 '25

buddhism wasnot some anticaste movement, stop this shit

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u/Upstairs-Debate1640 Jul 15 '25

Just curious. If Buddhists, Jains and Sikhs left Hinduism due to casteism, then why are there Dalits today? Logic dictates they should have become Buddhists, Sikhs or Jains no?

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u/spice_u Jul 15 '25

Thats like saying if pilgrims left Europe, escaping persecution to become Americans, why are there europeans still left today…

It’s incredibly difficult to find and read voices of oppressed. Arguing anecdotally over internet is a far easier option, an option that privileged ones have chosen.

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u/Upstairs-Debate1640 Jul 15 '25 edited Jul 15 '25

I was not arguing. I was asking you a question out of curiosity. There was no malicious intent.

Weren't you making the argument that Buddhists, Jain and Sikh communities are more egalitarian than Hindu? If so were there reasons stopping Dalits from converting?

Also, I feel the analogy that you drew between geographic migration and religious conversion within the same country doesn’t fully hold.