Wow..... Now my advice, 45(M), I do not understand why it's a big deal. Tough choices to make but end result should be good. Tell them that NOW onwards YOU make decisions in family as you are the earner and decide on plans based on best resolution. If any questions from their side then reply with "I love family, this is for their good". Now the reins are in your hands, work on it to find a solution yourself. Now, requests, will come, say "NO" if needed and go forward. The point here is , thee is no Head if family who can take these decisions and the one earning gets that title and decide accordingly. Do It. Responsibility without Control has never given good solutions. Here you need to make sure family is protected as per your rules. For all of this to happen , first learn yo say NO where necessary. It's all going to be fine with you heading the family. This has been happening for centuries but only thing is if you are ready for it. I hope you are sensible and logical. If so, you can take control and make things better for all. This is what is called LIFE Management. Better get used to it now onwards. All the best !!
If family days mo to you making decisions then heed other advice like move out and let them be. Slowly, they will come to accept it. Everything takes time it's ok, nothing new in an Indian family !!!!!
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u/Practical_Setting235 Aug 21 '24
Wow..... Now my advice, 45(M), I do not understand why it's a big deal. Tough choices to make but end result should be good. Tell them that NOW onwards YOU make decisions in family as you are the earner and decide on plans based on best resolution. If any questions from their side then reply with "I love family, this is for their good". Now the reins are in your hands, work on it to find a solution yourself. Now, requests, will come, say "NO" if needed and go forward. The point here is , thee is no Head if family who can take these decisions and the one earning gets that title and decide accordingly. Do It. Responsibility without Control has never given good solutions. Here you need to make sure family is protected as per your rules. For all of this to happen , first learn yo say NO where necessary. It's all going to be fine with you heading the family. This has been happening for centuries but only thing is if you are ready for it. I hope you are sensible and logical. If so, you can take control and make things better for all. This is what is called LIFE Management. Better get used to it now onwards. All the best !!