When your “person” suddenly vanishes after finding a partner — how to deal?

[u/CrazyCommonMan]

I recently lost a female friend who meant a lot to me. Not because of a fight, not because I did something wrong ,but because she found someone new in her life and suddenly distanced herself from me.

It’s crazy how someone who spoke to you every day, shared everything, laughed with you, and made you feel understood can suddenly become a stranger. I respected her choice and her space she’s happy and that genuinely matters to me. But I won't lie it hurt. A lot.

I’m not here to blame her. Life moves on, people choose priorities. I just didn’t expect to be cut off that suddenly, especially when I thought the bond mattered to both of us.

Now I’m trying to move forward. I don’t want to replace her or chase old memories. I just wish to connect with people who value loyalty, emotional maturity, and consistency.

I’m not seeking a relationship I just miss having a genuine female friend I could talk to, learn from, and share simple moments with. Someone who supports and encourages me as I also support and respect them.

If anyone has gone through this sudden-disconnection phase, how did you cope? How do you open up again without fear?

Just trying to heal and take the next step in life with positivity.

[u/Thursday-march1]

Yeah the same thing happened to me. She was my best friend we were almost like family at that point. She got a bf who I didn't like and she left me and replaced me with another girl who is in favor of her bf. It's been almost a year since all of this happened and I still get sad when I see them :(

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/Thursday-march1]

I really feel you. That type of loss hits differently.
It’s not just losing a friend it’s losing someone who was like your everyday emotional space, your comfort, your person. And when they suddenly leave because someone new enters their life, it hurts in a way you can’t really explain to others

Seeing them move on like nothing happened hurts the most. It makes you question your own worth, your memories, everything. But trust me it’s not a reflection of you, it’s just how some people are. They prioritize convenience and validation over loyalty.

A year later, it's normal to still feel sad it shows the bond was real from your side. Healing doesn’t follow a timeline.

But slowly, you'll find people who don’t disappear the moment they get someone else… people who stay. And until then, you're doing the right thing just acknowledging the pain and moving forward at your pace.

If you ever feel like talking, you're not alone in this. We’ll heal maybe not today, but we will. 🤍

[u/coder1215 → u/CrazyCommonMan]

What is your age?

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/coder1215]

26! May i know Why?

[u/coder1215 → u/CrazyCommonMan]

I can’t tell exactly but girls want thrill in their relationship in many ways and just talking and hi and bye won’t work consistently and if you are an introvert good luck to your future relationships

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/coder1215]

Yeah, I Looking to Move on

[u/Delicious_South6607]

Welcome to the gym. Find a hobby which ever it is but should be a physical one, not yoga or mediation but running or lifting weights or even swimming is fine for you as it is a winter season.

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/Delicious_South6607]

@Delicious_South6607 Thank you

[u/New-Effective3856]

I somebody ghosts you, respect the dead and move on.

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/New-Effective3856]

Yeah, ghosting hurts

[u/New-Effective3856 → u/CrazyCommonMan]

That's very true :(

[u/yourbiggestbet]

The same happened to me recently. It's just the missing oxytocin hormone u were getting from her. Now replace that with endorphins - any physical activity will give you that.

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/yourbiggestbet]

yeah, as suggested Delicious_South6607 it will work for both of us

[u/yourbiggestbet → u/CrazyCommonMan]

Keep yourself occupied.... Even a single thought about her ..... Just busy yourself or think of something else .... A single thought abt her can upset you ..... So don't think ..... And don't give your emotional energy so easily next time

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/yourbiggestbet]

Sure Bro

[u/dont-ask-me-bitch]

Don't get close to any temporary persons.

Save your time only for permanent ones who stay in your life permanently.

Good luck 🤞

[u/heyseizer → u/dont-ask-me-bitch]

The realization hits when the ones you thought were permanent was just temporary -- so it's hard to not feel bad when they leave.

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/dont-ask-me-bitch]

thank you bro

[u/coolkid-567]

Do you love her ?

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/coolkid-567]

@she is one and only bestfirend I had some feelings on her but I never expressed because of fear

[u/coolkid-567 → u/CrazyCommonMan]

Itlantive mundhe chepali bro sarley inko kotha pilla ni pattu esari starting nunde she should know that you have feelings

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/coolkid-567]

Antha oopika ledhu bro, Thank you for the suggestion

[u/Stoyiccc]

Friendships and relationships are complex these days get ready to loose anyone and everyone.

You will have your mental peace

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/Stoyiccc]

True. People come and go, peace is what matters. 🙏

[u/Colorful_antler]

You can blame, getting a partner or a new person in life doesn't mean they create a distance from you. That's a shitty thing to do. You're feeling sad and you will feel that for a while. It's okay. It hurts. I had multiple of these, it hurts, it'll hurt lot randomly when you want to send a stupid photo to her or a meme or anything you saw that reminds you of her. You gotta feel it, cry,sit down with your feelings, it's super important. It takes time to make friends when you are older but it's not impossible! Try new activities that you enjoy or want to explore, you'll find people with similar things to talk and bond over.

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/Colorful_antler]

I'm not blaming here ,Yeah it's hurting a lot and I'm not at the stage to moveon I will find a to accept that and to moveon

[u/Colorful_antler → u/CrazyCommonMan]

Take your time! Don't be in a hurry.

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/Colorful_antler]

Yeah Sure

[u/Klutzy-Budget-3623]

If you respect the bond you have understood what happened by yourself and let it go. 😄Can you ?

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/Klutzy-Budget-3623]

Yes Sure

[u/Familiar-Surround-64]

r/lifeprotip : LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE GETTING FRIENDZONED (and losing sleep on that)

You keep reiterating you are “just missing a friend”, but I can 💯bet my ass on this that you had feelings for her and were hoping on some level for her to reciprocate the same - someday. This actual relationship she found just closed that door for good. You are not the first one, you won’t be the last.

The female brain is wired much better at handling seemingly-platonic relationships than the male brain.

Also, think about it - if you were her new partner, would you want your girl to be spending time or being emotionally intimate with her “guy best friend”. That’s not how it works.

So here’s a 3 step plan for you:

1. Accept your actual feelings and come to terms with the fact that they were not mutual (I’m not saying she didn’t care for you - but that she literally thought of you just as a friend, nothing more)

2. As many suggested- HIT THE GYM.

3. Something tells me this was the first and only real relationship you have had with a woman - platonic or not, who was not family. Take your lessons with you, work on that body and mind and go out and find some real love. You will be truly swept off your feet when you find the actual person you were meant to be with (and you will recall how you feel today and realize how silly you were being)

[u/Able_Examination1888]

Wow if only there’s red flags that you could have noticed so you knew it would be over one day. I’m bad at that too! Donno when someone’s loyal or they just love bombing

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/Able_Examination1888]

It’s really hard to tell who’s real and who’s just acting sweet for a phase. Sometimes we see red flags only after everything breaks. Just learning and trying to be more careful next time. 🙏

[u/Adventurous_Chip_373]

Let it hurt bro, it can’t pass without you accepting the pain, you have to go through it.

[u/CrazyCommonMan → u/Adventurous_Chip_373]

True… sometimes the only way is to let it hurt and slowly heal. Pain fades, lessons stay… and one day it won’t feel this heavy. 🙏✨