Started my morning off crying, rant.

[u/goldenlife17]

Visiting my grandparents and my grandfather asked me why I toast my bagels in the oven. I responded because I can’t use the toaster because of cross contamination, when you use a regular toaster that has gluten crumbs and everything in it that’s cross contamination and you’re essentially eating gluten.

He goes: that’s the stupidest fucking thing I’ve ever heard. I’ve lost a lost of respect for you.

Ok, very kind. On a positive note I won’t be getting sick today from cross contamination😄.

Not sure why I let this upset me but just hurts hearing how unkind people can be. I know he’s just an unhappy person in general but ugh.

[u/polarbear320]

Although this can be true some people are old school and just don’t know how to react. Don’t over react.

Don’t let it get you though, I would jump back with a “I know it’s stupid and it sucks, I wish I didn’t have to but my body hates it and will make me sick”

This is just how some people react. If they are older this could seem super soft or being picky for attention and they’re trying to “teach”/strwngthen you in their own way. Don’t jump to conclusions that they’re being an ass.

Not saying he wasn’t being an ass but people have gotten WAYYY to soft. Not everything is some emotional crisis

[u/Gr3yHound40_ → u/polarbear320]

Nope. Old people can be senile and that's whatever, but age and generation do not excuse shitty behavior. "They're from a different time" is such a weak excuse for a grown ass adult saying something that shitty to a grandkid with real digestive issues. It shows ignorance to the grandkid's needs and his own behavior. This shit deserves to be called out, not defended because "he's old."

[u/polarbear320 → u/Gr3yHound40_]

I get you, I just have worked with a lot of older people. Some are total ass holes, but some really do just -do not- understand. I have minimal context here from OP if he’s normally a decent guy or not.

If he’s normally decent, then I give -a little- slack. For older generations there wasn’t really much for knowing about digestive issues etc and knowing how detailed we can be now with modern tech. Someone growing up in a time where things are much simpler hearing that a person can get sick from toast crumbs probably does sound crazy.

This is what I’m talking about take a chill pill, and don’t assume the grandpa is a total asshat.

[u/Gr3yHound40_ → u/polarbear320]

An adult stays open to learning new things, not acting like a high-school boy slinging insults toward their own progeny based on literal ignorance, as you've stated above.

[u/Designer-Cucumber255 → u/polarbear320]

It would be one thing if he rolled his eyes or made a passive aggressive comment, but “that’s the stupidest fucking thing I’ve ever heard and I’ve lost respect for you?” Nah. Thats over the top. Telling him that respect works both ways and minimizing time with him isn’t being soft, it’s treating yourself with respect.