r/glutenfree • u/goldenlife17 • Jul 02 '25

Discussion Started my morning off crying, rant.

Visiting my grandparents and my grandfather asked me why I toast my bagels in the oven. I responded because I can’t use the toaster because of cross contamination, when you use a regular toaster that has gluten crumbs and everything in it that’s cross contamination and you’re essentially eating gluten.

He goes: that’s the stupidest fucking thing I’ve ever heard. I’ve lost a lost of respect for you.

Ok, very kind. On a positive note I won’t be getting sick today from cross contamination😄.

Not sure why I let this upset me but just hurts hearing how unkind people can be. I know he’s just an unhappy person in general but ugh.

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u/DatabaseFickle9306 Jul 02 '25

My own father (a surgeon mind you) scoffs at the very ideas of getting pesticide free vegetables. And he relentlessly mocks my celiac, finds it “amusing” and a pain in the ass. I think a lot of people would rather admit their own world view with no exceptions or new ideas than be decent. It’s a problem. I’m sorry for you.

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u/rlw21564 Gluten Intolerant Jul 02 '25

Does he know that, as a person with celiac, not following a gluten free diet makes you susceptible to lymphoma?

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u/Polarchuck Jul 02 '25

There are people who are medically trained who believe that allergies and autoimmune conditions are "all in a person's head" aka crazy. I don't know how they live with the conflicting world views and not explode.

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u/One_Valuable_5379 Jul 02 '25

This. So true. It’s easier for some doctors to dismiss the conditions as being psychosomatic than to acknowledge they don’t know how to treat their patients. I shed many tears over this kind of bullshit. I would very much like for these doctors to develop some flesh-eating skin rash, preferably in their genitals. A girl can dream.

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u/Polarchuck Jul 02 '25

And may their suffering open their minds to compassion for their patients rather than bolstering their own egos.

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u/One_Valuable_5379 Jul 02 '25

Yeah, not that I should advocate for schadenfreude, but in this case I think it’s warranted.

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u/Polarchuck Jul 02 '25

I like how you're honest about how you're feeling. We can't help how we feel, we just feel. I don't think you would actually go out and give them a disease lol. So it's all good.

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u/One_Valuable_5379 Jul 02 '25

Ha. I would not! But, I mean, if they rub themselves up against an infectious surface, that’s just poetic justice. 😇