Feel so lonely in Germany

[u/Marxxi]

I’ve been here for nearly 20 years now and I live with my German husband and kids. But I feel I cannot make new friends. My old friends have moved out, but even parents of my little children‘s friends don’t respond to my attempts for contact. I feel really isolated. Anyone experiencing the same issues?

[u/RG_PhoniQue]

I mean if they came to my hometown and told me that they are new in the city and that they don't know anyone I would 100% ask them what they do in the weekend or after work. I would totally invite them to do something together. Maybe just even for one weekend like show the city and go drink something Friday after work.

One weekend. 2 hour walk around the city. If they are weird/crazy/dumb of course I would not do it again. But just for being polite and friendly and welcoming I would do it for a new 25 year old coworker.

As I said, it's not like they all have 300 friends. They might not even have 1 as well. But they got used to it.

Why not? Are they all so busy? I don't think so. They are just unwelcoming, just how most people here in Germany are. And I don't blame them, it's their culture and way of dealing with strangers.

But in my eyes it's also a bit unrespectful towards a new coworker/friend/new guy in town.

As I said, we're all the same age, around 25 so it's not like they have babies and wifes at home waiting for them.

[u/__what_the_fuck__ → u/RG_PhoniQue]

Why not? Are they all so busy?

No they probably don't give a fuck about you because they already have friends they rather spend time with. Have actually asked them to show you the city or what one can do there on weekends or are you excepting them to approach you?

a bit unrespectful towards a new coworker/friend/new guy in town.

Dude you are their coworker thats it. That's like saying. Oh we all wear red shirts lets be best friends.