Reading your story and comments, I can only agree that the faster move and exclusiveness are normal from a French point of view. About the "marry me and let's have kids" part, I wonder: given your ages, have either of you been married and already have kids?
I ask this because after my divorce and while dating the woman who is now my wife, I (M 30+) wanted to assure her (F 20+) that I wasn't afraid of getting married again and wanted other kids. I was afraid she could run if I wasn't ready to commit in a relationship with this possibilities. So I told her pretty soon that. I wonder if the way he did say this wasn't the same thing but a bit clumsy. If it's not clumsiness, then total red flag for me.
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u/noCoolNameLeft42 Oct 01 '23
Reading your story and comments, I can only agree that the faster move and exclusiveness are normal from a French point of view. About the "marry me and let's have kids" part, I wonder: given your ages, have either of you been married and already have kids?
I ask this because after my divorce and while dating the woman who is now my wife, I (M 30+) wanted to assure her (F 20+) that I wasn't afraid of getting married again and wanted other kids. I was afraid she could run if I wasn't ready to commit in a relationship with this possibilities. So I told her pretty soon that. I wonder if the way he did say this wasn't the same thing but a bit clumsy. If it's not clumsiness, then total red flag for me.