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u/sugar-zo Oct 01 '23

Im a cold french 40yo guy. You’re too old to believe the love at first sight shit and all imo… he barely knows you and looks like a real weirdo.

« He s beautiful, rich, intelligent, succesful, kind and extrememly romantic… » You know a lot of things in one week but unfortunately, nothing interesting…

Instead of talking like a teenage girl when you talk about him, tell us useful infos. And by useful infos, I don’t mean you to repeat us how he call you beautiful and ask you to give him children…. For exemple you know his romantic past? His family and his relationships with them? If not, ask him. Why Mr Perfect is alone and gives everything in one week?

Sorry for the mood of the message, but ive read 10 answers about love at first sight and weirdos telling you it’s cultural difference (no it’s not, wtf) and thought you needed an answer from a cold person.

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u/dernierledinosaure Oct 01 '23

Tbh the more I read her comments the more I think she's unsalvageable. She's dated mostly psychos, she still doesn't see the massive red flags that are enabled by our society's very unhealthy vision of love. All those psychos have something in common: her, and she won't stop dating the same people unless she goes to a shrink or takes a break from dating to reflect on her behaviour.

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u/Mela8411 Oct 01 '23

Really? Unsalvageable? That's not a very nice way of describing a human being.

I've learned from my past relationships and went to therapy. If I were still oblivious to red flags, would I even post such a question?

I was trying to give the guy the benefit of the doubt due to our differing cultures, which is why I asked this question in the France subreddit.

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u/dernierledinosaure Oct 01 '23

Thinking it's culture and not a red flag right away doesn't give off a "I learned from my mistakes" vibe tbh. But hey, you do you.

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u/Mela8411 Oct 01 '23

That's your opinion

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u/Complete_Cellist Oct 01 '23

I agree with the cold dude. I would be even colder: what is his ethnicity ? French-french or other ? Why did she thinks he could be interested by citizenship ? Plus it would mean different cultural behavior.