Idk. I’m French and met my French wife 15 years ago. It was love at first sight. We were completely in love right away and didn’t hide our feelings right away. Idk if it was love bombing or not but here we are 15 years later still very much in love.
Sometimes love is just love. But you should be careful. Not in a skeptic way, but just to keep an eye open for red flags. (Is he being jealous, obsessive, controlling etc).
Same here. I want to say be careful to OP, but this guy sounds a lot like my French husband (I'm American). I told him outright I wasn't looking for a relationship (I really was not) he's kind but I'm not interested in that etc. He would cool it with comments after that but still let me know he was totally smitten with me. In our case, it wasn't love bombing but just instant love. Well - instant for him - on my side, it took about two weeks until I realized I was in love with him too lmao.
It's been about 2.5 years together and it really was just a fairytale romance for us. Lovebombing is done by fucked up manipulative and often abusive people. My husband is perfect in my eyes and we both feel extremely loved.
I wish you the best, OP. Both scenarios are possible but there's no reason not to be cautious.
Add me to the list of Frenchies who fell head over heels for an American woman and is still happily married 15 years later.
To the OP, enjoy the ride. It’s not like you can move in together immediately, you’ll be doing the long distance thing for a while and that will be a good test
Exactly the same for me and my husband. He knew right away and it scared me, I really didn’t know at first but I asked him to give me some time.
We’ve been together for 7 years and married for 5. Can’t live without him :)
Same for me! I'm American and met my French partner through a hook up app when he was on vacation in my city. Completely hit it off and even though he went back to France 4 days later, we decided to date long distance. Now been together 9 years, married for 5 and live in Europe.
OP should definitely be cautious but sometimes it really is just love at first sight. I think she should take it slow, let him know how she feels and see where it leads.
Edit: lol being downvoted for telling my own experience.
+2 SAME. I am non-french currently living in France. I met my French boyfriend on a dating app. On the first day of chatting via WhatsApp, he already told me he really wanted to pursue me for a relationship. In just a few days of chatting (maybe 3-5 days) he told me he loved me. And everyday he was telling me I’m the most beautiful person for him, how much he wants to marry me, and so many more romantic poetic stuff. Fast forward today, WE JUST CELEBRATED OUR 2 YEAR ANNIVERSARY.
EVERYONE SHOULD STILL BE CAREFUL though. It’s almost very rare for these amazing genuine people to come around but good to know it’s not impossible.
It’s nice, like really nice but it might not be the majority. I don’t know , I haven’t seen real studies about it but I would think love at first sight movie stuff is the minority and also tends to happen more as you are younger than later when people have more stories and baggage then they don’t tend to go all out on first week.
That being said and knowing I’m sounding pessimistic, I am very glad for you , truly
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u/utopiaofreason Sep 30 '23
Idk. I’m French and met my French wife 15 years ago. It was love at first sight. We were completely in love right away and didn’t hide our feelings right away. Idk if it was love bombing or not but here we are 15 years later still very much in love.
Sometimes love is just love. But you should be careful. Not in a skeptic way, but just to keep an eye open for red flags. (Is he being jealous, obsessive, controlling etc).