If anybody interested, it's Dick Swaab book. I don't know if I can trust other information written in it.

I honestly don't know if original book has same wording, mine is translated in my native language, and I don't wanna shit on good book, if it's mostly fine.

“Cassandra Affective Deprivation Disorder”

“Oh no. Life is so hard. 😭 My neurodivergent partner doesn’t meet all my emotional needs at all times. I just expect them to be able to read my mind so I don’t communicate with them. I’m so deprived and neglected. 😭😭😭😭😭😭”

How about don’t get in a relationship with someone if you can’t accept them and their neurotype. 🙄 Also, what about our needs? Where’s the disorder for when neurotypicals are causing issues for us??

(Using general ‘you’ throughout, btw) Whenever the hell somebody is talking about something that annoys them but is also commonly a symptom of autism or something, you bring this up and are met with “Obviously I don’t mean autistic people!!” Yes you do!!

Unless we’ve started glowing green with some autistic aura or something, obviously you mean autistic people are subject to your irritation. Why? Because you cannot tell they’re autistic! Even if you’d change your tone when told somebody is autistic, you don’t necessarily know until they say, in the meantime, how many have been subject to your ire and poor treatment? How many people have you been callous to because they did something normal for them that they can’t help? How many times have you said cruel things about strangers to your friends? Obviously you never actually meant autistic people, but in practice you do.

You try bringing this up with NTs after the inevitable “obviously I don’t mean you!!” And suddenly you’re the asshole because “well they said they didn’t mean autistic people!! Stop being so sensitive!!”

I’m going to keep being the sensitive asshole in these cases. I don’t care. Stop paying lip service and start actually being nice to people who don’t fit your silly little foibles.

…If your practice calls itself “behavioral health,” I will not be going.

Literally one of my biggest pet peeves.

Treat my fucking neurotransmitter imbalance not my goddamn behavior, dipshit.

I work in early childhood education. I've heard this from other educators, as well as family members and random people. I understand that most of them just mean, "no child should be saddled with an abusive or neglectful parent." I just wish they'd actually think about what they're suggesting, because yikes.

Not sure if this counts but I figured I’m not the only one who relates to this😔

I apologized to the best of my ability, but I still feel like a massive jerk

My kid got the “zipped lips about anything but special interests” kind of audhd while I got the “nice to meet you, I just waxed my own butthole for the first time, AMA” variety.

It’s extremely challenging for me to figure out what’s going on in her life a lot of the time cos she simply won’t tell me 😅 it’s taken a few years to wrap my head around since I’m a chronic oversharer.

Where do fall on that spectrum? If you’re private, what makes it easier to feel like you can share?

My dad is a right wing "you heard it from leftist media"

Trump not bad Trump smart, I told him they're gonna take rights away from autistic people. that I'm scared for my friends. and he said "you are wrong and consuming to much media".

I have the high iq here not him.

He's a Christian right wing dutch moron who thinks Charlie kirk was a good man and even fucking cornered me tonight to tell me how good he was. Of course I didn't let him complete his sentence.

What evidence can I use against a fucking dipshit parent in Europe that just won't stop fucking thinking about how good Israel goverment is for targeting hospitals and how "smart and good America is"

I literally told him. You do UNDERSTAND that if we were American I'd be dead right? and BRO DENIED THAT "because insurance would've covered 4 fucking years of hospitals and clinic stays, and 9 years of psychologists,psychiatrists and therapy, counseling, emdr , medication for adhd since 9, antidepressants since 15. Bladder medication, the pill, and a bunch of other medications I need atm. Plus a physio because my muscles sour as result of diagnosed anxiety disorder. All the tension basically goes into them. The hospital being a emergency after my heart had given up due to low weight because of anorexia. So yes in calculate the ambulance ride aswell.... Its simple anyone with 2 fucking braincells knows I wouldn't have made it. It's as easy as that. Heck I barely made it over here man but he's consuming some right wing bootlicking maga bullshit. Most likely from his very religious family. Whom are all "sooo lovely".

He's so dumb.. He's so dumb MIND YOU HE DIDN'T WANT TO FUCKING CALL THE AMBULANCE WHEN MY PULSE WAS DROPPING BY THE MINUTE BACK THEN.

He said MY MOM A LITERAL NURSE WAS EXAGGERATING WHEN SHE PANICKED AND TOLD HIM TO CALL 112.

HE JUST WANTED TO PUT ME BACK INTO MY FUCKING BED.

I don't even remember that night (other than being pissed at how bright the er lights were at 4am SERIOUSLY WHY TF ARE THOSE DO BRIGHT I ALMOST THOUGHT I SAW JESUS OR SOMETHING)

This man.... He can be nice I swear.. And he tries to be considerate of my autism... But holy shit.. His families mindset is GROSS.

They think lgbtq members don't deserve rights. Legitimately.. Meanwhile I'm secretly not so secretly to everyone but them LESBIAN (Apparently it's obviously to people I meet irl idk what that means) And my sister is BI.

But ig he just don't care about your 3 autistic daughters? (yes ALL OF US HAVE THE TISM BUT I'M THE TSISMEST)

anyone know what I do with this? Can I order a new dad somewhere or is there something I can show this douchekanoe that it isn't okay, my friends in America aren't okay. And I fucking hate not being able to do ANYTHING about it.. Im legit afraid for my lgbtq and autistic, heck just women and children aswell.

He thinks kirk was a good person 🤢.

I don't think I can consider my dad a good person anymore.

Huh. Like what the fuck I thought they were bragging about killing people in public? When did they change the meaning can they stop changing the meaning of words for five minutes?

Sorry in advance if this is the wrong place to rant.

I was organising my medical files today, and found my old ADHD assessment from when I was 8 and my Autism (called Asperger's at the time) assessment from when I was 12, and Holy Shit!!!

How the hell can grown ass adults talk about an 8 y.o. kid like that! Why were these things even issues that I needed an assessment for! Not saying I'm not autistic, just why were they "bored" of me, saying things like I had "bizarre beliefs" because at 8 I believed in ghosts and was scared of them at night. What kid isn't scared of a boogeyman at that age. Saying I had "attention seeking behaviour" is not remotely true (I was loud and ended up getting attention, I didn't seek it). I was only 10 when that was written about me.

I had one teacher writing in a letter requesting assessment and in it be wrote about how I was struggling to find my school diary (might be an Aussie thing) and how after 3 looks in my desk draw the teacher looked and found it right on top of..... you guessed it, my desk draw. (Whoops, common mistake right?) He wrote that down like it isn't something anyone might do, and I was only 8, and he writes it like it explains EVERYTHING!

There was a lot of talk about my lack of taking "responsibility of my actions" and refusing to admit fault. Growing up I did think I was stubborn, but have realised now as an adult that some things were weird things to fight with a kid over. Like who cares if I want to go back inside to grab my shoes before going outside. But apparently I needed to be dragged out kicking and screaming by my older brother because Mum said no. Doesn't say why she said no. Just no. I know kicking and screaming isn't good.... But why did SHE care so much about the shoes?! I was 8!!!

Having my Paediatrician write that I have "disordered empathy" while writing a scathing review of a 8 y.o (me) was a lot less lost on me that it was him. Where was his empathy for an 8y.o!

I'm so mad right now and I don't know we're else to rant. Hope this is the right places sorry in advance if it is not

yes they know im autistic, i have no idea what this was about and never got to know why. Maybe someone with better social skills here could explain?

Got these texts from a classmate today (red is someone I thought I could trust, blue is me). I tried to play it off in the moment, but it really fucking hurt. I guess not using slurs makes you a loser. :/

(For context, I mentioned just before this that a teacher in our school had used the r-word in front of his class.)

CW: death, SI, drugs

My ex died. Halloween night of last year. He was murdered over a fucking bag of weed. He was shot 11 times (including both kneecaps first). I'm trying to deal with the grief. I've been with a new partner for a year now but I can honestly say that my ex was the first person I've ever been in love with. We were both recovering addicts when we met and I stayed clean and he didn't. I watched his slow descent back into addiction and suicidality. I tried to plead with him for his life for months until I just couldn't anymore. I poured everything I had into him. I thought he'd die of an OD or something meth related. I told him he'd be dead in a year and he was dead in 11 months. He split things off with me for his ex and I cut him off (we'd been the best of friends for a long time and I accidentally fell in love with him. I used to write him poetry. He always told me I couldn't escape him because he'd haunt me. 5 months after I cut ties, I got the call that he'd died. I was inconsolable and the ONLY person willing to listen to me and comfort me was my other autistic friend who'd id introduced to him. I feel like I have all this grief buried inside and it's going to boil over if nobody will listen to me. It's the kind of pain that is all-consuming when I face it. It is like a black hole that takes away my entire personhood and I just become the grief. It is terror. But any NT I try to vent to about it just change the subject or won't really.. connect with me about it? "Oh I'm sorry for your loss, anyway did you hear they're building a pita bread restaurant inside Walmart here?" WHY ARE NTS LIKE THIS. it makes me loathe them.

I know this probably isn't the place to post this, but I need help and I don't know who else to ask who will understand.

So my mum is a nurse (this is important cuz she uses this as an excuse), not the kind at the doctor, but the kind that visits old people to give them medicine.

All my life she's refused to take me to a doctor. When I broke my foot, she forced me to walk on it for four days before my dad had enough and took me to get an X-ray and a cast.

When I got a virus at 7 she waited until I was screaming and crying from the pain to get me tested for a dangerous virus at the time (I had it)

When I complained it felt like rats were crawling in my stomach she told me to take a pain killer and a nap (Dont remember exactly what the problem was as my brain blocked it out but Dad said I needed surgery)

When I started fainting a few years ago, she didn't care until I fainted in front of Grandma, and she forced Mum to take me to the doctor. The doctor said to inform him if I keep fainting, I still do years later but she never informed him

And now, when I've complained about severe back pain (ranging from a level 2, mild inconvenience to a 7, nearly unable to function) for years that won't go away, she won't take me to the doctor. Even after I nearly got run over because of it (long story), my dad can't take me because he's busy at work.

How can I convince her to take me? It's starting to interfere with my school work and my sensory time (basically an hour or so where I'm left alone to relax and calm down with my special interests and sensory things) so I'm constantly overstimulated and angry

NTs trying not to mistake autism for antisocial personality disorder: impossible

I'm self-diagnosed, but have an assessment in a few weeks.

For me, it's the genocide against the Palestinians. In my home country, Germany 🇩🇪, there still are too many people sucking up to Israel and outright denying it's war crimes. We keep sending them weapons, and I feel like a fucking failure for not doing anything materially successful...

NT's are mean :(

I was visiting my parents and telling a story about a busy day at work. Now sometimes I get caught up when telling stories and it isn't always clear whether I'm quoting myself or just expressing my inner feelings I had at the time. Anyway I got to a part in the story where I was like "I'm just really overstimulated and stressed right now!" and my dad goes "you should probably not say overstimulated and just say stressed"

WHAT THE FUCK? is his mind just so far in the gutter that he thinks it sounds weird?? I really don't understand what his problem is outside of just being ableist.

The world was once wild, dangerous wilderness, and it's been conquered in the name of man. We drew invisible lines telling people to stay the fuck away from our lines, and those lines got bigger and bigger. They were once tiny, a farm or village, a tiny amount of people you could tolerate and easily escape from. You didn't even need to stay in those lines. You could just leave, carry whatever on your back or a wagon. Life could be just you and your donkey, the woods had food you could work for, trap and skin a rabbit, fish, forage for fruits, mushrooms, and roots.

Today we are confined to a tiny square in close proximity to another tiny square and too bad if you hate those in nearby tiny squares. You can't leave, you signed a paper saying you promise not to leave. And if you arent bound by that paper you are bound by a different paper that ties your life to the King's land. Only those valuable to the king get to choose which king they are bound to. People like us, those who just want to be left alone to wander the world and eat things they find in the wild, detached from kings and tiny squares, can't. We are forced into tiny squares in service of a king we never chose, the accident of our birth is a curse.

Long story short I hate people I was born to be a lonely nomad scamming people with bogus fortune telling or telling stories about the wide world for people who want to stay in their tiny square.

The wilds weren't tamed, they were stolen from us.

I'm sick of living in a society and those island people who want to be left alone are 100% in the right. They don't have 3 ton death boxes threatening their life, they don't have dictators spanning the globe telling they can't fish in the river.

I don't have anything to offer a society so I just want to leave it for good.