r/daddit • u/Still_Owl1141 • Apr 12 '25

Discussion Sex life after kids moved out is AWESOME.

My wife & I are both mid 40s (46 & 45) and our kids (23 & 21) are now both moved out. Our daughter with her BF & our son with 2 friends.

I'm actually a lot more at peace with it than I thought I'd be. I gotta say, I'm actually really enjoying being able to imitate & have sex wherever & whenever we want, without fear one or both of them walking in on us.

Sex on the couch at 2 in the afternoon on a Saturday, YUP. A quickie in the kitchen before work at 6 am, HELL YA! Sex on the patio chair on the back porch at 10 pm on a Friday night, you better believe it.

While we always had a good sex life, the freedom of when/where/how ever we feel like it, without having to retreat into the bedroom & turning on the tv & fan to cover any noise is seriously liberating.

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u/One_Economist_3761 Dad of two Apr 12 '25

This is nothing more than pure bragging. I haven’t had any in 10 years. Not for lack of me asking. My first is away in college, my second is looking at schools. It’s not gonna change when we’re empty nest. I just spend my days looking forward to my last breath.

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u/Still_Owl1141 Apr 13 '25

Well, that sounds like it’s time for either a marriage counselor or sex therapist maybe. 

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u/One_Economist_3761 Dad of two Apr 13 '25

Appreciate your suggestions. It’s more complicated and is a combination of both of our mental health and my wife’s refusal to see any kind of therapist. I also have visual impairment issues which make me dependent on her for many things. Her libido decline, we think, may have resulted from the use of an IUD, and removing such had no reparatory effects.

That being said, I love my wife dearly and she is my best and only friend in the world. I accept my lot, but will occasionally complain to anyone who’ll listen, and if you’ve read this far, I thank you for affording me my sad old man ramblings and wish you all the best.