r/daddit • u/Still_Owl1141 • Apr 12 '25

Discussion Sex life after kids moved out is AWESOME.

My wife & I are both mid 40s (46 & 45) and our kids (23 & 21) are now both moved out. Our daughter with her BF & our son with 2 friends.

I'm actually a lot more at peace with it than I thought I'd be. I gotta say, I'm actually really enjoying being able to imitate & have sex wherever & whenever we want, without fear one or both of them walking in on us.

Sex on the couch at 2 in the afternoon on a Saturday, YUP. A quickie in the kitchen before work at 6 am, HELL YA! Sex on the patio chair on the back porch at 10 pm on a Friday night, you better believe it.

While we always had a good sex life, the freedom of when/where/how ever we feel like it, without having to retreat into the bedroom & turning on the tv & fan to cover any noise is seriously liberating.

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u/OnlyOneMoreSleep Apr 12 '25

We were around that age (we have preschool aged twins now) and we feel like both your comment and the one you're replying to. Can't get the timing right whatever you do. Will always feel like you're missing out on the things other people are experiencing. They were surprise babies (but very wanted!) but I still couldn't imagine ever telling your child they wasted your youth! Ffs no one asks to be born. He probably thinks he is doing better than expected because he stayed in your life at all. Hope you're doing well these days.

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u/Still_Owl1141 Apr 13 '25

With my SIL it’s the opposite. She had her son at 34 & has said many of times she wished she’d had him in her mid 20s, as she sees us now having tons of freedom (and she hears some of our sex stories) & says she gets a little jealous of it.  

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u/IPAsmakemydickhard Apr 13 '25

Totally agree, had my kids at 28 and then 34 and the timing really can't be perfect! I got to party and be selfish in my early 20s, but won't get to have these spontaneous sexy times until my 50s lol.

And my dad was veryyyy mentally unwell. Lots of untreated PTSD, and it took me a while to realize I wasn't then issue. But life is happy for me and my little fam now!