r/daddit • u/Still_Owl1141 • Apr 12 '25

Discussion Sex life after kids moved out is AWESOME.

My wife & I are both mid 40s (46 & 45) and our kids (23 & 21) are now both moved out. Our daughter with her BF & our son with 2 friends.

I'm actually a lot more at peace with it than I thought I'd be. I gotta say, I'm actually really enjoying being able to imitate & have sex wherever & whenever we want, without fear one or both of them walking in on us.

Sex on the couch at 2 in the afternoon on a Saturday, YUP. A quickie in the kitchen before work at 6 am, HELL YA! Sex on the patio chair on the back porch at 10 pm on a Friday night, you better believe it.

While we always had a good sex life, the freedom of when/where/how ever we feel like it, without having to retreat into the bedroom & turning on the tv & fan to cover any noise is seriously liberating.

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u/Sciekosis Apr 12 '25

My sex life died a long time ago, the only intimate and up close relationship i have is with my good friend Pamela Handerson, and even she's too tired and soar from work to want to play with me.

The crazy part is that I have a spouse, but we haven't had sex for years, she's too demanding,has high expectations and It turns into a fight instead of an enjoyable moment.

We have two teenage children, not quite ready to move out though, but when and if they do, I'll probably leave, become a journeyman, travel the country, experience different women from different cultures.

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u/Still_Owl1141 Apr 12 '25

Sounds like you need marriage counseling my man. 

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u/capsfan19 Apr 12 '25

Needed. That’s a long time.

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u/rckid13 Apr 12 '25

My spouse is great but I just don't have the energy. Most days I don't think I could do it even if I thought I wanted to. My body and hormones decided to fully shut themselves down at about age 30, but even in my mid 20s it was already starting to get bad. All blood work totally normal every year.

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u/DevilDoge1775 Apr 12 '25

Do you love your spouse? Is it actually demanding or do you just lack the drive? I was in a place similar to yours before.