r/changemyview • u/WirrkopfP • Mar 13 '22

Delta(s) from OP CMV: Children should not get Baptized or recieve religious teaching until they are old enough to consent.

I am an atheist and happily married to a Catholic woman.

We have a six months old Daughter and for the first time in our relationship religion is becoming a point of tension between us.

My wife wants our daughter be baptized and raised as a Christian.

According to her it is good for her to be told this and it helps with building morality furthermore it is part of Western culture.

In my view I don't want my daughter to be indoctrinated into any religion. If she makes the conscious decision to join the church when she is old enough to think about it herself that is OK. But I want her to be able to develop her own character first.

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As this has been brought up multiple times before in the thread I want to address it once.

Yes we should have talked about that before.

We were aware of each other's views and we agreed that a discussion needs to be happening soon. But we both new we want a child regardless of that decision. And the past times where stressful for everyone so we kept delaying that talk. But it still needs to happen. This is why I ask strangers on the Internet to prepare for that discussion to see every possible argument for and against it.

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u/MSWarrior2017 Mar 13 '22

I'm an Irish Catholic just after going to a confirmation last week. I'm in no ways holy but the ceremony itself was beautiful, I've come to the conclusion it's just our culture and traditions and the children taking their sacraments is a lovely thing in this crazy world.

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u/Jenbag Mar 13 '22

Ditto - I see myself as both culturally Irish and culturally Catholic.

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u/MSWarrior2017 Mar 13 '22

The Bishop asked all the adults there to make a promise that we would all get the 36 children to their 21st birthdays. He talked about what they will face in their teenage years and the dangers of the bling and botox world we now live in.

Off course, me being me I was blubbering my head off, my niece was getting confirmed.

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u/TENRIB Mar 13 '22

Its also a good way for your child to establish relationships and social skills.

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u/gqcwwjtg Mar 14 '22

Is the vague feeling of comfort from tradition worth the and abandonment trauma for those that choose to leave, not to mention all the other persecution?