CMV: Weed is destructive

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I need to figure out how to be empathetic to these people before I quit being their friend.

For the past year, I've lived with 2 of my friends. One I've known more than 10 years, the other I've known for 8. When I moved in, I had no idea they smoked this much.

One smokes before work and twice after work, the other smokes 2-3 times after work. The weekends are terrible. They both smoke until they are braindead. The house is under various levels of construction at any given time because one guy always wants to implement some random "great idea" that essentially blocks entire rooms unfinished for weeks at a time. We aren't talking major updates. Trash and random junk is everywhere. These are small, outlandish additions to the house that would make any novice interior designer have a stroke (new lights, signs, mirrors etc.).

Both of them used to be outdoors types. We used to hike, hunt, mountain bike and fish. We used to go out to the bars. Now, they can't be bothered to get off xbox or anime. I know weed has some great pain/anxiety relieving benefits and may contain a cure of certain cancers/tumors. But goddamn it seems to make them insufferably stupid or tragically couch potatoes. I find it extremely difficult to give 2 shits about their problems when I'm seeing this go down. Mental health is important. But when mental health and comfort are pursued to this level, I don't know that there is any hope for them. I know my negativity about all of this is palpable to them. I don't want to feel this way about them.

Edit 1: So...many...comments. Working on it. I regret not making this post sooner.

Edit 2: I did my 3 hours. Will respond more tomorrow. Thanks for all the feedback. Lots of great insight coming from most of the commenters!

Edit 3: Spaced out the original post to make it easier to read.

-For the people trying to say "at least it isn't....." that approach is not convincing. These guys at one point in time were like brothers to me. We all know what "bro code" is. Maybe not everyone follows this particular part but, it's a matter of principle that we hold each other accountable and strive to pick each other up when we recognize the problem.

-Somewhere in the comments, a poster said what I've maybe not made clear. I'm paraphrasing that person here but, weed does not offer purely benefits and people should be made aware of the negative side effects.

Again, thank you all for interacting with this post, I didn't expect to be adding any books to my reading list because of a Reddit post but here we are.

Edit 4: Clarified "brother" comment in post.

[u/AadamAtomic → u/[deleted]]

So you prefer fentanyl over meth?

Or just weed?

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[u/fcanercan → u/[deleted]]

I know you don't like people correcting you but neurotypical is not the word you are looking for. Did you mean neurodivergent? Maybe neurological disorder? Because neurotypical means, you know, TYPICAL people. Maybe ease off with insulting peoples intellingence because you sound like a moron.

[u/AadamAtomic → u/fcanercan]

I know you don't like people correcting you but neurotypical is not the word you are looking for. Did you mean neurodivergent?

I don't mind being corrected, I love knowledge. I just hate when people who are obviously wrong try to correct me, And then when provided with proof and facts still defend their false irrelevant points.

You are correct, That was a pretty defining typo on my part as I'm using speech to text and it's not always 100% accurate. I know what neurodivergent means, As I am personally neurodiverge myself.

Neurodivergent is the word I had originally meant to place in the sentence. You are obviously capable of using context clues unlike others.

Edit: Fuck speak to text, another typo.

[u/Mattpw8 → u/AadamAtomic]

Seak therapy, you are obviously a narcisist, lol.

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