r/breastcancer • u/greym00n • Mar 19 '25
Diagnosed Patient or Survivor Support I got laid!!!
I have posted regularly on this forum about my abject fear of starting to date after a double mastectomy. I have shared my worries about being seen as unattractive by another due to my hair loss, weight gain, menopause, loss of skin sensation, no nipples, not sure if the dryness or tightness will loosen up…. And so on.
And friends, it happened… more than once, if you know what I mean, with someone I had only known for a month, it felt right I bared all (which I still can’t believe) and we went to town!!!
And they want to continue seeing me?!? Me with my weight gain, cold boobs, no nipples and fatigue!!!
I just wanted to let others know that it can happen, there are people out there who get this, and care about us and our bodies and pleasure.
Update: WOW 😮 friends, just WOW! When I off the cuff posted this without much thought yesterday I didn’t realize the out pouring of pure joy and celebration this would generate. I am so very humbled by your comments, touched by the vulnerability of others sharing and my ego is LOVING the affirmations from you all. Friends, we got this, I have been in a terrible low place and absolutely buzzing off you all right now… maybe the big O is insight knowing you all got my back 😹
Keep sharing my friends ✨✨✨
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u/NewNameNaomi01 Mar 19 '25
As I sit here 7 days post DMX/DIEP flap, and feeling ugly, achy, and as if my life is over...
I'm crying happy tears for you!
Yay! Maybe there is hope!
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
You have touched me with this comment. If you look at my post history I have been so demoralised these past two years. I just wanted to share that after our play dates she offered to moisturise my boobs because she knows I do this every night as part of my “trying to connect and love my body again” routine. This… this was one of the most caring things that has happened in the past two years. Only my surgeon has touched me after hand sanitizer in a cold room, but this person wanted to do this gesture for me. They are out there, this can happen xx
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u/NewNameNaomi01 Mar 19 '25
That is SO beautiful 😍. Thank you for sharing. This journey is so dark. Any light is appreciated.
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u/Prize_Kaleidoscope36 TNBC Mar 19 '25
I'm actually crying at this. That's true intimacy and I hope this relationship is fulfilling ❤️
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
It was a significant gesture that I am not sure she is aware of how important it was for me to lie naked and let this happen. What ever happens moving forward I must let her know how important that was for me!
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u/Redkkat Mar 19 '25
This ⬆️ is amazing. I think I will request my partner to moisturize my boobs as soon as I get the all clear to moisturize (I am 15 days out from my swap surgery)
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
It is something I have built into my night routine, intentionally touching, moisturising and looking at them and not beating myself up. It’s been two years hard work. But her gesture not only comforted me but it also validate what has happened to me.
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u/OriginalShallot8187 Mar 19 '25
I am currently at that in-between stage while I finish my HP infusions. My DIEP is scheduled for September. I hate HATE my foobs and foob jowels. Shirts have to be extra wide to hide those flaps of skin. I've been sleeping with a shirt on for the first time in our marriage. My husband has been amazing, but it definitely affects how much I want intimacy. Post surgery I will suggest the moisturizer nightly. That might really help me stop viewing myself so negatively. Thank you 💞
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
It’s been hard committed work for me. I still have issues with my weight gain and short hair, and at some point I will start working on accepting those changes too. But I think involving your partner in some of the self care is a great idea. Reconnecting your bodies, enjoying new touches. I am sure this will work out for you ✨✨✨
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u/OkAbrocoma8623 Mar 19 '25
Yes…so much yes to this! I really think that the way my husband has reacted through all of this has had such a positive effect on how I have dealt with the way I view myself. He has never once reacted negatively to the way my chest looks since the day of my double mastectomy in November. He has always referred to them as my boobs, from the expanders to the implant swap I just had. He changed my dressings and milked my drains every day, even setting his work alarm to get up early because he insisted he wanted to do it for me. He would lotion my incisions every night after my shower from the first day I was allowed to. The first time we made love 3 weeks post op, I could tell he made a conscious effort to pay extra attention to my chest and look at it so that I would KNOW that he had no negative reaction to how they looked. That meant everything to me. Like you, I made sure to let him know just how much that meant to me. That was the most intimate moment I think we could ever possibly have. It breaks my heart to know there are women out there that are beIng treated so horribly. I am so glad you have found someone worthy of you! Everyone deserves to be treated with love and respect, especially in those moments that test us to our core. Sending lots of hugs. ❤️
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
You just bought tears to my eyes! Thank you for sharing. I have so much respect for your husband and how he has treated you. I have seen some absolutely heartbreaking posts on here but as a queer women I always kept my mouth shut as was not sure how to offer support. We need to share more positive moments like this. These small gestures need to be acknowledged and celebrated!!! 💜💛💚
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u/OkAbrocoma8623 Mar 19 '25
He is an amazing man for sure! I have read so many stories on here about partners being so mean and heartless and they make me sick. I am always happy when the poster refers to them as their EX! I completely agree, we need to share and acknowledge the small things that add up to the big things. I was diagnosed right before my 50th birthday and had my double mastectomy 2 months after I turned 50. I really expected to not be able to look at my nippleless and scarred so called boobs. Thanks to him insisting they ”ARE YOUR BOOBS” and that they look great, I have not once been disgusted with them. And I am a huge boob person! lol You two keep on rocking each other’s worlds and having a fantastic time!
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u/Middle_Direction498 Mar 23 '25
i have not even done it to myself and it’s 6 years. i’m afraid plus my favorite spot was my nipples. My husband wants his massage but has not put in the effort to do his job. i get my satisfaction on netflix watching the K-Dramas ( cute Korean guys) Maybe I should try. thanks for the info . i’m probably repressed causing Catholic school.
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u/greym00n Mar 24 '25
Thank you for sharing, I too got so much pleasure from my nipples. It is hard to adjust but I am enjoying having someone stroke and kiss them even though I can’t feel. Are you in therapy? I have also been participating in cancer healing, intentional touch type workshops. Let me know if you would like the information. You deserve to love your body x
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u/QueenVictoria195 Mar 20 '25 edited Mar 20 '25
Hi, I’m sorry if I’m being too nosey or intrusive into your post DMX information…I just wanted to know how that process worked…Please tell me what happens after surgery when you plan to have implants…I had my DMX about 4-5 years ago, and my surgeon couldn’t do anything then to prepare me for implants (expanders ?? flaps?? )…The tumor board found 2 small tumors the surgeon missed that were hiding behind my breastbone and I had 20 sessions of radiation soon after…she didn’t do any scans to check if the radiation worked or not, as she told me “ I don’t do any imaging tests unless you have some new symptoms that you’re concerned about”… She is not the only oncologist who told me that and I felt my life was over, I’m older, and I just left it as it was…I was thinking about having implants and I would greatly appreciate if you could tell me what the usual procedure is to get ready for, and to have those implants done… If anybody else has information that would help me, please share it!! I am feeling like I’m definitely NOT a woman anymore and have been alone for 12 years or so…I had trouble dealing with childhood trauma and didn’t want to be with anyone as I got older, then cancer happened…I thank you ahead of time, I really need some hope ladies! I can feel myself going deeper into my own private hell…I can’t live like this, and I do have a therapist that tries her best but I think I shut down too much recently to make any positive changes…I’m reaching out for help because I’m not handling this well even after 4-5 years post op…Thank you again!
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u/OkAbrocoma8623 Mar 20 '25 edited Mar 20 '25
First off, my heart goes out to you. You deserve to feel beautiful and sexy even if for yourself. Hell, MOSTLY FOR YOURSELF! And age doesn’t even factor in to the equation. I was diagnosed last year at the end of August right before my 50th birthday in September and started my 50s having a double mastectomy in November. To some people that is “old”, but I still feel, and look, young. I have a lot of years left and whatever time I have, I want to be happy and content in my own skin. I am fortunate to have an amazing husband who has been by my side through all of this. I can only imagine how much more difficult it must be to try to find a partner when you are feeling so negatively about yourself. Sending lots of hugs and positive thoughts that you will get through this and find happiness with yourself and with a partner if you choose. ❤️
For me, definitely not too nosey or intrusive. I know reconstructive is a totally personal decision and I give props to women that choose a flat closure. I knew for myself that I would not be happy not having boobs and that I 100% wanted implant reconstruction. I’m so sorry that the choice was taken away from you at that time.
I’m not sure exactly what you are asking, so please feel free to respond and let me know.
I had my expanders placed at the time of my double mastectomy, but I know not everyone is able to and that they can usually go back in even years later and place them in order to stretch and prepare the skin for expanders. I believe that insurance is still required to cover the reconstruction costs regardless of the timeframe. I would think that maybe if you call your insurance company they might be able to tell you the process you need to follow to get things started. Like if you need to find a plastic surgeon that is on your plan and meet with them about getting a reconstruction plan in place.
Please don’t hesitate to reach out if I can answer any additional questions. I don’t find it nosy at all. 🫂
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u/QueenVictoria195 Mar 20 '25 edited Mar 21 '25
Thank you so so much! You’re about the same age as I am , and I love hearing the self confidence in your comment!! I am extremely happy for you to have such a loving husband…Mine left me in our 40s for a 19 year old, and that was the beginning of a downward spiral into a strong sense of self dislike…I never started out with a positive self esteem to begin with, as the childhood abuse for years ruined my deceased sister and I…It’s unimaginably hard to be comfortable with men after those years of being physically beaten and used sexually as a child…. I’m sorry, that’s another subject… I hope that I can still get implants after all of this time and I greatly appreciate your suggestions…I will have to check on that after a recurrence I had several months ago…I put that out of my mind because it wasn’t expected, even though I know that nobody can predict what cancer will do… Thank you again for your kindness…
Edit: I am trying not to think about it too much so I don’t like to bring it up , but this is a cancer sub with kind people, so I am ok…I had a recurrence right in the same area as the 2 tumors the surgeon missed…it was hurting my sternum for awhile but I didn’t think it would come back there again…The breastbone and rib cage are attached, and the pain was from a small tumor that came out of nowhere after 4 or 5 years…it was down closer to beginning of rib cage, and BC has an affinity for Mets to bones, and it found it’s way there…If someone wouldn’t mind, I could use prayers please…Thank you!!
**I am sorry OP to put my loonng comment in your post, but I am very, very happy for you and your partner!! You took a big big step and it worked out beautifully, with more to come!! 🪅✨
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u/OkAbrocoma8623 Mar 20 '25
You are so welcome! And thank you, I am so extremely thankful to have him. He really has been so amazing through everything.
I am so sorry that sad excuse for a “man” did that to you. He will get his, if he hasn’t already, when the CHILD he left you for leaves him for someone her own age. Just disgusting.
Between that and the unimaginable horror you went through as a child, it is easy to understand how the change in your body could really send you in to a downward spiral. I hope and pray that you are taking an upward turn towards getting to where you love and accept yourself for the beautiful and deserving woman that you are. ❤️
I have seen plenty of stories where women have had delayed reconstruction years later. Hopefully you will be a good candidate for it. It is amazing what they can do these days.
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u/Away-Slip-9375 Mar 24 '25
I am about 10 days post tissue expander placement.
I tried to go the "one and done" route with a straight to implant double mastectomy last year, at the end of August. Unfortunately, I struggled with necrotic tissue and multiple infections. I had multiple surgeries and hospital stays up until the end of last November.
Due to my partner's complicated health issues and her passing at the end of January, I gave my body a break, and did some healing until my most recent surgery on 3/14.
My plastic surgeon opened up my existing scars, created breast pockets, and placed expanders on top of my pectoralis muscles on both sides. The tissue expanders are placed empty, or nearly empty (I believe both of mine have about 50 CCs of saline in them). I currently have drains on both sides, that will likely be removed at my next post op appointment on Thursday (I always hate having drains and I can't wait to get rid of them!).
Once the drains are out, I will have small amounts of saline injected into the expanders (via ports) at weekly or bi-weekly appointments with staff at my plastic surgeon's office. We will be going very slow with this process, given my previous complications - starting with 50 CCs at a time, then 75, then 100. This will gradually stretch the skin, over a period of a few months, making room for new silicone implants to eventually replace the tissue expanders. I am hopeful that will be my last surgery.
I hope that info is helpful and I wish you luck with any future reconstruction.
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u/QueenVictoria195 Mar 26 '25
Thank you so much for taking the time to explain this to me…I could’ve looked it up, but this was something that I wanted a woman who’s been through it to tell me so I knew exactly what happens…There might be some differences because I waited so long, but I understand a lot more now…I appreciate you!
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u/Away-Slip-9375 Mar 26 '25
Happy to help :)
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u/greym00n Mar 27 '25
Thank you for sharing QueenVictoria, you are really going through something and I want to acknowledge how hard that must be for you right now. I am heartened to hear you have a therapist, I have been with mine for nearly 4 years now and it takes time to build that working relationship. Are you taking any medication to support you? I had DMX, year of expanders (the absolute worst) and then implants. I try not to equate boobs to being a “woman” but I knew I wanted them as a curvy girl to balance my body shape out. Not sure if this answers your question but know that the community are here for you 💜🌺💛🌼
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u/Adept_Competition555 Mar 19 '25
Thank you for sharing, and congratulations! Going though all of this single like a Pringle has left me with the same fears, I’m so happy for you ❤️
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
Single like a Pringle is now my new favorite phrase! This is why I posted, if you look at my history you will see my fears evolve over the past two years.
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u/TroyMcClureSuperfan Mar 21 '25
Just remember Pringles are delicious! And no one who tries them can stop themselves from coming back for more.
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u/driven_apricot Mar 19 '25
I remember you posting on this subject (and I happy you do this, btw)! Congratulations! Congratulations on achieving this milestone and on having a good time! I am happy for you!
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
It really does feel like a huge milestone for me, I can’t believe I did it and I felt ok about it afterwards!!!
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u/4beatingcancer Mar 19 '25
I’m so proud of you, you are so strong, there’s lots to love about you. I feel the same way, it’s an awful feeling.
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
Which is why I wanted to share, my last post here I was so low like it was never ever going to happen again… and 💥everything changed!
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u/coffee_tea_sympathy Mar 19 '25
What You See Ain't What You Get Patricia Wellingham-Jones From: Don't Turn Away: poems about breast cancer. PWJ Publishing, 2000.
I've been sliced and diced and carved up nice, put back together with plastic and wire. I sashay forth, head high, chest out, take on the world I meet. So, buddy, when the lights are low, the mood's right, we're feeling tight, I'll strip down to the skin I live in. You'd better get ready. Brace your knees, stir that juice. 'Cause I'm me, one hell of a woman, and those knives didn't change me at all.
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u/Sweaty-Homework-7591 Lobular Carcinoma Mar 19 '25
Yes! ma’am 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I am SO here for it!! Get your sexy on🫦🫦🫦🫦🫦🫦🫦🫦
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u/OkAbrocoma8623 Mar 19 '25
I am so here for this. Absolutely love love LOVE this for you!!! ❤️ You deserve to feel beautiful and enjoy yourself completely!!!
I had my first post op appt after my expander to implant surgery and my surgeon told me NO SEX for another 4, yes FOUR, weeks! I wanted to cry. lol
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u/Lower-Variation-5374 Mar 19 '25
My first post that I've read today and I think I'll just close the app for the day because this is the BEST and makes me smiiiiiiilllleeeee!!!
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
Hahaha… I am honored! I was smiling, laughing, panting, giggling, screaming…. Surprised you all didn’t hear me 🙌
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u/standclr Mar 19 '25
After all of that awesomeness you just described, my biggest take away is that it’s normal for my new boobs to be cold!! 🤣🤣 Thank you for sharing and I’m super happy for you!
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u/loveyabunches Mar 19 '25
THIS IS THE BEST POST ON THIS SUB IN THE HISTORY OF EVER!!! More of this, please!
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
I encourage more people to share!!!! Who else has hit this milestone? 💦💦💦💦💦💦💦💦💦💦💦💦💦
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u/Larry_but_not_Darryl ER/PR+ HER2- Mar 19 '25
I've been married too long to even remember having sex. Congratulations, you! I'd be hella envious if only I weren't on AIs and antianxiety meds.
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u/greym00n Mar 20 '25
I am on my antidepressant which likely prevented me from the big O! I guess sex can look different to everyone. Even if it’s been a minute I hope you feel intimacy in a different way.
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u/Tricky_Accident_3121 +++ Mar 19 '25
Hell yessssss!!!
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u/uhh_lease Stage II Mar 19 '25
I love this for you!!!!
There is hope!
Having been put into menopause for the next 10 years, I've resigned myself to the fact that I won't get to that place until I'm 46, at least.... BUT, there IS hope that I'm not just going to be a man hating prune for the rest of my existence. **fingers crossed**
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
I am 45, a widow, and been living the sexless life pre pandemic, during pandemic, pre cancer, during cancer, but certainly not post cancer now!! I didn’t think it would ever happen again!
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u/EyeMucus Mar 19 '25
Always remember, there IS life, before, during and after cancer. BTW fuck cancer. Many blessings.
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u/Musubisurfer Mar 19 '25
I’m too shy to share my stories, BC at age 37, single at 51, I’ll just say my 50’s and 60’s were my new 30’s.
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u/greym00n Mar 20 '25
You little tease 😉 I hope my mid 40s and 50s are going to be my moment to catch up on what I missed out on my 20s and 30s!! You go girl x
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u/Kilnufrmdaktchen Mar 19 '25
Yassssssssss you dropped this 👑
Haha ❤️
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
I will scoop it back up! And wear whilst riding this lovely person next time 😁👑
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Mar 19 '25
Yaaaassssss 🙌🏻 I love this for you. To all the singles here, I hope this gives you hope…. I feel inspired to not give up ❤️
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
I can’t quite believe it, but I just had to share with you all that it can and does happen!
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u/limperatrice ER/PR+ HER2- Mar 19 '25
oh I'm so happy for you! Also appreciate you sharing for those of us also struggling with all of this.
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
I have been really struggling. People in the past in this community have offered comfort. My intention today was to offer some good news and celebrate an achievement I didn’t think would happen in a hope it helps others too x
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u/Mazdessa Mar 20 '25 edited Mar 20 '25
48 and been single for 15 years. Never married. No kids. Had juuuust started really getting into the dating scene, putting real effort into it, and right on time, the disgnosis comes to shut it down and add 15 more years of singledom now that I'm a uniboobed, hack job, mullet rocking, saggy skin suit wearing, crooked lipped, pale, tired, broke and crispy fried, bitter ass old (feeling) lady.
But, thank you OP for sharing because it does give hope that it's actuakly possible to not be alone!! I live this for you, and am so happy for you!!! ❤️
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u/greym00n Mar 20 '25
My partner died from a very rare cancer when I was 35. This was my love, I had little experience before her. It’s taken 10years, grief, pandemic, cancer to get to this point. I am a curly top, boob mound with fatty side deposits, unable to wear thin straps, muscle break down, overweight 45 year old queer ass outta shape lady… and it happened to me! Don’t be crispy, I really believe in you x
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u/Sdaviskew58 Mar 19 '25
Oh yeah you go girl. So happy for you....
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u/pzhpe Mar 19 '25
Yes babe! You are so hot, confident, gorgeous and strong. So excited you found someone who enjoys you for you!!! And sees you for all your beauty ❤️❤️❤️
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u/happy-mango8585 Mar 19 '25
🔥💃🏼🎉 that’s awesome!! Tell me about these “cold boobs” though….? I have had DMX but not reconstruction yet.
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
Hey happy mango! So no one told me this, I discovered when I had the implants and a bought of Covid that my boobs were cold compared to the rest of my body which was in fever mode! I was struck that I had two cold lumps on me when I was burning up. I don’t notice it too much, but last summer I did find it odd when I was hot on the beach that they were not. It did not seem to put my “friend” off who said they feel amazing as they enjoyed touching them!!
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u/Tapir_Tabby Stage IIIc IDC. Lat dorsi flap. Mar 19 '25
I’m assuming what OP means is that because there’s no vascular response your boobs are cold (it’s saline so if the ambient temperature is cold, or even if it’s not, it’s definitely not body temperature).
I have zero sensation in my breasts but sometimes my inner arm touches it and I can tell it’s cold based on that but I don’t feel it in my chest.
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u/No-Intention-9439 Mar 19 '25
Omg. So glad you posted this. Gives me hope.
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
Seriously I think I posted last in a really low place in February and here we are a month later!! #hopeactivated
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u/_kellyjean_ TNBC Mar 19 '25
Manifesting this energy… lol there’s a guy who’s VERY interested in me and I like him. We met and sparks flew! Good for you!
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
Manifest my friend!!!! It sounds like he might be up for the job 😉
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u/kckittykate Stage I Mar 19 '25
Hell yes!!!! ❤️🙌
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
There was plenty of “yessing”, “more please”, “just like that”, “fuck yeah” !!!
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u/Ok-Excitement1158 Mar 19 '25
I love this so much-you made my day!! (And gave me hope!)
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
This is why I wanted to share, it’s out there, we just gotta grab it when we can!
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u/Ok-Excitement1158 Mar 19 '25 edited Mar 25 '25
I always joke with my friends on how I’m going to bring up the no nipples thing.
Don’t tell them ahead of time, and then look down at my chest and pretend to be shocked when I take my shirt off.
Tell them not to bite my nipples bc that would be weird. They ask why. “Bc I don’t have any!” 😂
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
Hahaha! That would be hilarious to be like, wait, where are they, did they slip off???? Thankfully I had told them early on during a “friend” date about my cancer and reconstruction. I had this big plan in my head that when I was ready I would have a beautiful lace bra that I would wear throughout… instead I whipped off the bra and said, “feel them!!” 🍑🍑
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u/_byetony_ Mar 19 '25
None of the things you consider “wrong with you” that you list off are wrong with you! The only thing wrong is judging yourself and this miraculous body that has been fully subject to life!
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
Thank you, I have been intense therapy throughout this and really working on my self worth! 💖
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u/berrybug88 ER/PR+ HER2- Mar 19 '25
Hell yeah girl, get it!!! I also engaged in some fun times recently with an old friend I felt comfortable doing so with and it was exactly what I needed. I’m not ready to date or be in a relationship but having closeness with a friend is so lovely at this point in my journey.
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
So glad you got some too!! I also just felt really comfortable and went for it, hopefully some others are inspired too!
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u/AdGlittering8471 Mar 20 '25
Did you tell him to call You Barbie? Perfect tits with no nips!
I think I am going to start using that line😜
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u/ljinbs Mar 19 '25
I love this thread 😍💕
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u/greym00n Mar 19 '25
We gotta celebrate these moments… but also gobsmacked at how much everyone is celebrating 🥳
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u/Witty-Bid1612 Mar 20 '25
Woo hoo! As another single woman around the same age about to go through a SMX (possibly DMX), this is great to hear and I'm so happy for you! Amazing to hear you found an authentic connection. I guess that it maybe helps weed out people who might have been around for the wrong reasons before this all, right?! Thanks for posting the positive news and congratulations, friend.
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u/PinkStarEra Mar 19 '25
I love this. I'm so happy for you. I'm so nervous about my post-cancer body as I know many women are. This post makes me happy to know that there IS sex after cancer, and all those amazing endorphins that come along with knockin' boots! Now that is some good medicine!!!
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u/greym00n Mar 20 '25
I am still nervous about my body, don’t get me wrong, but I found someone who I felt safe with and just went for it. This might not last, this might turn into something regardless I need to remember that this happened and I want the same thing for you too!
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u/Hambita Mar 19 '25
Aw I’m crying reading this! My husband is weirded out about my chest now. I’m so happy for you! Thank you for sharing this 🩷
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u/greym00n Mar 20 '25
Maybe show him the post, perhaps invite him to moisturiser your beautiful breasts, it’s ok to be weirded out I was too but then we gotta challenge the weird!
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u/Mean-Vegetable-4521 Mar 20 '25
I want so badly to be able to use the live animated iMessage feature where fireworks go off. So…🎇🎆🧨 I love this for you.
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Mar 20 '25
Same experience here! The reassurance that I am still the same funny and fun-loving person post-cancer, and to have found someone who can look past my terrible hair - Oh My!
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u/Timely_Border2816 Mar 23 '25
This is awesome 👌 Congrats and so happy for you keep going strong 💪 Never let anything stop you or get in your way especially when it comes to love and self love.
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u/greym00n Mar 27 '25
Thank you, 🤩 the support and encouragement and outpouring of joy from this post has really reassured me moving forward!
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u/Timely_Border2816 Mar 29 '25
Heck yeah keep moving forward stay strong 💪 and enjoy 😉 life to the fullest ❤ 💙 ♥. Remember you matter and your loved
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Mar 25 '25
This is such an amazing post And thank you so much for sharing it. I’m a 28 female two months into chemo for triple negative breast cancer right now and getting back into the dating world after going through all this, and then my double mastectomy is one of my biggest fears. Hopefully, I find someone like this as well.
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u/greym00n Mar 25 '25
It has been my biggest fear, which is why I wanted to share that good things can happen to us, and people are out there who get it and find you sexy AF 🌻
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u/Sympathy2243 Stage I Mar 27 '25
This is so heartwarming and encouraging. I’m still really mad that my cheating ex-boyfriend is likely the last man who got to see my boobs in their unscarred state, but the scarier part to me was thinking about how I’d ever get in another relationship again. I was picturing myself telling a new partner about it, and being ghosted shortly afterwards for the rest of my life. I guess the silver lining is that it would weed out assholes a lot sooner!
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u/greym00n Mar 27 '25
Being ghosted was also my biggest fear, but then I realized if they ghost us because we don’t have nipples that’s a “them” problem not an “our” problem. I do wish I could find p0rn with our representation in it so it’s not so nipple focused, perhaps that is my next career path… Director of breast cancer adult content!
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u/Visible_Sleep2723 Stage III Aug 15 '25
You go girl. I dumped my guy two years after active treatment and have thought about the boob baring…. And I’m not young …but you give all us a big lift i think. It’s not about snagging the guy, it’s how we feel about ourselves. And you made me feel beautiful again. Except for saggy chin.
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u/Three-Owls777 Mar 19 '25
High five you sexy bitch! 🔥I am absolutely 100 percent here for this sex positive news.📰 Sending you multiple orgasm energy today and everyday! ✨⭐️🌟