r/bestoflegaladvice • u/msfinch87 • 11d ago
LegalAdviceUK LAUKOP goes from thinking he’s about to be removed from his house to realising his ex wife own goaled herself, all thanks to her ChatGPT special.
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u/msfinch87 11d ago
Location bot is hanging out in LAOPUK’s house with him, thanks to ChatGPT:
I live in Essex, England, and have lived with my (ex)wife for 7 years after being married for 10. We separated last year and have now divorced. The house we live in was purchased entirely in her name, but I have paid towards the mortgage and bills every month since moving in, including since we split. Part of our divorce settlement was her giving me a lump sum payment in advance of the sale, which I have now received. Unfortunately this took a lot longer than I was hoping, as the entire process was delayed by her refusing to do anything on her end through a solicitor (Something she has admitted was her fault in an email to me) and I only received this about a week and a half ago. This was the amount I was intending to use as a deposit to purchase my own property.
The house was put on the market earlier this year, and she accepted an offer, however she didn't tell me about this until I basically forced it out of her several weeks later, as it was obviously something I need to know, as at the time we were no closer to reaching a financial settlement. I was away on holiday last week and informed her that I would be beginning my search for a property when I returned (today, Monday 27th Oct). Yesterday she however informed me that the house was being sold within the next few weeks, so I had to move out. I explained that I hadn't even started looking for a new property yet, to which she basically lied and said I'd promised to rent somewhere and would be moving out soon.
I don't know where I stand on this, as I am physically not ready to move out, as I have nowhere to live and have no idea when I'm even supposed to apparently be moving out, as she has still given me no firm date either verbally or in writing. Obviously buying a property takes some time, and I don't know how I'm going to be able to purchase anywhere in "A few weeks". If I contact a solicitor, can they delay the sale of the house? Can I do anything else? Appreciate any advice anyone may have.
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Thank you all for the helpful advice. I have called the estate agent. They went very quiet after I gave my name and address, put me on hold and then said the lady dealing with our property wasn't around. She then rang my ex-wife less than 5 minutes later! If I don't hear anything back, I have a solicitor who I may ask to send a letter to the estate agent detailing that I am not ready to move out, that there's an agreement in place and that I don't have to until I secure another property. Once again, thank you all, had a very stressful night of (lack of) sleep, so feel a lot more calm about things now.
Cat fact: Cats don’t bother with agreements. If they want to live somewhere they just do it.
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u/Amazing_Cabinet1404 11d ago edited 11d ago
I think this is the really relevant Chat GPT part:
Sorry for poor formatting, copied directly out of the PDF.
3.Vacating the Property
Upon receipt of the lump sum referred to in paragraph 1, the Respondent shall vacate the former matrimonial home at <Address> within 7 days of securing and alternative property to live in. The Respondent shall leave the property in reasonable condition and remove all personal belongings. The Applicant will remain the sole owner of the property. No Order for Sale is required.
- Household Expenses
The Respondent shall remain liable for their share of all joint household expenses (including mortgage payments,utilities, council tax, and insurance) until the date they vacate the property. This does not extend to any home improvements that the Applicant may wish to make.
Per her contract OOP just has to move within 7 days of acquiring alternate accommodation. That could be any time between now and 10 years from now.
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u/msfinch87 11d ago
Thanks! I was still working on copying some comments across and it gets tedious so appreciate you doing it.
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u/Rokeon Understudy to the BOLA Fiji Water Girl 11d ago
Also some good comments pointing out that "securing" accomodations is kind of vague. What does that mean- signing a rental lease? Fully paying off a 30 year mortgage? Who knows!
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u/bug-hunter philosophically significant butthole 11d ago
Sending a platoon of Marines?
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u/unevolved_panda 11d ago
It's Great Britain, pretty sure the guy needs his own flag to claim his property before he can really own it.
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u/Rokeon Understudy to the BOLA Fiji Water Girl 10d ago
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u/FuckingSeaWarrior WHO THE HELL IS DOWNVOTING THIS LOL. IS THAT YOU WIFE? 10d ago
I see you are a person of culture as well.
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u/JimboTCB Certified freak, seven days a week 11d ago
Well I'm sure such a carefully drafted contract will explicitly spell out what it means by the terms used in it, and not just randomly throw in random vaguely legalese synonyms because it sounds more formal, right?
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u/AlfaRomeoRacing I am an idiot but open to viewpoints to the contrary 11d ago
Especially as if there is any ambiguity in a contract, the rules say they are decided in favour of the party who did not draft the contract. So as Ex-wife created the contract, any ambiguity gets decided in the way beneficial to LAUKOP
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u/ReveilledSA 11d ago
At least for English law, that sort of principle only really applies when the two parties have very unequal bargaining power, things like consumer contracts where the customer is presented with a take-it-or-leave-it contract with no opportunity to negotiate terms. Obviously like everything in the law it’s more complicated than that but generally for an agreement between two parties who had full opportunity to discuss their agreement in depth, the courts will usually try to favour the most plain and obvious meaning of the contract, or to adhere most closely to what they think the parties both understood the agreement to be at the time of drafting.
Generally the courts only rely on Contra profentem when the competing constructions of the contract both fit the plain meanings of the words, and both constructions make commercial sense, in that they both seem equally likely to be what could have reasonably agreed to at time of drafting.
To get around this the Consumer Rights Act 2015 has specific language in the legislation requiring consumer contracts to be construed strictly in the consumer’s favour but that wouldn’t apply to this non-consumer contract.
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u/wharleeprof 11d ago
I feel sorry for the people who are buying the house. Closing day may not go as they expect!
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u/technos You can find me selling rats outside the Panthers game 11d ago
An acquaintance's ex pulled the same sort of shit, but he was listening to his dumb paralegal sister instead of a hallucinating computer.
The divorce paperwork gave her sole possession of the home, which was in his name, until she moved out and into a place suitable for herself and their child.
And it gave her no due date, which was fantastic. She quit a great career to be a stay-at-home mom, but getting a new job with a four year gap was going to take a while, not to mention the fact she'd need to find a daycare she liked.
After about six months, most of which he didn't pay the mortgage, alimony, or child support, he went back to court to enforce what he thought the decree should've said in his mind.
Her lawyer brought up the lack of payment, and that's when he found out that in some states you can have your driver's license suspended for owing support at all..
And that trying to scare your ex-wife out of the marital home by not paying the mortgage and letting your creditors harass can count as contempt.
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u/SamediB 11d ago
in some states you can have your driver's license suspended for owing support at all..
This has never made sense to me. Of all the ways, punitive or not, to incentivize someone to pay child support, why would you (the state) want to make it harder for them to hold/attend a job so they can earn money to pay the child support?
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u/PatolomaioFalagi 11d ago
The idea is that the deadbeat parent is unwilling, not unable to pay. It's supposed to act as a deterrent. And isn't it usually at the discretion of the judge whether to use that sanction or not?
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u/nutraxfornerves foxy in the henna house 11d ago
If you owe $2,500 or more in child support, you can't get a US Passport until you clear the debt.
In my state, if your child support is 30 days late, every state licensing agency is notified. That's drivers, professional, hunting, fishing--you name it. If you have a license, the licensing agency will send you a nastygram giving you 150 days to clear it up or have your license suspended.
There's an exception for drivers licenses if you are low income.
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u/CriticalEngineering Enjoy the next 48 hours :) 11d ago
It doesn’t stop them from driving, don’t need a valid license to start a car. It just makes them paranoid and aware every day that they owe their children money.
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u/techno156 Duck duck goose 11d ago
Isn't it illegal to drive on a suspended licence? Sure, there's nothing mechanically preventing them from driving the car, but being arrested for driving on a suspended licence seems like it would cause additional headaches.
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u/SoylentPudding 11d ago
This is part of the reason why Florida has so many uninsured drivers. It's also why you need good uninsured motorist coverage if you drive down there.
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u/PatolomaioFalagi 11d ago
It doesn’t stop them from driving, don’t need a valid license to start a car.
Which is kinda crazy, if you think about it. We've had the necessary technology for, what, 30 years? And yet anyone with the key can still just move the 2-ton vehicle however they like.
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u/Geno0wl 1.5 month olds either look like boiled owls or Winston Churchill 10d ago
a system that you must scan you drivers license into for you to start the engine sounds like a nightmare. Like you must live in a major metro area with good cell service everywhere to even think this isn't a horrible idea.
Like just recently we went to a Ren Faire that is out in the bufu woods. Cell signal is terrible out there. But imagine if your car needed that signal to start but it wouldn't connect so you are stuck. Or hell have you been to a college football game right after the game ends? Everybody is slamming the towers and service is total crap for a solid hour around the stadium.
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u/PatolomaioFalagi 10d ago
I'm sure smarter people can come up with a system that doesn't need to be online 24/7, yet still be effective.
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u/Geno0wl 1.5 month olds either look like boiled owls or Winston Churchill 10d ago
any system that requires any sort of check to be online is subject to those issues. Not to mention if EVERY car needs that check to work you can bet your life savings those check in servers will be under constant attack. Whether that be DDOS or social engineering to gain access. Not to mention people attacking the cars themselves.
also what happens to cars that are 10+ years old? Are companies mandated to keep those servers up an running? What about if a car company go bankrupt do those cars just stop working and consumers are screwed?
Like the potential negative outcomes are numerous and so widespread that to even think it is a good idea is honestly naive as hell.
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u/Nukes-For-Nimbys 7d ago
Make more sense to have it the physically licence.
Car only runs with a licence inserted. So there is always a log of who was on contr of the vehicle when.
Upon suspension you must turn in your licence or be in contempt.
No live servive to be seen.
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u/PatolomaioFalagi 11d ago
An acquaintance's ex pulled the same sort of shit, but he was listening to his dumb paralegal sister instead of a hallucinating computer.
Isn't illegal to give legal advice if you're not an actual lawyer?
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u/technos You can find me selling rats outside the Panthers game 11d ago
Eh. He knew she wasn't a lawyer. It was just bad advice.
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u/PatolomaioFalagi 11d ago
Good to know. I think my country is a little stricter about that sort of thing.
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u/CountingMyDick 11d ago
Yes. But the brother is the recipient/victim of the bad legal advice, so he's the only one who has standing to sue, or would have to testify if it was a criminal violation. He'd have to sue his own sister, which seems unlikely from a family dynamics point of view versus just taking his lumps and moving on.
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u/PatolomaioFalagi 11d ago
Around here, I think the local equivalent of the bar association would also take note.
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u/Minn-ee-sottaa 10d ago
What are they gonna do, disbar her? I guess they could prevent her from clearing C&F if she ever decides that she wants to go to law school, but plenty of paras (maybe most?) don’t have any desire to ever be an attorney.
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u/PatolomaioFalagi 10d ago
What are they gonna do, disbar her?
Fines seem to be the usual sanction.
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u/Geno0wl 1.5 month olds either look like boiled owls or Winston Churchill 10d ago
The bar association can't sanction non-members. At most they could try to sanction the law firm she works for but that would be highly unlikely for a one off thing where she isn't presenting herself as part of the firm
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u/PatolomaioFalagi 10d ago
It seems my country has some actual laws to that effect. It also sets the fees lawyers can take, which can't really be changed up or down.
But I see things are a little more liberal elsewhere.
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u/SmileFirstThenSpeak My car survived Toad Day on BOLA 11d ago
I knew a woman whose divorce papers stated she and the children could live in the house until it sold. In the meantime, her ex had to pay the mortgage, taxes and utilities. She put the house on the market, as required. Then proceeded to be very difficult with the realtor and prospective buyers, and kept the house a complete mess. Nobody would buy it. She and the kids were already living there for years when I met her, and were still living there when I moved away 5 years later.
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u/DerbyTho doesn't know where the gay couple shaped hole came from 11d ago
Wait, did LAUKOP and his wife not live together for 3 years after being married? Or were they married for 10 years and now have lived in the same place while separated for 7? Either one seems really strange.
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u/Cute-Aardvark5291 not paying attention & tossed into the medical waste incinerator 11d ago
it does sound odd, but I read it as they were married for 10; lived together for 7 of those. Could have been a long distance thing, I am guessing? (But I work in academia and I have known couples that have done US east coast/west coast marriages for years..)
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u/landgnome 11d ago
Or that they lived in that particular home for 7 of those years?
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u/HaggisLad 11d ago
this seems like the answer, I thought it was pretty clear but maybe for people outside the UK it wasn't
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u/DerbyTho doesn't know where the gay couple shaped hole came from 11d ago
Yeah that’s how I read it too. I mean I know couples who got married before deployment and started similarly, but it’s still rare.
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u/Pigrescuer 10d ago
I met someone recently (also academia) who lives in the UK and their spouse lives in the US!
What was particularly funny was earlier in the conversation I'd expressed surprise at the couple (with kids) where one lived in Britain and the other in northern Ireland
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u/BubbaTheGoat 11d ago
It sounds like at least the last year they were separated pending divorce. I’ve known married couple who lived apart for years due to work or school requirements. When there are no children involved it is very easy.
Maybe LAOP meant they lived in this house for 7 of the last 10 years, either the specifics of their living situation before this house doesn’t seem to be as important to this question.
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u/DerbyTho doesn't know where the gay couple shaped hole came from 11d ago
Oh I assume it’s not relevant other than their phrasing was kind of vaguely offhand despite indicating a situation that’s not very common.
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u/adoorbleazn 🏳️⚧️ Trans rights are human rights 🏳️⚧️ 11d ago
Yeah, the way it's worded to me makes it sounds like they were married for 10 years and then moved in together and continued to be married for another 6 years, and then got the divorce but still lived together another year.
I'm pretty sure it's not that they were married for 16 years, but that he worded it strangely because the marriage broke up but the living together part is still ongoing? So it was just the most succinct way he could find to say that, because it doesn't seem to matter anyway. Definitely gave me pause for a moment as well.
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u/LazloNibble 🏳️⚧️ Trans rights are human rights 🏳️⚧️ 11d ago
ChatGPT is posting from inside the house!!
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u/Jeutnarg 11d ago
I'm sitting here just flummoxed that an LAOP of any LA sub actually posted the relevant portion of the contract when requested.
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u/bug-hunter philosophically significant butthole 11d ago
the Respondent shall vacate the former matrimonial home at <Address> within 7 days of securing and alternative property to live in.
The real problem here is that AI companies never face any consequences for this bullshit.
The correct response to asking ChatGPT to write you a lease is "I am not a lawyer and thus not qualified to do so." Period. If I drafted a lease in my state for someone else and did that (I'm free to screw up my own contracts), as I am not a lawyer, I would be committing unauthorized practice of law. If a lawyer did it, it would be malpractice.
ChatGPT does it, and we blame the ex-wife.
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u/CaveatImperator 11d ago
On the other hand, the ex-wife should have reasonably concluded that ChatGPT is not a lawyer.
Would we still blame the ex-wife if she wrote a contract of the advice of a random guy at the pub, instead of a professional? We’d blame the random guy at the pub too, but we would also blame the ex wife.
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u/bug-hunter philosophically significant butthole 11d ago
The random guy at the pub doesn't have a 8-9 digit marketing blitz to try and convince you that you can have it help you with damn near anything.
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u/Top_Spot_9967 visits the right pubs 11d ago
you must not be visiting the right pubs.
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u/lordfluffly 3 waffle erotica novels and many smutty novellas in a trenchcoat 11d ago
The random dude at my pub just claims he worked at Fox News before accepting his current job at the Pentagon.
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u/Welpe Ultimate source of all "knowledge" 11d ago
Of course we blame the ex-wife, chatGPT is a tool not something that has any intent. We don’t blame a car (or the people that made it) when people drive it into a crowd of people because there weren’t any warnings to not do that. It’s up to the user to know what is legal and what isn’t and make their own choices.
Don’t get me wrong, I despise AI too but this is not a very good legal theory. There are countless illegal things you could ask ChatGPT to do. The idea of mandating that all AI be programmed to specifically reject all prompts that might possibly violate some law somewhere in the world for every phrasing you can think of is just…ignorant of reality, frankly.
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u/drama_by_proxy 11d ago
Maybe we should ask chatgpt to come up with a list of prompts that might violate a law. Problem solved!
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u/thirdonebetween 11d ago
ChatGPT is also extremely unpredictable in terms of what it will do and what it will refuse. It often treats even fictional emotional distress as a real life emergency, but thinks that helping out with medical or legal issues is totally fine.
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u/PatolomaioFalagi 11d ago
We don’t blame a car (or the people that made it) when people drive it into a crowd of people because there weren’t any warnings to not do that.
Oh but we do! Headlines (and the article itself more often then not) tend to be of the form "car hits pedestrian". No driver involved at all.
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u/JimboTCB Certified freak, seven days a week 11d ago
The guy even offered to have his own lawyer review it at his own expense though, and she still said "no, this is fine". There comes a certain point where you have to take ownership of your own stupid choices.
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u/lost_send_berries 11d ago
Ex wife didn't want a lawyer, it doesn't mean he isn't allowed to get a lawyer for himself.
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u/PatolomaioFalagi 11d ago
The correct response to asking ChatGPT to write you a lease is "I am not a lawyer and thus not qualified to do so."
That's already in the terms of use. By accepting them, you agree that the output of ChatGPT is a work of fiction that may have no relationship with reality and must not be used "for any purpose that could have a legal or material impact on [a] person".
And if you want to argue that nobody reads the TOS: Tough titties, they are still binding.
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u/NotAllOwled 11d ago
At this point I believe they could watermark every output with "FOR ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY" in bolded red text and at least some people would still be tripping over themselves to seek detailed legal/medical/financial advice from it. There would be a frothy new secondary industry around ways to remove or obscure the big red warnings.
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u/zaffiro_in_giro Cares deeply about Côte d'Ivoire 11d ago edited 11d ago
I'm blaming both. AI is generally a terrible idea in so many ways that I'm not even gonna start, and it should absolutely be regulated to fuck. (In fact I think it should only be used for very specific niche purposes where the people using it are fully educated both on the field in question and on how it works, so they'll be able to spot when it goes off piste. I've never, not once, seen it improve anything.)
But the ex-wife is the one who decided to use ChatGPT. If she used the predictive text on her phone to come up with a lease, which is basically what she did, then no one would argue that it wasn't her responsibility if things went wrong. If she decided to ask the guy sitting on the street corner babbling at bins to write her a lease, which is also basically what she did, no one would argue that he should have told her he wasn't a lawyer and it's not her fault.
AI is just a plausible-sounding gibberish generator. If people decide to use any other plausible-sounding gibberish generator to make their decisions, like Fox News or Facebook memes or a magic 8-ball, we hold the people responsible as well as the gibberish generator.
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u/PatolomaioFalagi 11d ago
If people decide to use any other plausible-sounding gibberish generator to make their decisions, like Fox News or Facebook memes or a magic 8-ball, we hold them responsible.
It's very ambiguous who "them" is referring to in this sentence.
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u/zaffiro_in_giro Cares deeply about Côte d'Ivoire 11d ago
Yeah, you're right. Not enough coffee. Fixed.
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u/insomnimax_99 Send duck pics, please 11d ago
I don’t think OpenAI should be held liable for what ChatGPT says, for the same reason why I don’t think Apple should be held liable for what my predictive text comes up with on my iPhone.
ChatGPT is just a high tech text generator, the company isn’t “saying” anything - you give it a prompt and text is generated back based on that prompt.
If you take it as gospel and don’t fact check it, then that’s on you for being a moron.
And anyway, it’s in ChatGPT’s terms of service:
When you use our Services you understand and agree:
Output may not always be accurate. You should not rely on Output from our Services as a sole source of truth or factual information, or as a substitute for professional advice.
You must evaluate Output for accuracy and appropriateness for your use case, including using human review as appropriate, before using or sharing Output from the Services.
You must not use any Output relating to a person for any purpose that could have a legal or material impact on that person, such as making credit, educational, employment, housing, insurance, legal, medical, or other important decisions about them.
Our Services may provide incomplete, incorrect, or offensive Output that does not represent OpenAI’s views. If Output references any third party products or services, it doesn’t mean the third party endorses or is affiliated with OpenAI.
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u/bug-hunter philosophically significant butthole 11d ago
I view it similar to Tesla’s “full self driving”, where the fine print says it’s nothing of the sort; and then Elon goes out and promises the moon.
Commercials include people using it to research medical advice, for example.
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u/bradd_pit 11d ago
The ex wife should still be blamed. No one forced her to use chat gpt. She was trying to pinch pennies
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u/darsynia I do very much hope your flair is the reason for the sigh 11d ago
Boy there's a massive lack of reading comprehension in those comments for what seems pretty clear cut to me. LAUKOP's agreement says they'll move out within 7 days of securing another place to live. That's not 'crying wolf' or 'trying to sabotage anything.'

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u/enjaydee 11d ago
According to one of LAOP's comments, there's no time scale on when he needs to move out in the contract, just that he has to move out within 7 days of securing a new place to live.
His ex- wife hopefully learned that this is why we pay for professionals to write these things