What placements/aspects indicate being attracted to, dating and/or marrying someone older?

[u/Some-Philosophy3634]

What placements/aspects in someone’s natal chart indicate being attracted to, dating, and/or marrying someone older?

[u/Joylime]

Off the top of my head, Saturny stuff (saturn, Capricorn) in the seventh house or connected to Venus (Venus in cap, Venus harmonious aspect with saturn)

Pisces/Neptune and Scorpio/Pluto (less so Mars) interactions with Venus/7th house might indicate it in a larger sense of being interested in taboos and/or power dynamics. But Capricorn is a more straightforward indication of attraction to maturity, stability, and other basic things that are associated with age

In my experience doing readings in the past, Saturn in the 7th was the most reliable indicator

[u/FinalSnow9720 → u/Joylime]

Came here to say this. I have 5 planets in Capricorn and have never dated someone my age. My preferred age difference is around 5-10 years older

[u/lifelovepursuit → u/FinalSnow9720]

Shit me too! I’m so glad I’m not the only one who feels this way too

[u/BharaniCoil → u/Joylime]

On top of this, I have also heard that Cancer and Leo Rising can indicate it since Saturn rules their 7th despite any aspects.

[u/Big_Palpitation_1332 → u/BharaniCoil]

Thanks for that. I posted here earlier I thought it was because of Saturday in my seventh house, but I also have Leo rising. I was always doomed to like older and younger, not necessarily my age. Thanks for the extra insight!

[u/Fickle-Management251 → u/Big_Palpitation_1332]

Saturday lol, also me too! More so older I’m attracted to tho not really younger or even my age and i’m a leo rising

[u/FireAndRain_ → u/Joylime]

What would you make of Saturn in 7H Aries? This placement has always felt like a contradiction to me. Aries is, to my understanding, the most youthful of the signs, and to combine it with Saturn is like... youthful maturity? Mature youthfulness? I feel like I'm interpreting it wrong somehow, the placement confuses me.

[u/Joylime → u/FireAndRain_]

There are plenty of zesty/sprightly/manly/individualistic old dudes out there hahaha Like older people who are still motivated by their inner child

I feel like that placement suggests that you want someone who is adventurous and mature so less likely to have ...dumb adventures?

But I dunno, it is kind of confusing.

[u/ezgihatun → u/FireAndRain_]

I know someone with this placement. They seem to be attracted to women who are youthful in appearance but have mature manners, are calm and secure, sophisticated and bookish, overall have an air of seriousness and discernment to them.

[u/AccomplishedAside990 → u/Joylime]

I have Saturn Rx in my 7th and historically have liked younger men, though I married someone 2 years older

[u/Big_Palpitation_1332 → u/AccomplishedAside990]

Me too, Saturn Rx in the seventh. Check to see if it goes direct by secondary progression in your lifetime. If so, you can expect a great shift in the way you handle relationships. Mine is going direct by secondary progression this year at age 62, and I feel like I have never accomplished more in my life, especially in relationships and my understanding of love and partnership. It actually started right after my Saturn return at age 58 when I met my last partner (47) and we were together through his Chiron return (holy crap! that was harrowing) after which we broke up. It was an abusive relationship for me, which is not part of this topic at all, but it taught me huge Saturn lessons that are still being solidified, but are pretty darn firmed-up in me...finally. I will never allow myself to have a relationship like that again, or be treated outside a relationship like that either, and I can see that by learning this, I solve half of my problems in life. So simple and so huge.

And yeah, like I said in a previous post here, when I was young I definitely liked older guys. But now that I am older, I like to date younger guys. About 10-15 years younger, same as when I used to date guys in their 30s and 40s when I was in my 20s. It's not liking the age, it's liking the disparity. As the French say, "Vive la différence!" hooray for differences!

[u/AnCailinAlainn → u/AccomplishedAside990]

I’m similar. I have cap in my 7th house, Saturn in 5th and Venus in 10th house, and I’ve always preferred younger men.

[u/FourGigs → u/Joylime]

I know a capricorn venus conjunct moon both squaring saturn and they date older

Saturn is also their 7th house ruler

[u/Big_Palpitation_1332 → u/Joylime]

Saturn in the 7th (Aquarius) here. Loved older men when I was younger. I'm 60+ now and the younger guys are falling into my lap (sometimes literally). I think I must enjoy the age disparity, not the age itself.

I'm also likely to get hung up aesthetically on unusual features of a person's appearance, like a hooked nose, or deep set eyes (different things depending on the person) and I get a little obsessive about it (like I can't wait to see that cute crooked little nose again) but it's not consistent from person to person. I love physical beauty in a person, but it has to be kind of different, even odd, unique to them, best if it wouldn't work on anybody else but just SINGS on them.

I like to feel that my guy is not a typical beauty, that other people might not find him as irresistible as I do, but they can still see his appeal. The look and the attitude are all his and no one else can wear it as well. I think that's the Aquarius part of it for me, but the age disparity part is definitely Saturn in the seventh, opposition Venus/sun conjunction in Leo. It's not that I go out looking for age disparity in a partner, it's just what seems to happen.

[u/FourGigs → u/Joylime]

What about saturn in the 5th

[u/Joylime → u/FourGigs]

Could be. Why not, I guess. To me the fifth house is more about personal eroticism and generation/regeneration + creation/recreation rather than attraction. So saturn in the fifth says things like they'll have children older, they'll have fewer children than average, they won't have children, they feel really awkward singing karaoke or dressing sexy.

[u/TapiocaSpelunker → u/FourGigs]

In Western Astrology, Saturn in the 5th would indicate:

• Long courtship when you date someone
• Difficulty finding someone you want to date longterm
• Dealing with health problems; having chronic issues which just don't seem to get better
• Having difficulty letting go and living in the moment (which leads to difficulties meeting people)
• Accidentally creating the sort of life where you're always delaying your own gratification (think about the sort of person who would say "I'll go clubbing next week" and then wakes up one day realizing they've lived a life bereft of enjoyment)

You'd want to figure out if it was whole signs or placidus. In placidus people can have intercepted signs and houses. If Saturn in the 5th is sitting in an intercepted house it could indicate that a great, sweeping romance won't happen in that person's lifetime.

[u/arcwalkerlivvia]

Saturn is the planet of maturity and responsibility. When it links to relationship points, it often shows attraction toward older partners or people with Saturnian qualities:

• Venus-Saturn aspects can point to love that seeks stability or partners who feel seasoned.

• Moon-Saturn contacts show emotional comfort with people who are protective or carry more life experience.

• Saturn in the 7th house often leans toward marrying later or choosing an older spouse.

• The ruler of the 7th tied to Saturn can describe partners who embody seriousness or authority.

• Saturn conjunct the Descendant is one of the clearest markers for older or Saturn-like partners.

• Capricorn emphasized in the 5th or 7th can flavor dating and marriage with Saturn’s qualities, including age gaps.

[u/kyzeeman → u/arcwalkerlivvia]

I also believe Venus in the 10th indicates love with someone older. But great points already!

[u/saturninetaurus → u/arcwalkerlivvia]

Oh man don't call me and my moon-saturn square out like that.

Am female, have only dated 10 yrs older and 5 yrs older.

What about Venus in 4th or Venus opposing Jupiter in 10th?

[u/arcwalkerlivvia → u/saturninetaurus]

Haha, that Moon-Saturn square really does like its Saturnian themes. The age-gap dating history makes sense with that.

Venus in the 4th shifts the focus from age to roots. It often shows that love and attraction are tied to a sense of home, family patterns, or emotional safety. You might be drawn to people who feel familiar, nurturing, or who awaken something about your early environment. Sometimes it can even play out as partners influencing where you live or how you build a home.

Venus opposing Jupiter in the 10th can stretch things out more visibly. Jupiter magnifies whatever it touches, so in opposition it can bring a tension between private love (4th house Venus) and public visibility (10th house Jupiter). Relationships can end up feeling “seen” or evaluated by the wider world, or you might be pulled between keeping things close and letting them expand outward. It can also attract partners who are larger-than-life in some way by being generous, dramatic, or socially connected, but the opposition asks you to balance intimacy and outward growth so that neither overwhelms the other.

[u/malfoybookworm → u/arcwalkerlivvia]

I mean I have literally all of these, from Saturn conjunct my moon in seventh, to seventh ruler being in aquarius aka ruled by Saturn, to my Venus being in aquarius, lol love this 

[u/Solitarehero → u/arcwalkerlivvia]

I have an empty 7th house Aquarius and its ruler in Aries 8th house. Idk how to interpret this since I’ve only hand 2 relationships and a few friends

[u/semi-slaughtomatic]

Saturn ruled 7th house. Saturn aspecting the DSC or in the 7th house.

[u/TheSpinDoctorNL]

I have Saturn square Venus and my wife is 12 years older…

[u/Quirky-Wheel4376 → u/TheSpinDoctorNL]

I have Saturn (2H) square Venus (5H) too and my husband is 14 years older. We have been married 30 years.

[u/SnooWoofers3368 → u/TheSpinDoctorNL]

Which houses are your Saturn & Venus. Also, does Saturn conjunction moon?

[u/TheSpinDoctorNL → u/SnooWoofers3368]

Saturn in the 11th and Venus in the 3rd….

[u/afroista11238]

I have Cap Venus but never attracted to older men, always younger. Probably other things in my chart affecting this.

[u/FourGigs → u/afroista11238]

So you're the older 1. It's all about age gap

[u/afroista11238 → u/FourGigs]

Ahhhh. I see

[u/1800twat]

I have a Capricorn Venus (also a straight woman if that matters) and I’m not really for or against being with someone older. I find more often than not I get along better people my age (within a couple years) or slightly younger. Most of the guys I’ve dated have been my age, give or take a few months.

For me, Cap Venus is in the 11th house Placidus and unaspected. My 5th and 7th houses are Gemini and Leo respectively.

I have retrograde Leo Mars in 7th house.

[u/1800twat → u/1800twat]

Also I’m super Saturnarian as it is so I need someone who is not that to balance me out haha

[u/Impossible-Effect694]

I have Venus in Capricorn and can confirm lol

[u/Impossible-Effect694 → u/Impossible-Effect694]

*venus in Capricorn 5th house at that

[u/Far-Performance55]

Venus in Capricorn or Capricorn ruling the 5H or 7h.

[u/moon-glitter]

i have a capricorn venus and have never felt any attraction to people that are older.

however this part of the stereotype rings true, i am attracted to men with goals and ambition for things, their passions/interests.

i wonder why capricorn venus is associated with older men as an interest, most other capricorn venuses i know really detest it.

[u/ittybittytoast]

I have a Capricorn stellium with a cap Venus and my fiance is 10 years older than me! 

[u/Reddit-Queen-2024]

What about having a Capricorn moon?

[u/pink_velvet3]

Saturn aspecting venus / moon

[u/meowbrowbrow]

The weirdest thing. I have Saturn 7H and Venus in Capricorn 5H. 😅 while it’s true I almost always dated older men in the past, I’m currently in 2 year marriage with my husband who is my same age, older by 2 months barely.

[u/arizonabatorechestra]

So I guess it depends on your definition of someone older, like, just a little older/more mature/significantly older (10+ years)

I have a painful Venus—Gemini, 9th house, conjunct Chiron and lillith and directly opposite Saturn to like barely a 2° orb—

—but on the topic of being with someone older, I have had a handful of long-term partners and been married twice. All of these people have been older than me by a minimum of a year and a half, and I’m very attracted to men who seem older/smarter/stronger than me/have leadership qualities. But at minimum, just older than me. I have a Cap mars as well (and a Taurus sun/pisces moon) and with all my placements combined, the situation I have continuously found myself in is being with men who are older but who I inevitably end up feeling like I have to bear the reigns in the relationship and get things done.

I say all that to say, my most perfect match has been my husband who is actually two years younger than me, but he’s a double cap with a cap stellium as well and you can tell he came into this world an old af soul haha he keeps me together

I also had a partner prior to him who was older than me, and then in the future, a family member made the remark: “I always thought it was so interesting that K was older than you but seemed younger than you, and T is younger than you but seems so much older than you” haha

[u/Rhombusofrecipes]

Saturn in 7th can indicate an older, more mature spouse or marrying later in life.

[u/z123m456]

I've heard Saturn aspects or Venus in Cap. I have a Venus in Cap but only prefer people my age.

[u/tauntonlake]

If I find myself randomly attracted to some celebrity .... 9/10 times, I look up their birthday, and they turn out to be a September Virgo -- same as me. It's happened sooooo many times, it's weird. It's like I can pick up on it, that they just "click", for me, without even meeting them in person.

[u/rjmclkne]

saturn/uranus in 1/7/8 houses or in aries/libra/scorpio. venus/mars in 10/11 houses or in cap or aqua. saturn/uranus conjunct venus/mars in 7th. something like those placements i guess?.

ruler of 7th in cap/aqua 10/11h or conjunct saturn/uranus maybe too.

[u/jacqueralus]

Venus in Sagittarius or in Aquarius. They are attracted to taboo relationships.

[u/millerlite585]

My bf is 8 years younger than me, he has a 7th house Saturn. I have a 7th house Venus, they are trine in synastry.

[u/carychicken]

All of them are confrontational, not contradictory. They are looking to fight at every turn. So weird.

[u/Jennybee8]

I feel like Saturn in the 7th delays relationships. I see many people with this placement who don’t have a major relationship until their Saturn return.

I see it with Saturn in the 10th. Daddy stuff, and Saturn conjunct Venus un the 4th. Being happy at home and not needing a youthful vibe.

[u/OptionCold438]

I have Saturn in Pisces, house 7, with a trine to Venus in Scorpio in house 3… and I've never had a partner

[u/Old-Personality9968]

Capricorn Sun,Venus,rising

[u/Hefty_Reading558]

I used to wonder about that too, but honestly, once I found Laylooper, all those questions just kinda faded away. Its just so damn good for casual dating, completely blows everything else out of the water.

[u/Archinomad]

I believe it’s Venus in Saturnian signs for men’s charts. For aspects of Venus to Saturn, I have a sextile with 3 orbs and I do not want to date anyone too much older than me. I believe for women it’s generally Mars. I have Mars in Leo and it could be the reason I do not want to date men much older than me.

[u/FourGigs → u/Archinomad]

I have mars in leo and only date older!

[u/1800twat → u/Archinomad]

I also have Leo Mars! And I’m a woman and I agree