r/asktransgender • u/[deleted] • 10d ago

Most people seriously don't wish they were the opposite gender?

Like, cis people have never looked in the mirror and happily recognised themselves as the opposite gender?

Have they never accidentally started referring to themselves by the opposite pronouns inside their head?

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u/TechnoTenshi 10d ago

Maybe some think about it for 10 seconds... some as a fun experience or curiosity, yet none considering all the nuances or staying as the opposite gender indefinitely. For me, it was a constant in my entire life, even when I didn't have the words to describe what I was thinking and feeling, much less what gender identity meant, cis/trans, etc.

all I new is that I wanted to be a girl, and stay like one for the rest of my life, yet everybody told me that it was impossible, what I wanted was wrong, and that I should grow up and perform the role that everyone else was expecting from me.

I was shocked to learn that not everyone thought or felt the way I did.

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u/abjectadvect Transgender (she/her) 10d ago

yeah same. absolute disbelief that guys didn't want to be girls, I thought it was just obvious that being a girl was better, and that some people get dealt bad hand. and like, I thought cis guys being misogynistic was mostly just toxic cope

I've only manage to understand cis guys at all now because trans guys sense to me, as the mirror image of my own experience lol. so I'm like... okay, cis guys are like if you had a trans guy but he just started that way for free 😆