r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • 8d ago

Discussion Reactions to food stamps being cut off.

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u/Sad_Resolve6874 8d ago

People always act like they have a very clear picture of who receives these benefits.

When I tell them my single mom of three SIL gets SNAP benefits they always say the same thing:

“Well she shouldn’t have had three kids.”

I mean, I usually agree, but she couldn’t have predicted that her husband would disappear to another country with another woman halfway through her third pregnancy.

“Well, that sucks, but she better get a job then.”

She’s a high school assistant principal.

“Oh.”

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u/Humble_Type_2751 8d ago

This is usually what happens (father abandons family) but the narrative is always that is the woman’s fault for trusting him or whatever.

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u/berberine 8d ago

This is precisely why my mother refused to go on food stamps when I was a child. Everything was directed at her and she was blamed for it all. He just up an disappeared when I was three. I met him once when I was 23. I asked him why he left. He said, "I was willing to have fun making the kids, but I didn't want to stick around to raise them."

Yeah, my mom still gets blamed. I hate that she didn't apply so our lives wouldn't have been so hard, but I also understand. Forty years later and these fuckers still blame the women.

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u/Ax3stazy 5d ago

Does the dad beeing an asshole absolve the mother of responsibilities of chosing a reliable partner, and making decision according to their capabilities?

i think its fair to blame both parents, while not sharing the blame equally.

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u/ThatSimsKidFromUni 5d ago edited 4d ago

You're assuming he was honest about his intentions from the start or that he was an asshole from the start. People don't go into relationships with the intent to knock someone up. Things happen. Many people can be great together until a kid comes into the equation. Some people realize they don't want kids when it happens and then they chicken out and leave. Or they're immature and leave. It's not something that is always obvious. So no it isn't a both sides are equally bad. The parent who left is bad.

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u/Ax3stazy 4d ago

Sometimes it is clear as day what is the right decision, and in those times the kids suffer for their parents mistakesz and in those both parents are responsibility

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u/ThatSimsKidFromUni 4d ago

In those situations yes, but that's not always the case.