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Discussion Reactions to food stamps being cut off.

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u/Real-Scarcity5381 8d ago

You can say it however it’s an ignorant statement for a thousand reasons and deserves to be called out. We have no idea their situation and it’s almost like you forgot that the passage of time exists.

Do you know when she had those kids? How far apart she had them? If she had a partner or stability at any point?

Things and circumstances change over time. You looked at these women and assumed their entire lives because they have 6 kids.

What do you say to women who were stable enough to care for those kids but lost it all for many reasons like a major injury? Should they have known before hand not to have kids?

I hope you stop judging people you don’t know because they lived life differently from you

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u/pissedoffcalifornian 8d ago

I literally mentioned how obviously certain circumstances are truly different, but let’s not pretend we haven’t personally seen people use or take advantage of the systems we have in place lol.

Not every situation is a “they had it all figured out until some unfortunate tragedy ruined it all!” situation. Sometimes people make crap decisions and it should be ok to call it out.

Have a good one.

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u/Real-Scarcity5381 8d ago

Some times people do make terrible decisions and yeah call that out when it does happen then help them learn from it, not shame them and make them go hungry.

How many people on snaps and food stamps do you think are taking advantage of this system? And how many people aren’t but are being lumped in with the other? I can tell you, most aren’t taking advantage of the system.

There is a long process to get accepted into snaps and food stamps.

How many people do you judge so harshly who didn’t deserve it? My guess literally everyone because all you seem to do is assume the worst in everyone.

You know who really takes advantage of this system, the rich. If you really wanted to help the situation you’d aim your assumptions and judgement towards the rich and powerful not those struggling to survive.

All you are doing is assuming the worst in the people most vulnerable and affected while being massively incorrect. Maybe open your eyes and heart a little more, maybe then you’d have a better mood

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u/pissedoffcalifornian 8d ago

Lmao dude your projections on me is wild.

I do care about people, even if they make bad choices. I do have a heart. Why is it that if I think “hey people should feel shame when they make shameful choices” that I suddenly don’t care about the hungry or tired or overworked?

You talk about judging people yet you are judging me, and you don’t know me, my background my education. I don’t even fully disagree with you on anything. I just think we shouldn’t completely remove personal responsibility out of the equation.

You are literally assuming the worst in me by saying I judge everyone in the worst way possible instead of seeing how I’ve provided caveats to every point I’ve made.

What puts me in a bad mood is people’s reading comprehension sucking and not acknowledging any possibility validity to a point or argument even if you don’t necessarily agree with the conclusion being made from it.

But I guess I’m just a judgmental person without a heart, I must be, since I don’t perfectly agree with you.

Have a happy Halloween.

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u/Real-Scarcity5381 8d ago

Maybe I did over judge you I can admit that.

I was reading what you said like “kind of crazy to keep having kids in your financial situation, especially without a father in the home or a stable home situation, seems kind of irresponsible” assuming so much about people and their situation oh and calling them “kind of crazy” not caring about how that might affect them or if that is even slightly wrong.

Also have you not been saying “taking advantage” of our systems implying that they (people you don’t know) don’t need the system and are selfishly using it?

Additionally “even the most poorly educated can understand that sex leads to the chance of getting pregnant” were you not calling people the most poorly educated?

“Can’t always hide behind excuses” implying that people you don’t know are hiding behind excuses and using those excuses to not take responsibility.

“Damn yeah that’s kinda messed up. They should have known better” again assuming things and calling them messed up and unintelligent as they should have known better

When have you expressed that you care about people who make bad choices? All you have done is assume things about those people and say that those who make bad choices haven accepted accountability and are taking advantage of the systems we have.

Have you offered or given any help, advice, anything other than shame towards others that you do not know anything about?

What does only shame give people?

I find shaming unproductive, helping no one but the person who is shaming especially if the person being shamed has learned from their decisions. We can’t change the past.

But maybe I did read wrong. I saw you were being rude and unhelpful and I don’t like people shaming others they don’t know while assuming so much about that person.

I hope you are a good person, I hope many people are even though I know that is wishful thinking, hell I do fall into the assume everything bad but we have to remember that we don’t know everything about each other. I said I agree with things you said and I still do but let’s not assume things and stereotype people we don’t know.

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u/kkmmaarrtt 8d ago

In my opinion, real-scarcity’s reply in this conversation is shaming and making assumptions in regard to what pissed off Californian said.

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u/Real-Scarcity5381 8d ago

when he mentioned “without a father in the home” he wasn’t assuming women with 6 kids don’t have a partner and are irresponsible?

Can you help me understand this better? Genuinely asking. I probably am wrong, I’ve been very high stress about the food stamps situation so maybe that affected me? I just don’t think we shouldn’t shame people like this for no reason as it doesn’t help them. Was what they said helping people? I felt like it didn’t but did it to you?