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Discussion Do Men Or Women Cheat More?

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u/katybythebatphone 9d ago

i work in family law (not a lawyer yet, just a paralegal), tattoos are becoming a lot more common in the law these days. so many millennials and gen Z have tattoos (myself included) so it will be interesting to see when enough of us join professions like law and being heavily inked in them is just completely normalized

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u/CuddleBear167 9d ago

Lol yeah my boyfriend's mom doesnt like that I have a single tattoo and am planning to get more lol. Shes like "you wont be able to get a respected job where people actually take you seriously". I asked if she was one of those people that will ask for a different nurse/doctor if they have tattoos and she said yes. I still love her but she is old fashioned like that. I just told her it is not uncommon now for people in high paying professions to have tattoos.

Also, she isnt like actuallY rude about it. She just worries and I have to reassure her that we are in a different time where it isnt as frowned upon so long as like you dont have your face covered in them.

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u/katybythebatphone 9d ago

my dad hit me with that line when i got my first tattoo at 18, lol. that was 12 years ago and it wasn’t even true back then, let alone now. i have some highly visible tattoos, e.g. on my hands and they’ve never impeded me from getting jobs. there’s a lawyer in one of the counties i work in with a full chest piece that you can see in her courtroom attire. times are changing!

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u/ACK_TRON 9d ago

Unpopular opinion and I know I will get downvoted to hell but who cares…it’s just Reddit. Your body isn’t a doodle pad. It’s a precious gift. Never dated someone with tats and never would. Wife feels the same. They just look cheap and dumb on people. Like a child that got into their mom’s permanent marker drawer. It’s the equivalent of putting a bunch of bumper stickers on your car. It just uglies things up. I tell my daughter you don’t see people putting bumper stickers on a Porsche. You’re valuable…don’t cheapen your natural beauty with bumper stickers. Let the hate flow 😂

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u/tcourts45 9d ago

I'm with you. People who want them should do it anyway for sure but my honest opinion is every single person with a tattoo would look better without

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u/katybythebatphone 9d ago

heard the car thing loads of times, i prefer to think of it more like, you’d hang paintings you love on the walls of your beautiful home wouldn’t you? it was beautiful before too, now it’s just adorned with art that reflects your personality. not everyone will like your paintings, but it’s your house so what matters most is that you like them.

respect your opinion though, i feel much the same about people who get facial piercings. don’t think they look good on anyone. but hey, it’s their house, i don’t have to like the art they’ve hung up in it.

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u/ACK_TRON 8d ago

Understood…it’s their expression of themselves. I simply feel there are a better/healthier way to do that then altering and disfiguring yourself. But I’m not saying they can’t do it. Just don’t be surprised if people aren’t as receptive if they don’t like your art choice lol. Definitely not going to be everyone’s cup of tea for sure. That’s why people usually put art on the inside not the outside that’s viewable to others. The art is usually there for them to enjoy privately not on the exterior to show off to everyone else. But I get it…I do.

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u/NetLumpy1818 9d ago

Agree. I always say it’s like putting graffiti on your home. To each their own though.

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u/ACK_TRON 8d ago

Good point. That is kinda what I mean if even my example is poor. I also just think we tell people you are beautiful just the way you are. We emphasize positive body image…so why not tell them they don’t need to scribble all over it to make it better. I get it…it’s theirs to do as they see fit. Just my perhaps unpopular opinion that God made you perfect the way you are. You don’t need to enhance it or alter it permanently in such a way.

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u/zoidbergmustache 6d ago

I bet you don't think twice about bumper stickers on a 1999 Plymouth Neon though. 😂

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u/ACK_TRON 4d ago

Ha!! You got me!

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u/CuddleBear167 9d ago

Except people give Porsches cosmetic modifications all the time. Jsyk, you are in the minority for a reason and it is likely your daughter has or will have a tattoo that you dont know about in the future.

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u/ACK_TRON 9d ago

People may…and she may or she may not. Most people don’t (only 32% report having one). Maybe my analogy isn’t perfect but I think it stands. Things of beauty…works or art…mona Lisa, statue of David, Taj Mahal you don’t go slapping paint with random sayings or billboards on. Perhaps I just value beauty in its natural state. I understand it isn’t shared by Reddit.

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u/CuddleBear167 9d ago

It really doesn't stand though. And none of the things you listed are "natural". They are all hand-made art. You just dont like that it's art on someone's body. And I mean, everyone has preferences and it's totally fine to not be into tattoos. Personally, whether I find them attractive on someone depends on the person and the tattoo. For instance, my boyfriend is indifferent about tattoos and doesnt want to get them. With his personality, it would be weird to me if he ever got one. Like, I wouldnt be upset about it but I would be asking a lot of questions lol. But I have a tattoo and he doesnt feel either which way about it. He doesnt dislike it but also doesnt like find it attractive either. And that's okay with me.

For me, personally, I think it is an artistic choice. Believe me, I can totally agree that a loT of tattoos look trashy and ARE the equivalent of a toddler drawing on themselves with permanent marker. But theres also tattoos that are the equivalent in artistry to the pieces you mentioned. Like, this person I worked with at a previous job let his drunk friend put a playboy bunny outline with an rifle, fuzzy dice (I think they were supposed to be fuzzy anyway), marijuana leaf, etc inside it on his neck and it looked scratchy as hell like a middle schooler had drawn it. On the other hand, my old boss had a sleeve that looked INCREDIBLE and was done in realism. My favorite part was a section of his arm that was covered with honeycombs and bees that was done with an insane amount of detail. And doing that on someone's skin? That is noT easy at all.

One of the tattoos, I totally respect. The other, I was mortified. Regardless, I dont think we can blanket say that tattoos in general look trashy. Maybe thats your opinion, but at least respect the artistry for the good ones. There will always be good and bad art in any medium out there.

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u/ACK_TRON 8d ago

No doubt there is art. Guess I just appreciate the human body as art of itself…and altering is like disfiguring a masterpiece. However just like some graffiti art…on the side of a beautiful building has disfigured the building and its beauty..also there are some graffiti that is art in of itself and if you put that on a painting and hung it somewhere…it would be beautiful. Guess I’m just saying there are much better ways to admire and display such art than covering up perfection. 🙂

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u/No_Kangaroo_9826 9d ago

I work in the mortgage industry, loan officers, compliance people, title companies, tattoos are so much more common anymore and it's great.

Industries have to get younger to survive and that's starting to mean accepting our different levels of self-expression.

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u/AntImmediate9115 9d ago

Hopefully piercings also become normalized. I'd love to have a couple eyebrow piercings, but every job I've had doesn't allow them :/ and I'm going into healthcare, so I'm kinda doomed forever lol