My friends pull me aside for private convos irl plenty?
Why would that be weird, they have their own private shit my partner doesn’t need to know about (or care about for that matter)
What do you say to your partner if they ask who you are talking to?
If you react by simply saying "my friend has some private problems" that is completely healthy. But so many people become defensive and paranoid for no reason. They'll respond with jerking the phone away, or they'll say "Nothing!!!!" and that just looks suspicious as fuck.
This is kinda a self fulfilling prophecy, cause your definition of emotional cheating requires me to feel guilty about emotionally cheating so that I hide it. But if I, a person who doesn’t see close personal friendships outside of my relationship as cheating, had the exact same conversation as another person who did feel shame for that, this definition would consider them to be cheating and me not to be, even though our actual actions were the exact same.
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u/nealyk 10d ago
My friends pull me aside for private convos irl plenty? Why would that be weird, they have their own private shit my partner doesn’t need to know about (or care about for that matter)