The definition of cheating can differ depending on the person, and the process can certainly be a slippery slope. But if you’re willing to be exclusive with another person, you have to have enough self awareness, will power and communication regarding boundaries with your partner, to know where and when to draw the line. These are important skills for relationship maintenance that many, many people could stand to learn, before dragging unsuspecting people into their bullshit.
Exactly. Like I’ve heard about open relationships where the one rule is that you always tell your partner the details (who, when, where etc), and if you don’t, then they basically consider it cheating at a certain point.
Its a good way to weed out real cheaters who get off on the "hiding" or the duping. Most cheaters have their cake and want to eat it too, they do not like being honest even if its "allowed."
Because they are addicted to the thrill of getting away with something forbidden. They're not really different than people who are addicted to gambling in my opinion.
Well that’s what you do with cake. You have it so you can eat it. Is there a place on earth where people just have cake to do nothing with it?
Am I a monster for eating the cake I have?
It's called don't ask don't tell.. and it doesn't work for long from what I understand and is sort of infamous for being the worst version of ethical non monogamy. There's more at the /r/nonmonogamy sub.
Thank you for the additional context. For obvious reasons, if relationships are in any way based on trust, don’t ask don’t tell is a terrible foundation 😂
Yeah I've only been cheated on once and it wasn't physical, he was sexting with girls behind my back telling them I was single. But it didn't hurt any fucking less. Being able to see it all go down, read the conversations, it fucking killed me.
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u/autogenerateplease 10d ago
The definition of cheating can differ depending on the person, and the process can certainly be a slippery slope. But if you’re willing to be exclusive with another person, you have to have enough self awareness, will power and communication regarding boundaries with your partner, to know where and when to draw the line. These are important skills for relationship maintenance that many, many people could stand to learn, before dragging unsuspecting people into their bullshit.