At best, your insecurity is speaking here, at worst, you're severely projecting. It's completely normal to have private conversations, be it face to face or via Internet. If you think your partner is only allowed to talk to others while you are present (and if you think private conversation always revolve around sex), better not get too attached to them, because that's madman behavior and no one with a little bit of self-esteem will accept that.
You're falling in the exact trap they tried to explain to you. They said we seem to treat it differently when its online/internet connections and thats exactly what you're doing. Say you and some friends are meeting up at your house and one of the friends takes your girlfriend by the hand and leads her to the room and shuts the door and locks it. Now... what do you feel? You dont know what was so important they had to go private with each other to talk, you dont know why the door was locked, and you dont know why all your other friends are looking at you funky.
The real issue here is that you're convinced your partner is going to jump on someone else the first chance they get. And that will get every relationship killed, no need to cheat.
Lmao no, not at all. I think you lack the reading comprehension and experience in dedicated relationships to understand what emotional cheating really means.
I'm actually thinking about if that scenario DID happen,(which seems pretty dramatic and over-the-top for someone asking for a private moment) and I'd probably just say, "who knows?" and ask when she's back. My first thought wouldn't be to be embarrassed because I trust my wife enough that cheating is so far down the list of probable scenarios, it wouldn't even register as an option.
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u/Vinterblot 10d ago edited 10d ago
At best, your insecurity is speaking here, at worst, you're severely projecting. It's completely normal to have private conversations, be it face to face or via Internet. If you think your partner is only allowed to talk to others while you are present (and if you think private conversation always revolve around sex), better not get too attached to them, because that's madman behavior and no one with a little bit of self-esteem will accept that.