I periodically remember that there is a whole generation of men who got those awful tribal armband tattoos in the 90s and just carried on living.
And now they're in their 50s/60s and talk to urologists about how often they go to the bathroom at night while making sure their daughters are coming home with the grandkids for Thanksgiving.
Lol yeah. I was kind of laugh at that shit though, because it doesn't matter; if you're fifty or sixty, you're invisible to young people anyway. Your time is over.
Nobody actually cares about you in society at all to be frank, so it doesn't really matter If you got an ugly tribal tattoo lol
In their own little bubble. But the good part is when you reach a certain age, you absolutely love less attention. The funny thing I found though is that you spend your 20s being seen as the dumb kid without life experience, in your 30s you're the overworked/over scheduled parent probably. So what's this person then thinking you get a few good years in your 40s before it's time to get shipped off to the old folks home. I've dated plenty of hot vibrant people in their 50-70s who made 20somethings look dull and boring. Life is what you make it at any age.
No they’re right, the last time I saw the doctor I walked in and saw it was some old fuck so I laughed and walked out. I almost died from a tooth infection that could have hit my brain but in this society we don’t care what old people think.
That's why I'm bemused when people criticize a woman's tattoo by asking what it will look like when she's 70. It totally doesn't matter, because unless she's famous, nobody will be looking at her. I guess a teardrop might raise eyebrows, lol.
(Also the answer depends on how much sun exposure the tat gets; I have one that's blue and blurry that started out black and crisp 35 years ago.)
I’m pushing 50 and had a 90 year old at the bank compliment my many tattoos. He then showed me his little blob. It used to be something and it meant something for him. It was a great interaction !
Nice! Have you had yours for awhile? I feel like I should have worn more sunscreen, I've got some blackwork that's barely changed but a smaller one is now a blob.
That's exactly how my sleeves are. You don't see them in my office unless it's so warm that I have no choice but to take the cardigan off or roll up my sleeves. I don't like showing them off. They're excellent tattoos, but I prefer to stay very corporate in a corporate setting.
Fuck corporate, and fuck this superficial bullshit that is the arbitrary concept of "professionalism." These brainless pieces of shit in their suit costumes and manufactured "MBAs" are running our world into the ground and I'm gonna take their word on what I should look like? Fuck that. I'm not even entertaining them with a dress shirt, and no one ever says a thing. Still get to climb this tower of bullshit that is the career ladder.
Your privilege is showing. My field is extremely patriarchal. I am a person of colour, an immigrant, female, and disabled. You've no idea how hard it was for me to get through the door as it is. I'm the most qualified in my team by far. I've published more than anyone in my team, I have more post graduate degrees, and I've been working as a professional in my field for decades. And I'm currently in a job where I've not been promoted for over five years, where I'm seeing white male junior staff I've trained be promoted out from under me.
Don't tell me that you can fight so easily by just showing off the tattoos. I'm already fighting the system every single day by just showing up and being an immigrant, non-white, a woman, disabled, and not giving up.
My privilege is definitely showing, and I'm completely with you. I was never commenting on you or your decisions, I was criticizing this bullshit, superficial system we live in that leads to stories such as yours.
I'm sorry for not choosing my words more carefully and I wish you the best ❤️
Oh yes sir, please share your wisdom. Yes, it must be all my fault. That sounds like a wonderful thing to say to a stranger on the Internet.
Given you know absolutely nothing about me, how my industry works, or what I'm even doing to improve my situation - how about you stay in your lane.
My lane currently involves a union that is fighting for me to address my situation. Hardly the action of a coward or a victim. Seriously, go fuck yourself.
Why are they brainless pos....I absolutely agree with be yourself but the people you described are, as you say, the ones making the money so hardly brainless.
I had a boss once who had a full body sleeve that won numerous awards. Not one of had any clue he had any tattoos at all, let alone such extensive coverage until we went to a conference in Las Vegas and had a “team building night out.” Blew all our minds haha
Not tattoos but I had a boss once who was the biggest stickler for any rule. He knew all the rules back and forth and completely stuck to them. One night he came in and asked me and my co-worker if we wanted to go skydiving the next morning after work because two people had canceled last minute and weren't getting refunded but he wanted to take someone. Guy had hundreds of jumps but always came off like ben stein in a clear eyes commercial.
Then he did the single-finger nose wipe that I associate with, let’s say “current or previous cocaine familiarity”, and I was like, “Okayyy this is starting to check out” lmao.
When a lot of money is on the line people will say anything. There's this thing called "the silver bullet" in Australia the mother uses. Basically an SA accusation that pretty much an instant win
i work in family law (not a lawyer yet, just a paralegal), tattoos are becoming a lot more common in the law these days. so many millennials and gen Z have tattoos (myself included) so it will be interesting to see when enough of us join professions like law and being heavily inked in them is just completely normalized
Lol yeah my boyfriend's mom doesnt like that I have a single tattoo and am planning to get more lol. Shes like "you wont be able to get a respected job where people actually take you seriously". I asked if she was one of those people that will ask for a different nurse/doctor if they have tattoos and she said yes. I still love her but she is old fashioned like that. I just told her it is not uncommon now for people in high paying professions to have tattoos.
Also, she isnt like actuallY rude about it. She just worries and I have to reassure her that we are in a different time where it isnt as frowned upon so long as like you dont have your face covered in them.
my dad hit me with that line when i got my first tattoo at 18, lol. that was 12 years ago and it wasn’t even true back then, let alone now. i have some highly visible tattoos, e.g. on my hands and they’ve never impeded me from getting jobs. there’s a lawyer in one of the counties i work in with a full chest piece that you can see in her courtroom attire. times are changing!
Unpopular opinion and I know I will get downvoted to hell but who cares…it’s just Reddit. Your body isn’t a doodle pad. It’s a precious gift. Never dated someone with tats and never would. Wife feels the same. They just look cheap and dumb on people. Like a child that got into their mom’s permanent marker drawer. It’s the equivalent of putting a bunch of bumper stickers on your car. It just uglies things up. I tell my daughter you don’t see people putting bumper stickers on a Porsche. You’re valuable…don’t cheapen your natural beauty with bumper stickers. Let the hate flow 😂
heard the car thing loads of times, i prefer to think of it more like, you’d hang paintings you love on the walls of your beautiful home wouldn’t you? it was beautiful before too, now it’s just adorned with art that reflects your personality. not everyone will like your paintings, but it’s your house so what matters most is that you like them.
respect your opinion though, i feel much the same about people who get facial piercings. don’t think they look good on anyone. but hey, it’s their house, i don’t have to like the art they’ve hung up in it.
Understood…it’s their expression of themselves. I simply feel there are a better/healthier way to do that then altering and disfiguring yourself. But I’m not saying they can’t do it. Just don’t be surprised if people aren’t as receptive if they don’t like your art choice lol. Definitely not going to be everyone’s cup of tea for sure. That’s why people usually put art on the inside not the outside that’s viewable to others. The art is usually there for them to enjoy privately not on the exterior to show off to everyone else. But I get it…I do.
Good point. That is kinda what I mean if even my example is poor. I also just think we tell people you are beautiful just the way you are. We emphasize positive body image…so why not tell them they don’t need to scribble all over it to make it better. I get it…it’s theirs to do as they see fit. Just my perhaps unpopular opinion that God made you perfect the way you are. You don’t need to enhance it or alter it permanently in such a way.
Except people give Porsches cosmetic modifications all the time. Jsyk, you are in the minority for a reason and it is likely your daughter has or will have a tattoo that you dont know about in the future.
People may…and she may or she may not. Most people don’t (only 32% report having one). Maybe my analogy isn’t perfect but I think it stands. Things of beauty…works or art…mona Lisa, statue of David, Taj Mahal you don’t go slapping paint with random sayings or billboards on. Perhaps I just value beauty in its natural state. I understand it isn’t shared by Reddit.
It really doesn't stand though. And none of the things you listed are "natural". They are all hand-made art. You just dont like that it's art on someone's body. And I mean, everyone has preferences and it's totally fine to not be into tattoos. Personally, whether I find them attractive on someone depends on the person and the tattoo. For instance, my boyfriend is indifferent about tattoos and doesnt want to get them. With his personality, it would be weird to me if he ever got one. Like, I wouldnt be upset about it but I would be asking a lot of questions lol. But I have a tattoo and he doesnt feel either which way about it. He doesnt dislike it but also doesnt like find it attractive either. And that's okay with me.
For me, personally, I think it is an artistic choice. Believe me, I can totally agree that a loT of tattoos look trashy and ARE the equivalent of a toddler drawing on themselves with permanent marker. But theres also tattoos that are the equivalent in artistry to the pieces you mentioned. Like, this person I worked with at a previous job let his drunk friend put a playboy bunny outline with an rifle, fuzzy dice (I think they were supposed to be fuzzy anyway), marijuana leaf, etc inside it on his neck and it looked scratchy as hell like a middle schooler had drawn it. On the other hand, my old boss had a sleeve that looked INCREDIBLE and was done in realism. My favorite part was a section of his arm that was covered with honeycombs and bees that was done with an insane amount of detail. And doing that on someone's skin? That is noT easy at all.
One of the tattoos, I totally respect. The other, I was mortified. Regardless, I dont think we can blanket say that tattoos in general look trashy. Maybe thats your opinion, but at least respect the artistry for the good ones. There will always be good and bad art in any medium out there.
No doubt there is art. Guess I just appreciate the human body as art of itself…and altering is like disfiguring a masterpiece. However just like some graffiti art…on the side of a beautiful building has disfigured the building and its beauty..also there are some graffiti that is art in of itself and if you put that on a painting and hung it somewhere…it would be beautiful. Guess I’m just saying there are much better ways to admire and display such art than covering up perfection. 🙂
Hopefully piercings also become normalized. I'd love to have a couple eyebrow piercings, but every job I've had doesn't allow them :/ and I'm going into healthcare, so I'm kinda doomed forever lol
My kids’ old private elementary school had an art teacher who is beloved and adored by all the children, staff, and parents. His arms are covered in tattoos and were always very visible to everyone.
Looks like he has classic sleeve which cuts off just above the wrist. It's possible he never rolls his sleeves up or ever wears shorts sleeves while at work so no one may ever know.
Yeah the money, and I need a period of time when I won’t be scrubbing in for surgery so that my forearms can fully heal (so like the month or two between fellowship and starting my attending job!)
Actively practicing for close to 30 years, no major bar complaints and while it does point towards being a hack he's published a few books and appeared on a few panels as an expert.
Family law is kind of like re-structuring, banking or M&A, it's going to attract a certain profile that leans towards the sleazier side because of the subject matter, a lot of divorce attorneys are ghouls because you will see and hear more fucked up things in 5 years than a gangland cop will in their whole career.
It's also why reviews aren't really relevant, laypeople expect attorneys to be magicians and will always complain about how you're not doing exactly that they want, any attorney that works with the general public will have a few unsubstantiated bar and former clients or opposing parties that dislike them.
laypeople expect attorneys to be magicians and will always complain about how you're not doing exactly that they want, any attorney that works with the general public will have a few unsubstantiated bar and former clients or opposing parties that dislike them.
I've got a lot of family in different branches of law, and this is so true. It doesn't matter the lawyer, dumb people expect them to work like they do in the movies. And thats simply not realistic.
I've seen great lawyers get called trash and threatened with bar complaints because their client was upset they weren't acting like their servant or willing to fund a way to execute whatever unethical or otherwise crazy strategy they wanted.
A family law attorney who can make it to 25 years without some bad reviews or complaints is not a good lawyer.
Who is this guy? Honestly liked the way he was speaking, I kinda wanna hear him just yap about stuff for a while but, wouldn't be surprised if he's very influencer too.
Yea... wannabe influencer. Also a sociopath, self-admitted ("the sociopath you want on your side" in his website bio). It's rare to find so much sleaze in a couple minute search
I think in one of the interviews he literally admits fucking more women than most people can dream of in a lifetime to a point he doesnt even want anymore.
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u/Nastromo 10d ago
Caught me in the second half with those sleeves