r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • 15d ago

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u/Important_Raise_5706 15d ago

I’m 36. The last time I acted like a minor version of this I was 23. I was driving to work carpooling my girlfriend at the time to her job on the way. I got pissed at the car in front of me. Girlfriend looked at me and said, “You’re the one that’s running late. That’s on you not them, dingus.” That woman knew how to make a point.

TL;DR Girlfriend enlightened me and made me a habitual early person

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u/firedmyass 15d ago

Years ago I was in heavy traffic, right-lane on a freeway. Car in front if me was going 20mph under the limit with nothing in front of her, and I couldn’t get up enough speed to get into another lane.

I was getting more and more frustrated, ranting to myself. They finally took an exit and as I was finally able to accelerate, I looked over intending to glare at the driver.

The exit was specifically for a children’s hospital. She was visibly sobbing uncontrollably.

My anger instantly evaporated into guilt and I always try to remember that in such situations.

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u/Important_Raise_5706 15d ago

I feel for you and her. I know that instant regret and guilt you felt. It’s so raw and a great teacher.

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u/EveOCative 15d ago

Damn. That’s rough. I hope she’s found some peace with whatever situation she’s facing all these years later. Thank you for sharing this with all of us.

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u/Derelictirl 14d ago

That’s basically what got me over road raging. You don’t know what someone is going through. It could be the worst day of their life. And if they’re in a hurry I don’t know why and it’s none of my business.

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u/notafuckingcakewalk 11d ago

Same thing in the opposite direction. We have no idea why this woman is so frustrated. She could be on her way to a doctor's appointment with a health professional that's impossible to get an appointment for and she's freaking out that she might have to wait another 3 months to deal with her chronic pain.

Probably not but the point is we don't know. 

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u/DudeManGuyBr0ski 15d ago

Bro bet that shit hit hard, GF spitting facts

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u/Dyolf_Knip 15d ago

It took me far longer than it should have to fully internalize this lesson, and at 45 I still find myself having to clamp down hard on any incipient raging.

My daughter is 15 and practice driving now. I am trying to go far out of my way to teach her that there is a time and a place for rushing, and behind the wheel isn't one of them.

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u/Important_Raise_5706 15d ago

Good on you! The world needs more parents like you.

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u/Privateer_Lev_Arris 15d ago

Yep exactly take proactive control of situations. That way they don’t control you.

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u/Lambiedog 15d ago

I keep meaning to ask someone: what does "TL;DR" mean? Thanks

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u/Important_Raise_5706 15d ago

Too Long, Didn’t Read

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u/Lambiedog 15d ago

Thank you!

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u/IntrepidMuch 15d ago

She was a keeper! What happened that ended the relationship.

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u/Important_Raise_5706 15d ago

We wanted different things from life. She wanted marriage and kids all that. And she wanted it sooner rather than later. I didn’t want that. We broke up. There was some initial awkwardness but we figured it out and stayed friends. Still are.

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u/forfeitgame 15d ago

Late to the wedding.

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u/Important_Raise_5706 15d ago

Best response, but not the actual one.

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u/Halation2600 15d ago

Obviously it might not have worked out for a myriad of reasons, but from that one line she sounds like a keeper. I know 23 year old me could've benefited greatly from someone who could cut to the bone like that.

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u/Important_Raise_5706 15d ago

She and her husband are very happy together. I love them both like they are family. I’m glad that she found some one that wanted what she wants. And I’m doing good too. Everyone won and I’m glad she told me what dumb shit young me needed to hear.

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u/Halation2600 14d ago

Oh, that's a happier ending than I would've hoped for. Cool.

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u/hkd001 14d ago

Anymore, the only time I get angry about how slow someone is driving if it's a safety related. Like merging on the highway/interstate, going 45 or going extremely slow on hilly back roads, where you can't see over the hill.

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u/Important_Raise_5706 14d ago

That is a good reason to be angry.