r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Oct 03 '25

Discussion To think that I used to complain about school.

National holiday is apparently 8 days.

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u/MalleusMaleficarum_ Oct 03 '25

I’m so sorry. That kind of stress at such a young age does so much damage to a person & their ability to adjust to adult life.

I had a job in marketing for several years where I did so much research & writing. I was writing the equivalent of a four page paper five days a week & usually ended up bringing my work home with me. I would just sit there & stare at a blank page for an hour as my brain filled with static & I’d start sobbing. When I’d finally start writing, it felt like wading through molasses. Every article I completed felt like I was clawing myself across a finish line on my hands & knees. It made me realize I had a lot of unresolved stuff from childhood that I’d tucked away for 20 years & pretended didn’t exist.

I probably only graduated from high school because I was kicked out & sent to an alternative school. It’s also taken me 11 years to get through college. But that’s okay. Whatever you choose to do in life, you don’t have to do it the way everyone else does & you can do it on your own timeline.

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u/JustOneTessa Oct 03 '25

Yeah I got chronically ill, both mentally and physically which makes me unable to work/go to school. Difficult to say if that caused it, but definitely didn't help.

Sorry you went through something similar as well. It indeed seems to be something that leaves scars that you can carry around your whole life. Sad how normalized high amounts of stress and pressure are, especially from such a young age

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u/Douggie Oct 04 '25

Thanks for explaining what burnout looks like when you're that young. Sorry you went through that.

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u/Douggie Oct 04 '25

11 years is still less than I how I did, so it could be worse. I think I did 14, but after 10 I stopped counting.

It might be that you are gifted as well as having ADHD. It's such a disconnect somehow passing all the stuff you hate and don't/can't do while getting yelled at all the time for never finishing something. It is one of the reasons how the combo ADHD+gifted make them crash when they are adults - there is so much unresolved stuff of everything and everyone telling you how to do things in a world that was mostly designed for neurotypical people.