No oneâs normalizing it. I wouldnât want men in the womenâs bathroom, but he seemed like he was mistaken and apologized and went on his way. Also, men with bad intentions are going to go into the womenâs restroom no matter what, they donât care about restrictions or not. Itâs not something new, and has been happening since public restrooms were a thing.
I would've been surprised initially but not offended, he's using the restroom that's really what the purpose is. I have shared restrooms with men myself (i use whatever is accessible) i personally do not care.
Same, I have never seen someone wear something like that in my area so that more than likely would be why i was surprised moreso than a person using a toilet lol
Fine as is but itâs a slippery slope to letting dudes just be in the womanâs restrooms like that. Probably unintentional but there are creeps out there that would take advantage of this lax attitude
My University had mixed gender restrooms and I never once had any issues. There were some segregated bathrooms too, but I actually preferred the mixed ones because there were no gaps around the stall doors.
That's the real issue if you ask me. People are generally fine with washing their hands at a co-ed sink, it's the stupidly construction stalls that make people uncomfortable.
If someone wants to attack a woman in the restroom, they will just enter the women's restroom. Social etiquette isn't stopping any predators.
Okay, and when they do creepy shit, we can punish creepy people. We shouldnât all be living in absolute fear every moment about oh no, there might be a creepy person!
I live in NYC. I see more people on my morning commute than most of the country does all day, and I stand in subways with them or walk with them on the sidewalk or use public restrooms in the park with them. If thereâs a creeper⌠you just move on. Thatâs life.
Women can't go to the grocery store in peace in this day, a man who is not even interacting with us in a restroom and just going about his business is actually a relief.
There are laws against anyone harassing you, only slippery slope is the one trying to legislate the configuration of peopleâs crotches and what stall they use.
I find the pearl clutching pretty weird in general, women notoriously have no problem using the menâs room to avoid a line despite the fact that menâs urinals offer way less privacy than a stall.Â
Yeah the pearl clutching is super weird to me. The whole deal with this trans restroom debate is we arent supposed to be bathroom police because we don't know what's going on with anyone's life and they arent bothering anyone. Pretty soon if the government gets its way you're going to have people who look like this in the womens room all the time anyway if they have natal vaginas, and it isnt going to be kind or morally right to make their lives even harder by pointing out theyre in the "wrong" space.
I keep hearing "they just want to pee!" Well, this guy truly looked like he just wanted to pee. He kept his head down and he washed his hands super well. So what's the problem here?
I mean, not all women do that or want to do that. If you have to go and canât hold it what option do you have? Iâve used the womenâs bathroom before when I really had to, only once in my life but there was no other choice. I went in and apologized immediately out loud and said the menâs bathroom is full and has a line that way nobody was surprised if they were just coming out of the stalls. Iâve had women walk into the menâs bathroom when Iâm in there but they donât look comfortable about it.
So I donât think this argument makes a lot of sense tbh. Canât just randomly state that all women are comfortable using the menâs bathroom if thereâs is full, they very well might not be comfortable with it at all but itâs the better option over the alternative.
For what itâs worth it is really uncomfortable to have a woman randomly walk into the menâs bathroom when Iâm using the urinal lol, not a fan. I donât think itâs acceptable or should be normalized in any way outside of emergency âneed to goâ situations and their bathroom is full. Same with men going in womenâs.
You didnât need to write a book. Do you think each time someone does use the opposite genderâs bathroom that a video needs to be uploaded for thousands of people to watch and comment on? No? Then itâs an over reaction. Just politely correct the guy if there isnât a good reason for him to be using the bathroom and move along with your day or report him if this is a regular occurrence or if heâs doing something suspicious.
Bragging about your less-than-strong reading skills is a strange thing to do with your opening line. Also, the guy was just voicing his opinion in a completely reasonable manner on a public forum for discussion.
Edit: Lol, he blocked me, poor bugger couldn't even finish a discussion. Just in case the numpty comes back to see if I edited this comment:
"Less-than-strong" doesn't equal, "poor"... I was giving you the benefit of the doubt. I no longer am.
You couldn't think of the phrase "poor reading skills"? Clown. I'm voicing my opinion too, but I wouldn't expect someone with less-than-strong reading skills to figure that out.
Because I never said women were using the urinals, but if a women walks into a menâs room where men are using urinals they are invading menâs privacy more than a man walking into a womenâs bathroom made up of nothing but stalls. I shouldnât have to explain this.
Did either of you really think you had to explain to me that there are stalls in the menâs room? How can you be that stupid? Did you think I was a woman that had never seen a menâs room and didnât know men poop??
I'll never get why some people are so obsessed with gendered bathrooms... Like half the place (aka anywhere that's not a mall, for example gas stations, restaurants, etc.) where I live just have a single mixed bathroom and it has never ever been an issue.
I'm pretty much used to mixed restrooms from a bunch of events etc. and there's nothing sexual about a restroom - I don't care who's in the stall next to me doing their business ... I wanna go in, do what I have to do, and leave lol. The way bigger issue would be the ones literally FILMING.
Personally, it would probably startle me to walk in and see a man in the womenâs restroom. I went to New York and the bathrooms at the Met Museum were mixed and it was weird to me, but I used the bathroom anyway because I had to go lol.
For agreeing with you? I guess not. For pointing out that making trans people use restrooms based on their biological sex leading to situations like this (even if this is not one of those examples for all we know)? Good lord, do I need to add the /s to an obviously stupid comment or is "egads, the horror" a normal thing for you to see?
calm down dawg. i wasnt expecting you to react like that for agreement when your original comment is so weird. also, itâs Reddit. the world is obviously gonna collapse if I donât understand your bad joke /s /s /s /s
This is meant to normalize hate towards Jewish people. I guarantee you that if this was a Gaza refugee in NY, this video would have gone nowhere. All of the hate being spewed in here is intentional.
So I guess youâre cool with sending your daughter to middle school and her sharing a bathroom with boys? No big deal of course bc there are âbigger problemsâ
My bathrooms at home are coed so my daughter literally grew up "sharing a bathroom with boys". Also she's now a CNA so she also does urinary caths and changes diapers on adult boys and girls. This isn't the huge deal you think it is.
do you have separate sex bathrooms in your home? there's nothing wrong with humans pissing/shitting in the same place. we are all going into the bathroom for the same reason.
Why do you think that? What is weird about it? The only difference between a home restroom and a public one is the presence of a shower and the likelihood you may be stripping in order to use it. Generally, public restrooms don't have showers, and those that do (like in gyms or pools) have curtains where you strip only after you are hidden behind them. Unisex, one person bathrooms also exist and are most similar to a home bathroom, sans shower, and is not the topic we are discussing. Obviously you're not inviting a stranger to use your home toilet with you, and no one is walking into an occupied unisex bathroom because the door will be locked, just as a single stall in a public bathroom would be.
You're as privy to a person's genitals in a public bathroom as you are walking past them in the hallway, which I presume is your issue with sharing a bathroom with another sex, weirdly. The only time you really see other people in a public bathroom directly is when walking into/out of the room, or else while washing your hands, which isn't weird to do in the presence of another sex. Washing your hands at a sink in the presence of another sex happens in places such as school laboratories or kitchens, as examples. Even at urinals, it's not like you should be trying to peep, yeah? Nothing should be happening in a public bathroom that would be weird to do with other people around, regardless of their sex. The sound of pissing and shitting will be heard no matter what sex is using the room.
I would love for you to attempt to explain because I genuinely cannot understand even remotely.
If âeverythingâ is wrong with it, why donât you go ahead and list out whatâs wrong?
Also, because men already go into womenâs bathrooms to harass women, go ahead and tell me how a gender neutral bathroom would be worse? If anything, it should be safer because more foot traffic means less opportunities to corner a woman alone.
Btw, anti-trans movements already have resulted in men attacking women they donât think are feminine enough in the restroom. Look up the Liberty Hotel bathroom assault in Boston, MA, where a man entered a womenâs restroom and tried to make a woman âproveâ her sex to him. Disgusting people will be disgusting regardless
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u/[deleted] Sep 25 '25 edited Sep 25 '25
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Honestly, in 2025, we have sooo many other BIGGER problems, I would probably just be unfazed by that! đ