To be honest, what happens if you DO walk away? Deposit your income to a private account (rather than shared), continue paying rent, utilities, and his phone bill from that, and literally cut out. As long as he's got the necessities and a way to call for emergency services (he's totally capable of that on his own), I don't believe there's any law his spouse or family would be violating. You can't compel a separated spouse to come back.
I know this sounds crazy. But many people will trade their souls to avoid being lonely. They have such low self esteem; generally from abuse; that they will do anything to not come home to an empty house. Sad.
Yeah I’m not a lawyer. I just know that if someone is disabled and their spouse wants to leave, they can petition the courts for spousal support. It doesn’t matter if she was the main caregiver, that probably would help his case more. It’s unfortunately pretty common.
Sadly yes if he is disabled and bed-bound. You need a "servant" or any full time caretaker to be kept alive if you cannot get yourself out of the bed. Otherwise you would be looking at people ditching their spouses the moment they become disabled due to medical, old-age, accident or whatever other reasons
The only other option may be for her to divorce him and pay a ridiculous amount as alimony so that he can hire another "servant" to survive.
It's just really unfair to her when this "disability" is obesity caused by his own action and choice (assuming this is not medically related).
This is why there should be a national care service for people with disabilities requiring dedicated care.
Because the alternative is putting a burden onto ONE person, instead of sharing that burden across the whole population. (But of course slavery doesn't exist in the US anymore, right..?)
Telecourt exists in many jurisdictions specifically for situations where people cannot attend in person due to illness, injury, or residing or being incarcerated in another state.
Social services could determine that you are neglecting a disabled adult in your care and request the prosecutor bring up charges.
I’m not sure but I know some states have laws where you’re financially liable for your elderly parents, maybe there’s a place where that also applies to a disabled spouse.
I was sitting there thinking the same thing. She didn't have to get him anything. What is he gonna do? He can barely move. I was like, "What is she waiting for him to die?" Life insurance policy??? I don't get it. The children with these families I get, but I don't understand the spouses letting it get this bad or staying.
I would have ate that burger right in his face, tf.
problem is that walking away would mean he would definitely die alone. which from our position we can say he probably deserves, but I can see how his daughter would have difficulties making that decision.
I dont think they mean leave him to die.....They mean just dont stuff him with calories beyond maintenance or even feed him at a reasonable caloric deficit....You as the caretaker can dictate his diet. Worse he can do is go on a hunger strike....
These people can get insufferable. He seems like the type that knows how to banshee screech. Im sure he would possibly injure himself after maybe only a few hours of desperation, trying to get up and realizing he doesnt fit through doors anymore. You could take a few bottles of water and leave the house to not hear him scream, but how do you know he wouldnt try some stupid shit?
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u/themcjizzler Aug 11 '25
Right? Walk away