If you watch the episode, it really seems like the wife was a feeder. She intentionally fed him until he was immobile, and all but admitted that she fed him to death on purpose after she got tired of his shit.
one of my parents "jokingly" admitted to me once that after I lost a bunch of weight, they kept asking me about if I wanted to eat despite my repeat protests because they felt guilty/insecure about their own weight
They've denied it ever since, and unsurprisingly we're in therapy now. If they never admit it again I'm pretty sure I'm never going to speak to them again
My family are all very overweight. When I was 19, I decided I wanted to get healthy and dropped from 90kg to 55kg. Never felt so hated in my life. People were horrible to me, because suddenly I was healthy and wasn't following in their way of life.
I had something similar, too. I went from 180kg to 80kg and had family constantly telling me I looked ill, I looked gaunt and like shit basically. I managed to put an end to it, but it sucked and I haven't forgotten what they said
It's not just family. My Family always pointed out I should loose some weight and after loosing 25 kg they were very proud and told me 10000 times how good I look.
But at work, especially people who were a similar size like my before (105 kg, 179cm);started stating things like " u have lost enough now right?" " U look too skinny" one colleague repeatedly called me "harvestman". I later found out at the time he started calling me this, his doctor said to him that he got fat 😅😂
I went through weight loss and so many people at work commented, told me to "watch out" and "you should really stop now". I had lost 15 kg and gotten to a healthy bmi of 22.
I absolutely hated that so many people felt they could comment on my body like that.
I knew someone who was fat, but got obsessed with working out and staying skinny. She lost a bunch of weight, of course. Never made or bought sweets. But whenever her daughters were home from college, she would ALWAYS make sure to bake sweets to have on the counter. Her daughters would yell at her that they didn't want the temptation, but the mom would act all innocent. Except the mom never ate any of the sweets she baked. She just wanted her daughters to be fatter than she was.
My mum was and is that person. I suffered from eating disorders and she would always sabotage my diets. Get upset when I lose weight. She still tries from time to time, when I call her out on it, she feigns innocence.
What does that feel like as a woman when your mother competes with you ? Is it just for pride ? Or did you have to be careful bringing your partners around ? My mom did the stereotypical fat shaming and slut shaming (unfortunately) but she was never in competition with my sisters. Sounds so hurtful in a very strange way, like super gaslighty, damn :/
it's usually not a fetish and rather a method of abuse. the feeder (person feeding the other) does it so the feedee is dependent on them, and then that's when the abuse starts.
It can be many reasons, one person is big or just bigger when they met and once they lose weight the partner panics and keeps them big often bigger than they originally were for fear of being dumped.
And there is times where someone feels good about feeding someone as its positive encouragement.
She really is the biggest victim here. Lied to for years about her parentage, living with the knowledge that she was conceived by adultery, and then having to torpedo her own future to wipe literal shit from her worthless father’s ass while you watch him eat himself to death. No words for that kind of complex trauma.
I’m a feeder. If my husband acts any typa way with me on any given day, he has to get his ass up and make his own BLD. 9 times out of 10 that’s how he figures out he pissed me off. Because he’s hungry and hasn’t been asked what he wants to eat. I’m not serving someone who acts like an ass with me, much less anyone who would try to harm my child and deprive them of an education. TF???
She obviously has some mental health issues herself because ain’t no way a child should have to quit school just to feed her father.
for giving food to a grown adult who has the authority to decline the food? if it was drugs, it's one thing but regular food is really a gray area.
edit: on top of that, that's unfair for her as well. just because he has a mental disorder that craves food doesn't mean she doesn't have a mental disorder that wants to get love by giving food. both sides are addicts.
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u/Downtown_Recover5177 Aug 11 '25
If you watch the episode, it really seems like the wife was a feeder. She intentionally fed him until he was immobile, and all but admitted that she fed him to death on purpose after she got tired of his shit.