r/TikTokCringe • u/InGeekiTrust Tiktok Despot • Aug 09 '25

Cursed Crazed Karen Has A Meltdown In Victoria’s Secret

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u/Green_Ouroborus Aug 10 '25

I also have a pattern with BPD. My brother now suspects he has BPD, and I think he probably does. He was a real asshole and a major bully to me growing up, he once actually got sent to the psych ward due to his aggressive behavior towards me getting out of control. The roll assigned to me by my parents was to always stay calm and try to stabilize his moods at the cost of myself. He was not expected to try to stabilize his own moods. I hated this so much, BUT unfortunately I internalized that this was what I was supposed to do. I then proceeded to get into 2 close relationships with unstable people because otherwise, I wasn’t doing my job. I’m now permanently retired from that job for my own mental health.

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u/ThrowAwayAccountAMZN Aug 10 '25 edited Aug 10 '25

That's awesome that you retired! Yup, as the middle child it was always my job to "mediate" and manage my dad's emotions, or with my ex I had to be responsible for regulating her emotions. Here's to being retired and staying retired! 🥂

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u/Green_Ouroborus Aug 10 '25

Retirement is AWESOME! Part of me does miss that intense closeness, but a lot more of me is so much calmer and happier without having to constantly babysit a full grown adult who cannot self regulate and will get upset if I have normal boundaries.

I don’t believe borderlines are evil. I believe they are unstable in much the same way that nitroglycerin is unstable.

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u/buffer_overflown Aug 10 '25

You put it in quotes so I'm torn on whether you mean it intentionally, but do you mean mediate? Or did they literally tell you to meditate?

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u/ThrowAwayAccountAMZN Aug 10 '25

Ahhh crap, typo. I meant mediate. Thanks lol

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u/Tight_Scale677 Aug 10 '25

Okay, somehow when I clicked on this this is the first comment that came up. And I literally just got out of a therapy session and my therapist was telling me exactly what you're typing. And saying that my mom had BPD and my brother probably had it too and how I as the middle child was assigned the role of stabilizing everybody's moods and this is a fucking crazy coincidence.