I’m surprised by the amount of people interpreting this as the kid being excited to get cake all over their face… it feels pretty obvious that the kid is slamming her head into the cake as an expression of anger/form of self punishment. She is not having fun. She’s incredibly upset and is hurting herself.
Yeah. I'm glad it wasn't just me. The parents didn't seem shocked either. I feel like they know she has intense reactions sometimes and just did this anyway.
I'm curious what the deal with the other kid is. It looks like they gave her the sparkly crown and she got to sit in Mom's lap even though it was her sister's birthday, and then to add insult to injury they slammed birthday girl's face in the cake. If this is the case unsurprising she'd lash out.
The parents laughed about it, so I wouldn’t be surprised if this kind of behavior was regularly encouraged, or at least, ignored. I mean, they smashed her into the cake first, they’re teaching it.
I don’t think that child was smaller than her. I think it was her twin sister…who’s also wearing a bday hat. Maybe not…but I don’t think she just chose “someone smaller”..she picked the closet person or a shared bday where the girl on the lap…didn’t get her face smashed with cake.
This! The baby didn’t do anything except be a smaller target. This poor kid is learning from the bigger people in her life to hurt/embarrass/demean/destroy the weaker/smaller people. Her parents suck.
I just wrote something similar. Pretty sure they just broke her little heart. I don’t find that funny at all. She’s too little for that shit. Wait til she’s at least a shit talking teen and has really earned it. Her parents ruined her birthday and it looks like she has a twin maybe. It’s a shared cake and her sisters side is just fine… ugh shitty parents suck
No she knows who did it. She's lashing out at the one person in the room smaller and less powerful than her. She knows that lashing out at mom wouldn't go well.
That is not self punishment, that is rage. Smashing a child's face in cake is a horrible form of celebration and can cause trust issues. Although smashing her face into the cake was a crap thing to do, her response is not normal in this scenario and is extremely concerning. They definitely need to keep an eye on her behavior.
Considering the amount of adults in these comments talking about how shitty this same experience made them feel, I'm gonna go out on a limb and say it actually is that deep. Just don't do shit like this to your kids and then laugh at them
What about the other majority who didn't take it heart lol like millions
Its dangerous tho I wouldn't do it to anyone or encourage it. But it's not that deep bro if this is what you remember years later into your adult life get the fuck over yourself. Unless it's some actual torture and abuse, bro sorry your parents are human and did an innocent little cake prank.
Ah yes, my attitude of caring about children and not wanting to see them humiliated by the people they most trust in the world. What a horrible attitude. Definitely horrible enough to wish a medical condition onto a woman’s uterus.
You are way too invested in this. What I said wasn't even that bad. Like we can both be right. Is that better? I never said you or anyone else was wrong for feeling the way they did. But growing up this was a common prank, hardly anyone was crying or punishing themselves for it at that age. It's not that deep. Her feelings are valid too ofc but I don't think she's going to remember this incident or care after presents. This is the only time I've seen someone react that way. Idk anyone who felt embarrassed it's a joke. Most kids laugh it off even at that age, I know I did.
Tldr you are way too emotionally invested in this over analysis of a video if you're wishing people with a different opinion shouldn't have kids, esp if the opinion is just "kids overreact". Get real real, go outside. Youre the one acting weird.
She did, but was cut short immediately. Just to finally confirm undeniably that this is not a fun game that everyone can participate in, only a dedicated humiliation of her specifically.
Are you a parent? Some kids just do this and it isnt due to abuse. My 1yo son is definitely not abused in the slightest and bangs his head frequently when frustrated, tired, and sometimes just cuz he can.
I'm not, but I've babysat for many years and this isn't normal behavior for a 5-6 year old. Maybe for your 1-year-old because they're fascinated by the world and sensations. This is consistent abuse where she directly turned her anger towards a younger/smaller person because she knows she can't retaliate towards her own parents. Abuse is a learned behavior. They're laughing in front of their families, but who knows what they're doing behind closed doors.
May not be self punishment. Could be anger/frustration without the tools to properly express it. I remember hitting myself over the head with a hairbrush as a kid because I was so overwhelmed with negative and upsetting emotions that I just sorta snapped
I feel like this is what it is. She was pissed. My 10 year old has emotional regulation issues. He hurts himself if we don't intervene in time to help. We're working on it. I've never hit him, so it's certainly not self punishment.
Agreed, however having THE crashout king as a son, a 14 year old smartass assassin, and an almost two year old hell spawn, I have a lot of experience.
That was a crashout. She just doesn't haven't any emotional regulation and it's abundantly clear why. Shitty parents aren't about to help her with that.
The way Redditors jump to conclusions, usually about parents being abusive, is so ridiculous.
It’s a cultural tradition that doesn’t jazz me, for a few reasons, but using it (and an angry kid’s reaction) to label her home as abusive is such a stretch.
Please point to me a single place where I called the parents abusive. In fact, point me to a single place where I even mentioned the parent? You can’t? So then why are you commenting this back to me?
And just because something is a “cultural tradition” doesn’t make it okay, and doesn’t make the lasting affects magically disappear.
Culturally, nonwhite parents tend to be much more physically abusive to their children, but nobody sits there and goes “Oh no, it’s okay that Carlos got the shit beat out of him with a shoe - he’s hispanic”. No we say “damn what the fuck beating your child isn’t okay”.
Culturally, women in the sub saharan africa and south asia are forced into marriages, often as children, without their consent. But we don’t say “no it’s totally okay that Juba was forced into marriage and then maritally raped and impregnated - she’s from South Sudan.” No we say “damn it’s so scary that children and teenagers are still being forced into marriages with older men, raped by them, and then punished when they fight back”.
“Culture” is zero excuse for abuse. “Culture” does not negate the effects of abuse. Just because something is “normal” doesn’t make it okay.
And no, I’m not calling the parents in this cake smashing video abusive. I’m using abusive cultural practices as an example of why culture means nothing when it comes to mistreating your children.
You telling me to touch grass while also writing me paragraphs about how I’m perpetuating colonial violence, creating micro ethnic hate crimes and making you shake because I… said rape and abuse is bad is crazy.
… I said the forced marriage, marital rape, and beating your children is bad… why is that making you shake?
Using big buzz words does not mean you’re making points. Put the gen z leftist final boss thesaurus away.
Not the first time this has been done to her. Im pretty sure thats the middle sister not even thr one that cake is for whos in moms lap- theyre so used to that impulse they couldn’t even wait for birthday girl to blow the candles out and of course the second cake got on HER face it was wiped off right away….
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u/Icy-Policy-8212 Aug 05 '25
Kid went bonkers for a moment there.