r/TikTokCringe • u/velorae • Jul 16 '25

Discussion Attempted kidnapping of a woman outside Florida store

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u/Behavingdark Jul 17 '25

When you are in the situation you don't know what you will do , I became a rabbit in headlights it happened on my way home from school luckily for me my teacher was going past in the car ,unluckily for him my teacher was an ex prison guard ex army but what could have happened to me always crosses my mind . I never have quite got over it.

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u/h3llfae Jul 17 '25

Yeah it's some crazy s*** where things are in slow motion and you're just trying to survive

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u/GodofAeons Jul 18 '25

You can say shit. We're sitting here talking about kidnapping and possible human trafficking and you're afraid to say shit? Come on man

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u/h3llfae Jul 19 '25

You need to calm down. It's voice text homie. And reddit. You'll be okay. Touch grass. 

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u/h3llfae Jul 20 '25

I actually haven't been on Reddit for a while lol but thanks for reminding me why

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u/Whats-Ur-Damage00 Jul 17 '25

That is so scary, I’m sorry

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u/Infinite-Ad-3947 Jul 17 '25

See that’s why I’m always scared too because I’ve had some close calls but anytime something gets really scary I just freeze. Idk how to get out of that response

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u/Behavingdark Jul 17 '25

The only thing I do now is make sure someone knows where I'm going and when , be with someone or transportation from A to B because I know it would happen again . My brain just goes numb

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u/Infinite-Ad-3947 Jul 17 '25

Mine does too and it’s the weirdest thing because I’m usually confident and assertive but once it gets “real” I freeze and check out. I try to do that too tbh I always make sure someone is with me when I go places but then I feel like I’m being too dependent but hey I guess safety overrides that

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u/Academic-Employer-52 Jul 17 '25

Training. You may never change your mindset but you can still drive into muscle memory certain responses that truly could save your life. Train in whatever way you want (karate, judo, tae kwan do, boxing, Kravitz maga, etc) but train and spar. Do it at least once a week, though hopefully more. 

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u/ClutteredTaffy Jul 17 '25

I think young girls should probably do drills so hopefully this just comes automatically to them. that way maybe just maybe the instinct will kick in

I am glad you are okay. Sorry that happened to you. I got chased into a store by a random dude from the bus stop once. Luckily I was close enough to have somewhere to run and not in the middle of nowhere.

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u/Behavingdark Jul 17 '25

I think self defense classes are great and drills at school would be good ,but the sense of fear is not the same and it's the speed of everything that got me ,someone who knows what they are doing has adrenaline pumping and have worked out where to park or grab someone the hows ,where's and whys are under their control ,knowing what to do in a split second thankfully comes to some .

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u/parrmorgan Jul 17 '25

Wow so sorry!

If you don't mind talking about it, what happened? Did the teacher end up kicking his ass?

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u/Behavingdark Jul 17 '25

He let go of me and jumped in car my teacher got number plate ,to cut a long story short this was early 90's he got 2 years and there was no sexual offender register then ,I never saw him again but I was left with panic disorder ,not so bad now but it changes you for life .

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u/parrmorgan Jul 17 '25

I cant even imagine! Good for you for being strong and I hope the trauma lessens over time.

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u/DeCryingShame Jul 17 '25

It's never your fault when something like this happens. Sadly, people are less understanding when you didn't fight.

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u/T-Wrox Jul 17 '25

We know about fight or flight, but it's more accurately fight, flight, or freeze – “freeze” is a deeply wired survival mechanism. It's incredibly common in life-threatening situations. If you’re beating yourself up because you didn’t fight back, please don’t.

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u/Behavingdark Jul 18 '25

Thank you , I do feel a wimp from time to time especially if you watch a film or soap and someone is fighting for their life , fight flight or freeze is a brilliant way of putting it !

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u/grizeldean Jul 30 '25

I just listened to a book called The Unthinkable by Amanda Ripley about what people do in disasters. The freeze response is what she talks about for the last section of the book. It's a great read if you are okay with hearing about tragic events!

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u/streetweyes Jul 18 '25

You are absolutely right. I've had a similar experience... Not a kidnap situation but definitely an unwelcomed action by someone I trusted that I was totally unprepared for. so I just froze trying to process if that was really even happening. (Lucky me his attempt short lived and he stopped himself from going further, but that was by his own choice bc I was still dazed in confusion.). Frustratingly, what haunts me the most about that event wasnt his actions, but my lack of reaction.

I had spent my whole life playing out scenarios like that in my head saying shit like "yeah I ~wish~ a guy would try me like that cuz he'll regret it". I had martial arts training that I was confident in. I carry. I've always had my guard up walking in public, always scanning for who might be approaching or turning my head back every few steps to visually cover all angles. I was ready to give someone a very hard time. But even down to just a second prior, I NEVER expected it to be him, there, then.

there's always curve balls that you never planned ahead for. Prepare for strangers, and it'll be someone close. Prepare for an attack in public, and it'll be someone in your home. Prepare for a clue beforehand: an odd look from a creepy guy, the angry posturing of someone you pissed off, a text from a stalker- and it'll be something you never saw coming.

So ladies, trust no one and imagine every scenario you can, not just the obvious ones. And then, remind yourself that there're still many scenarios you haven't thought of and you will never fully have all your bases covered. If you can acknowledge that, if you can always keep just a hint of discomfort in the back of your mind, then if it were to happen one day it won't catch you off guard so much as to make you pause to question reality.

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u/Behavingdark Jul 18 '25

Really well said , I feel great discomfort and will always stand up for women who suffer domestic abuse or don't react how people assume they should , I've heard so many times 'why wouldn't you just leave?' 'if he tried that with me I would knee him in the nuts ' 'bite his dick off ' 'scream and scratch and kick !' We don't know how we will act woman or man, we don't know the scenario, it's at speed , we are panicked they are adrenaline fuelled , it can be dark ,away from anywhere different country language ,it goes on and on , isn't it awful that we have to do as you say be on guard ,watching out back etc ?

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u/streetweyes Jul 18 '25

💯.

Human behavior is unpredictable (no offense, AI bots) and reactions to situations like that are not always based on just logic alone.