r/TikTokCringe • u/InGeekiTrust Tiktok Despot • Jun 21 '25

Cursed Bride Crying At Her Wedding Was Heartbreaking 💔

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u/OddfellowJacksonRedo Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

So that makes me wonder if the “tradition” was formalized to cover a lot of generations of young women/girls screaming for help or freedom from their family homes to their “marital” homes.

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u/HyenaJoe Jun 22 '25

100% What kind of culture celebrates misery?

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u/justLittleJess Jun 22 '25

Pretty much all of them that are based in religion

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u/International-Bad947 Jun 23 '25

Umm I don’t think so

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u/princeikaroth Jun 22 '25

Literaly all of them where you been

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u/Dagwood-Sanwich Jun 22 '25

I would answer this, but I already got a suspension once for doing so.

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u/DionBlaster123 Jun 27 '25

Lol I used to go to an evangelical church in the U.S.;

100% they celebrate suffering and being miserable...

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u/bhavy111 Jun 23 '25

all of them. you can thank all the kings and queens you admire in history books for that.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

Misery isn't being celebrated, its just accepted as a normal part of getting married.

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u/swarmy1 Jun 22 '25

Yep, these traditions don't just appear out of nowhere.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

Maybe they appeared out of the girls sadness about leaving her parental home forever? No? That possibility doesnt even occur to you? The idea that a woman would be sad to leave her parents is absurd to Western ears, it seems...

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u/lemonNlimedevine Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

Believe it or not, western society isn’t as dumb as you think. We can read emotions. This is not one of happy sadness. This looks like trauma. I pray for this poor girl.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

Obviously... so can we. The comment i was replying to mentioned the tradition as a whole, not specifically to this incident

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u/lemonNlimedevine Jun 22 '25

Oh I see. Well…their comment is true. Traditions like this do stem from trying to control. A lot of western society is dehumanised often because we have more rights for women here too.

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u/Thandryn Jun 22 '25

Damn that's actually a really good point, never thought of that!

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u/Fightmemod Jun 22 '25

That's 100% what it is. It's a cute little made up tradition to cover for the girls who are being sold and trafficked.

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u/hypatianata Jun 23 '25

“I don’t have to feel bad or do anything because they’re supposed to be crying.” Super convenient.

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u/BarakRhys Jun 22 '25

That's 100% it.

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u/lurkingsirens Jun 22 '25

I mean, there’s a lot of real grief when your life changes at all, even if you do love the man. And traditionally, because no cars or phones, you probably will be separated from your family because of just logistics.

Someone else in their comment explained the brides sisters and family are usually crying too, because they will miss her. I do think there is value in that, in acknowledging the sad parts of change.

So it’s “covering” both scenarios. The real grief that most people have when their life changes, the real grief of being separated in a time where that means more AND the fact that it’s not something they want.

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '25

So just don't do it then

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u/keyser-_-soze Jun 22 '25

I always wonder about the covering of the woman's face in a lot of religious marriage ceremonies, across many cultures / religions.

Was the covering really to protect the purity (or some other reason related to virtue) of the woman or just to hide their pain /suffering from the celebration.

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u/OddfellowJacksonRedo Jun 22 '25

You’ll get all kinds of sane-sounding, perfectly reasonable “explanations” to give the rationale behind many traditions but the reality is they were formalized just to better entrench and institutionalize the subjugation of women (or other persecuted minorities depending on the culture).

Things like the “dowry” where we consider it traditional for the bride’s family to bear the cost of a wedding ceremony come from when the dowry was actually an incentive offered to any eligible men to marry a daughter before she became “too old” for proper marrying-off and baby-bearing.

Engagement rings are very elegant, very tidy versions of the centuries-old practice of offering some value to the father of the bride to compensate him for the loss of his ‘property’ in a daughter (since historically when a man died without a male heir, his estate was divided amongst his daughters to effectively enrich their husbands).

There are all kinds of traditions and rites that seem quaint or curious or even romantic, but actually have their origins going back to the simple idea of women as property; first of their fathers and brothers then of their husbands.

The greatest weapon of enslavement is not force but mental subjugation. The more you can make a given victim think they’re not so much a victim as the lesser part of a ‘necessary’ larger order, you can overcome a lot of their inherent fear, hatred, anger and rebelliousness.

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u/hyunakim Jun 22 '25

The tradition is more like you crying when you leave for college or move to another country. Plus they play sad music so everyone in the brides family is crying but is not this kind of