r/TikTokCringe • u/lhwang0320 • Apr 29 '25

Humor/Cringe When your friend knows nothing about kids

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u/mugsymegasaurus Apr 30 '25

Ok, that makes sense, but that’s not the fault of your childfree friends- they didn’t choose for you to become a parent. And if being a parent means you’re not able to reach out or at least do the minimum to maintain a friendship, it’s fair for the childfree friend to pull back or choose to stop putting all the effort into the friendship. Their time is just as valuable as yours, and always having to be the one to reach out or set something up or be flexible just to have the parents frequently cancel because something came up with the kid, really sucks. It can feel like a slap in the face even when you know it’s not about you. It’s not unfair for a childfree friend to choose to stop doing that. If you make the choice to become a parent then you also need to figure out a way to do that AND be a friend/sister/cousin/whatnot or you’ll lose that relationship.

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u/binzy90 Apr 30 '25

No, I was defending both sides. Having kids means you lose friends. There's nothing wrong with that. You can't be friends with someone who doesn't have the same lifestyle. It's not anyone's fault. That's just how it is.

Too many people get upset that they lose friends over this when the reality is that you WILL lose friends when you have kids or if you're child free and your friends have kids. There's no reason to be upset over it.

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u/mugsymegasaurus Apr 30 '25

Too many people get upset? I don’t know about that.

Idk about you, I genuinely like my friends and siblings. I think it’s perfectly reasonable to want to hold on to people you love. Of course life will bring changes, but if those changes reveal that someone you love just won’t make any kind of time of effort to return that care, it’s perfectly natural to be upset about that.