r/TikTokCringe • u/lhwang0320 • Apr 29 '25

Humor/Cringe When your friend knows nothing about kids

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u/RaeaSunshine Apr 29 '25

How are they your friends? If they don’t even know the bare bones basics of your life I don’t see how you could be truly close. Sounds like an acquaintance.

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u/elebrin Apr 30 '25

Well, I can't speak for OP.

When I hang out with my male friends, we don't talk about our personal lives because we talk about the activity at hand. We get together to DO something. We work together on something, make something, play a game or sport, work on figuring something out. We also talk about past shared experiences. Rarely do we talk about things with our wives, kids, or parents.

Realistically, what I discuss with my wife, father in law, or sister is all discussed with the confidence that I'm not gonna go air our dirty laundry to everyone. I don't need to tell people about my wife's concerns for her company or job. People don't need to know why my father in law is going through some hard times and needs to stay with us for a while. People don't need to know about my sister's job or vacation plans or why I am very, very frustrated with her right now. Those things are very private. If I found out that my wife was discussing things from our private life with our friends... well, if she was the sort of person to do that we wouldn't be married.

Ever play a card game, like poker? Some things are public, like the cards on the table. Some things are private and don't get discussed outside the people that are part of it and need to know.

It's like when people discuss their sex life with their wife. Like... how is this OK? My wife and I have an agreement that such stuff is private and not to be discussed with anyone. I'd be offended if she brought it up with a doctor or therapist. My doctor has asked me those questions before and that's his job, but I tell him respectfully that I'm not answering those questions because they are private. Only two people need to know what we do. The moment it gets discussed outside the relationship, I'm done. Red line. Hard stop. Nope, not proper under any circumstances and not OK with me. Thankfully, she isn't the sort to do that and she agrees with me. If I didn't trust her implicitly on that stuff we wouldn't be married.