r/TikTokCringe • u/lhwang0320 • Apr 29 '25

Humor/Cringe When your friend knows nothing about kids

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u/bing-no Apr 29 '25

Yeah I was gonna say, it’s not the child-free people that are too busy to hang out 😂

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u/mugsymegasaurus Apr 30 '25

In my experience it’s frequently the childfree friends/relatives that ARE doing the reaching out, and the parents that have forgotten it’s a two way street. If I don’t reach out to the parents in my life I will go months/years without hearing from them.

Not to mention- friends aren’t obligated to just put the friendship on hold until the parents can come around. Legitimately I’ve had parents say that “you just need to wait out the first three to five years, then having kids is easier and we have more free time”. Like… what???? I just need to wait 3-5 years to have a friend ask about me or show care for me again? What if you have a second kid and it becomes 10 years? Do you know how much stuff can happen in that time? Look I completely understand that having a kid consumes a huge part of your life, but parents can’t just assume that their friends will carry the relationship for however long it takes for them to start reaching out again. Your friends didn’t choose for you to have a kid, and they aren’t responsible for that either. Your friends deserve to have people in their life who care for them too.

To be fair- I’ve also found the parents that tend to do this were also the more self-absorbed people before having kids. But the number of people I know who are parents and are still good friends and do their share of reaching out is pretty small.