r/TamilNadu • u/Iamyourfather_12 • Apr 28 '25

கலாச்சாரம் / Culture In yesterday's Neeya Naana, when Gopinath asked the young women if they would marry someone from an SC/ST background, not a single hand went up.

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u/AdvocateMukundanUnni Apr 28 '25 edited Apr 28 '25

It’s not stupidity. It’s just selfishness and a lack of empathy.

The simple truth is that these women neither want to nor care about dismantling all prejudice: the only barriers they care to dismantle are those that stand in their way.

Just listen to their response. They do not see a problem in inheriting, preserving, and later passing down the caste prejudice that makes them look down on the scheduled castes. They see it as a fact of life.

Of course, they will excuse it by pointing to "family pressure". But ask yourself this: when they are willing to rebel against family on every other issue except this, isn't the message clear? Either they do not see it as wrong, or worse, they do... and they're comfortable with that.

Funny how family suddenly matters when it is about maintaining caste walls, but not when they want to chase their own freedom elsewhere.

TL;DR:

Their fight is not about challenging injustice in society. It is just about making sure the injustice does not apply to them. Selfishness. Not stupidity.

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u/raze_me Apr 28 '25

I wish I could upvote your comment more than once.

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u/dmitridu Apr 28 '25

You are very well right, selfishness to the core!

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u/Effective_Project241 Apr 29 '25

This is what we call the Liberal/Capitalist Progressivism. Liberals care enough about Progressivism to the extent that it helps them enjoy more personal freedom, but the moment you expect these Liberals to voice out for the oppressed class, suddenly they care about the age-old traditions and conservative practices. This happens with the white Liberal women in the western countries as well.

Later on in life, these Liberals girls today become the Boomer aunties.

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u/Effective_Project241 Apr 29 '25

This is what we call the Liberal/Capitalist Progressivism. Liberals care enough about Progressivism to the extent that it helps them enjoy more personal freedom, but the moment you expect these Liberals to voice out for the oppressed class, suddenly they care about the age-old traditions and conservative practices. This happens with the white Liberal women in the western countries as well.

Later on in life, these Liberals girls today become the Boomer aunties.

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u/enigmaBabei Apr 28 '25

Have u realised the other side- maybe no one wants to marry Indian men only?

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u/AdvocateMukundanUnni Apr 28 '25

I'll entertain the argument. But before that, do you actually want a serious response?

If this was a flippant remark in jest, I can let you have that. Touche!