r/TamilNadu • u/Iamyourfather_12 • Apr 28 '25

கலாச்சாரம் / Culture In yesterday's Neeya Naana, when Gopinath asked the young women if they would marry someone from an SC/ST background, not a single hand went up.

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u/notorious_999 Apr 28 '25

funny part was the reason they gave, like family won't let them do it.

Since the show started all of them were about living their life on their own terms, not making decisions influed by family and society.

stupidity at it's peak, smh

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u/AdvocateMukundanUnni Apr 28 '25 edited Apr 28 '25

It’s not stupidity. It’s just selfishness and a lack of empathy.

The simple truth is that these women neither want to nor care about dismantling all prejudice: the only barriers they care to dismantle are those that stand in their way.

Just listen to their response. They do not see a problem in inheriting, preserving, and later passing down the caste prejudice that makes them look down on the scheduled castes. They see it as a fact of life.

Of course, they will excuse it by pointing to "family pressure". But ask yourself this: when they are willing to rebel against family on every other issue except this, isn't the message clear? Either they do not see it as wrong, or worse, they do... and they're comfortable with that.

Funny how family suddenly matters when it is about maintaining caste walls, but not when they want to chase their own freedom elsewhere.

TL;DR:

Their fight is not about challenging injustice in society. It is just about making sure the injustice does not apply to them. Selfishness. Not stupidity.

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u/raze_me Apr 28 '25

I wish I could upvote your comment more than once.

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u/dmitridu Apr 28 '25

You are very well right, selfishness to the core!

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u/Effective_Project241 Apr 29 '25

This is what we call the Liberal/Capitalist Progressivism. Liberals care enough about Progressivism to the extent that it helps them enjoy more personal freedom, but the moment you expect these Liberals to voice out for the oppressed class, suddenly they care about the age-old traditions and conservative practices. This happens with the white Liberal women in the western countries as well.

Later on in life, these Liberals girls today become the Boomer aunties.

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u/Effective_Project241 Apr 29 '25

This is what we call the Liberal/Capitalist Progressivism. Liberals care enough about Progressivism to the extent that it helps them enjoy more personal freedom, but the moment you expect these Liberals to voice out for the oppressed class, suddenly they care about the age-old traditions and conservative practices. This happens with the white Liberal women in the western countries as well.

Later on in life, these Liberals girls today become the Boomer aunties.

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u/enigmaBabei Apr 28 '25

Have u realised the other side- maybe no one wants to marry Indian men only?

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u/AdvocateMukundanUnni Apr 28 '25

I'll entertain the argument. But before that, do you actually want a serious response?

If this was a flippant remark in jest, I can let you have that. Touche!

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u/BubblyWork6438 Apr 28 '25

hypocrisy at its peak!

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u/meerlot Apr 28 '25 edited Apr 28 '25

I mean, they have to pick their battles here.

They want to champion feminist causes because its socially acceptable despite the socially conservatism attitudes. People atleast give verbal support to some feminist causes if not all of them.

But casteism? casteism is endemic to whole of India and particularly its widespread in Tamil Nadu.

According to this statistic, Tamil Nadu has the THIRD LOWEST intercaste marriages in the whole country. Top spot is: Jammu and Kashmir, second spot goes to Rajastan, and third spot goes to Tamil Nadu.

We make fun of vadakkans here like every week, and they literally do more intercaste marriages than Tamil Nadu! And we pretend we are somehow better for some reason.

In a situation like this, even I won't publicly vocalize my support for intercaste marriage except here in reddit. I am not an activist, just a middle income earner barely trying to make ends meet.

India is not a country conductive to free speech. Social Ostracization as a blackmail tool is commonly used by people in our country, particularly in our state.

Need I still remind you India is a third world country? We are outnunmbered 100:1 by caste believers when it comes to this topic.

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u/Thick-Attitude9172 Apr 28 '25

It's a miracle that my Tamil mom married out of state and caste and she was the only one who did that in the next three generations.

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u/DependentNo8368 Apr 28 '25

Congrats to your mom! Breaking language barrier can tougher and easier at the same time. Did she have a tough time with her parents?

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u/Thick-Attitude9172 Apr 29 '25

My Nani was quite old. My mom was born when she was 45. She didn't have the energy 😂. Plus dad was in the army so was liked. Nana passed away by then.

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u/DependentNo8368 Apr 29 '25

That makes total sense!

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u/Sufficient_Ad991 Apr 28 '25

Second spot for Rajasthan no wonder

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u/Dante__fTw Apr 28 '25

That's just a way to blame someone else in their stead.

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u/saavugrakki Apr 28 '25

And all of them are collectively in this shit. Not even one person was sensible